Reconciled to God and One Another

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Ephesians 2:11-18, 2 Corinthians 5:18-20, Matthew 18:15-20, Colossians 1:19-23, 2 Corinthians 3:1-6

Since 2012, She Reads Truth has maintained a singular mission: to be women in the Word of God every day. Ten years later, our community includes “Shes” from across the globe, but our mission hasn’t changed.

Reading Scripture together is the centerpiece of what we do at She Reads Truth. As we spend time as a community reading This Is The Church, we encourage you to start by reading the daily Scripture on your  own. Then join us here to engage and encourage one another as we respond to what we’ve read. Each day for this series, we’ll include a brief summary of the reading along with a prompt for conversation.

Because the Church is a people reconciled to God in Christ, believers can also be reconciled to one another as evidence of the hope found in Him. 

Discussion Question: In light of today’s reading, how can you live out the truth that we are a persevering people in need of reconciliation?  

Take time to reflect on your Scripture reading and today’s question. Share what you are learning with others in the community in the comments.

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  1. Katherine Herrington says:

    Pray for the spirit to help us be forgiving and forgive those who do us wrong

  2. Chelsea Wilson says:

    Every relationship can be reconciled because of Christ. God forgave us for every sin when Christ died for our sins! If we are forgiven of every sin, then we as sinful people can forgive other sinful people. Forgiveness becomes sinful when we look at it from the biblical perspective, but when we add in what the world says: “we deserve this”, “we can’t forgive that”, “no one would blame you…” the head and heart begin to battle about which way is right. We are to simplify forgiveness, it doesn’t matter the sin, because Christ died for every single one of them!

  3. Cathy says:

    We all need to reconcile our differences ESPECIALLY those of us I think the UMC. It is what Jesus requires. I was so hurt and angry when I discovered we were disaffiliating but after much prayer I am at peace. I love those in the church where I served as lay leader. I simply disagree with their biblical interpretation. I will leave judgment where it belongs…with our father. And I trust Him not to waste a thing. He can use ALL of us who follow Him to reach others regardless of our beliefs. Proceeding in love was key in working through my grief.

  4. Anna Pearce says:

    A reminder that trying to keep peace and reconciliation with others is always whats best.

  5. Rachel Austin says:

    Because Christ has forgiven me of much, when I have conflict, I can bring an attitude of forgiveness.

  6. Rachel Austin says:

    Because Christ has forgiven me of much, when I have conflict, I can bring a

  7. Christy Rikard says:

    It helps to remember that we cannot expect perfection from others or put pressure on ourselves to be perfect. Grace should be given to others and ourselves.

  8. Hannah Brown says:

    Outwardly apologizing. Asking for forgiveness from our friends and from God

  9. Hannah Gilbert says:

    I need to work things out with people I have issues with rather than keeping silent. Keeping silent creates distance, while talking brings connection and reconciliation. Furthermore, many need for reconciliation with Christ helps remind me that I am no better than those around me

  10. Leslie says:

    I can pray for opportunities to share the gospel of reconciliation.

  11. Emma Simmons says:

    We can show the things God has done for us in hopes of bring them closer to God.

  12. Abigail B. says:

    I can live out the truth by extending grace to others when I perceive that someone else may have wronged me, because I myself am in need of reconciliation and also received grace. Also, by seeking reconciliation with others.

  13. Patsy Coghlan says:

    I can live out the truth to be quick to forgive those who trespass against me and be patient with them especially when I think of how God has forgiven me.

  14. Erica Chiarelli says:

    We are to bring others to God, however we can, whoever we can. Our lives must reflect Jesus!

  15. Jennifer Anapol says:

    I love that we are not only reconciled with God, but with those around us. Thankfully, at this time I can’t think of anyone who I need to reconcile with. ❤️ I will continue to pray and see if God beings anyone to mind.

  16. Melissa Brazier says:

    Praying for you. Forgiveness does come with boundaries and doesn’t always mean reconciliation. I am so sorry for your hurt and praying the Lord heal any brokenness related to your story.

  17. Saicha Crawford says:

    Hello She’s! I think it’s important for me to remember that I’m called to humility and apologizing when I hurt someone or make a mistake. Reconciliation is critical for the Church’s health!

  18. Stephanie Berling says:

    13 But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far off have been brought near by the blood of Christ. 14 For he himself is our peace, who has made us both one and has broken down in his flesh the dividing wall of hostility 15 by abolishing the law of commandments expressed in ordinances, that he might create in himself one new man in place of the two, so making peace, 16 and might reconcile us both to God in one body through the cross, thereby killing the hostility. 17 And he came and preached peace to you who were far off and peace to those who were near. 18 For through him we both have access in one Spirit to the Father. – Ephesians 2:13-18. These 6 verses stood out to me the most today. We are one in Christ. I think I was so focused on the vertical meaning of this, I get to stand before God because Jesus covered me, that I didn’t even realize there was a horizontal meaning to this. We are more than brothers and sisters. We are one. In one covenant. Covered by the blood of one savior. It just really changes how I view my church family. I usually have a safety wall up in large groups but I don’t need to because I am one with them.

  19. Shannon Lowry says:

    Praying for you Katie you got this ❤️

  20. Claire B says:

    I was deeply hurt by my former minister of 15 years for some Biblical differences many of us had with him. He left and that was a good thing. Reading the comments and scripture shows me that I haven’t truly forgiven him. It also reminds me that I am upset with UMC as a whole. I have prayed as to whether I stay or go and am waiting patiently for the Lords guidance for my husband and Me. But the forgiveness I will begin today. It isn’t bothering him one bit and it eats at me every time I hear his name or see his picture in our church. I will work on this.

    1. Tracey Gerard says:

      Praying for you, Claire. My husband and I are pasto

  21. Claire B says:

    Leslie, I too am 66. I cannot imagine your stress, your hurt, betrayal by you husband. Praying for you right now for peace and healing. I am not sure I could be as gracious as you so I am thankful for your lesson on forgiveness.

  22. Kimberly Ziehl says:

    Praying for you Leslie! What you’re personally going through is a great example of trying to have reconciliation.

  23. Katie Jorgensen says:

    Please pray that God gives me confidence and the ability to ask questions as I train in a new job.

  24. Amanda Browning says:

    I’m having difficulty with this one today. I suppose reconciliations can lighten the load one carries. Imagine all of the weight and burden you carry on a daily basis maybe even a grudge and that weighs heavy on your soul. I know personally I become withdrawn and anxious. This is not how God wants us to move forward as Christians. We must forgive and reconcile those burdens and grudges.

  25. Faith Magras says:

    By seeking God in all things and trusting God. We need God, we as human make mistakes and need God for heal and forgive us. We will never be perfect but can look to God in all situations.

  26. Adrianne says:

    I myself doubt a lot! I am a human who is not the perfect being that can be found in Jesus. So I need the help of the Lord to keep going in the right direction.

  27. Grayson Chatfield says:

    It’s not just our relationship with God that’s broken, if our relationships with each other. This is so convicting. May I extend the same mercy to others that God has extended to me. May I pursue right relationship with God and with others. Amen.

  28. Mercy says:

    I am cherishing the wisdom offered through your comments. I am sitting here thinking how blessed I am to be allowed to hear these priceless life lessons shared by these amazing counsels, in the presence of many godly women. Only By Grace. Some of your stories, people I know in person will never ever share. It’s too priceless to share. It takes a certain degree of trust. I am so thankful for your honesty and raw vulnerability so others can learn. I too admit that reconciliation is a journey that might take various measures of time to complete, a scrape might need a bandage, a broken bone might need 6 months or more to heal, and severe mental trauma/ptsd might take years. Pain is complex and unseen. But God sees (El Roi)! Hallelujah! God sees how downtrodden we are. Pain exposes weaknesses (count it all joy- harder said than done). May we manage to look to Jesus when we are bleeding by someone’s wrongdoing, having done all, when we are numb, having no capacity to do anything else. Just look to Jesus. He was also bleeding and abandoned by men and by God. The end result is He overcame to live again. I have hope and faith that in Jesus, we will overcome. He meets us where we are, and can set us free from any hurt (right now, hurt in the past or hurt in the future). The end of me is the beginning of Him. May we experience victory from the position of total surrender (to God), not by human strength, but by God’s strength. To those who believe, all things are possible (Mark 9:23). God will make a way. Be blessed and empowered dear sisters.

  29. Karen Valente says:

    God give me the fortitude to pursue people in need of reconciliation. I am a little bit shy, but I hope that I lead by example, the best of my ability, to show Christ like behavior and spread love out into the world.

  30. Gwineth52 says:

    Friends… A footnote to my post to Leslie Orozco…and to all Shes. I often wince when I see full names used, rather than first name only, or by preferred “nickname” (as I do). My concern is that personal privacy and protection not be inadvertently compromised. I trust in the collective She’s mutual, unwritten consent, to allow us to share & exchange comments candidly, honestly, assuredly. Maybe it’s just me, my age, my circumstance, or my naivety to be wary & cautious…But I feel the need to disclose my feelings for the good of the order. May we continue to approach His throne and this forum with grace & gratitude. Not judging or over-reaching. And as women in the word of God everyday, enable one another to enter this common space with open hearts & kind embrace & unyielding discretion. As Ambassadors in Christ. Selah.

  31. Gwineth52 says:

    Dear Leslie Orozco…Praying with all my being, listening to the depth & reach of the pain, you described within your home, marriage & family. Praying that you are able to center your heart; draw upon those you trust; seek godly counsel. Praying you will make haste & with His Abundant Love, pursue right & responsible actions. For your health. For your safety. For your protection. Physical. Emotional. Financial. Praying for you & with you & calling upon the power & might of God to enable & empower you in all goodness & grace. Praying that you remain confident, upright, established in faith. Praying you understand fully that true & lasting forgiveness & reconciliation rest not in you alone, but through a single, all-knowing, supreme being, our Savior, Chris Jesus. Praying also that you find this message & find comfort in what I’ve humbly offered. Thanks be to God.

  32. Terri Baldwin says:

    Jesus had reconciled us with his physical body through his death on the cross. We must keep our faithfulness to the end is essential to Christian life. We can’t pick and choose when we want to be faithful !

  33. Julianne Pictou says:

    I think it will be answered by our actions. They will know us by our love. Our example. A people in profession, spiritually continuing to challenge and grow. Yet, being of a different mind, a peculiar one. Maybe one that is not by popular demand. But bound in love.

  34. PamC says:

    So often here I find the Lord leading me, or showing me something that I’ve been struggling with, has the answer here in His Word & where to find it. In mid-June my sister really dealt me a heart blow. I’ve been really struggling with the pain of it. She has no clue. I also feel like the Lord has called me to be the light & salt here in my family. I could use some prayer, please.

  35. Leslie Orozco says:

    In the Church, we are commanded to demonstrate God’s love to the world by our love for one another. For some reason. Sometimes it seems to be harder to do this in a church family than with family members and friends. Church hurt is very real, but we must give forgiveness in order to be reconciled. Satan does the most he can to damage the Church from within. I also believe that forgiveness may not always lead to reconciliation. If we don’t forgive someone when we’re wronged, holding onto that unforgiveness doesn’t hurt the other person, but it will foster the roots of bitterness in our hearts. Then that other person is still hurting you. The other thing is boundaries. Being 66, going through an unexpected divorce. My spouse confessed to going to massage parlors and participating in “happy endings” with the girls there, most likely trafficked. He also admitted to sexually assaulting my housekeeper in the kitchen while I was at work. I’ve forgiven him for all these things, and am working on all the emotional healing that goes with that, especially as we served together in worship ministry while all of this was going on unknown to me. But that’s not all. He has also touched our granddaughter and the daughter of his best friend inappropriately, and has confessed to all that. I can forgive that, but the boundary issue is one of the reasons we divorced. Given pattern of his behavior, we can’t have him around my 5 grandkids. Unforgiveness in any of this would damage my heart and spirit. But the boundaries are necessary even with the forgiveness.❤️

  36. Leslie Orozco says:

    In the Church, we are commanded to demonstrate God’s love to the world by our love for one another. For some reason. Sometimes it

  37. Audren Bruszer says:

    I can live out the truth that we are a persevering people in need of reconciliation through remembering that Jesus loves and knows everyone who’s in Him SO deeply, regardless if I like them or not. Though at the same time remember that we are a broken people.

  38. Lexi B says:

    Michelle P- Hey I am self employed too! It’s been quite an adjustment and a bit lonely; but getting better as I pick up clients. I have been seeking out other Christians on the self employement journey; nice to know that you are on this path as well.

    Jo- I have friends who have drifted away from the church, and have seen how their hearts have been hardened agaisnt God because of injuries from other church members. It is sad to watch this. I pray I can be a light, show the love of Christ through my interactions with them and that they are reconcilled again with God.

    Bev- In the recent years, I got to experience walking out forgiveness and reconciliation. It is hard, especially when heart hurt is involved. But God, He pushed me toward it, wanting to fix a rift that had stayed open too long. When I could see that things were moving towards reconcillation, I hesitated a bit: I did not want to experience hurt again. I had to protect my heart. I prayed a lot; asking God for guidance. But God kindly told me that I do not need to self protect; just trust that this is from Him. So I started to trust. It took a bit for the walls to come completely down, but they finally did. It is nice to have that friendship return. It’s like a broken bone that has healed- stronger than before. And God gave me another gift: I can barely remember the hurt the other party caused. It’s as if the memory of their offenses has been wiped away.
    I understand that some relationships, reconcillation is not possible; only forgiveness. But if reconcillation is what the Lord wants, He will make a way.

  39. Micki Goodell says:

    We’ve been through a similar situation. What we’ve discovered is forgiveness is not a one time thing but a position of the heart. We had a good reason to be hurt, but when we gave it to Jesus, we gave up our right to be hurt and we trust Him to take care of it for us. It’s not my hurt anymore. Whenever the enemy tries to stir it up, I have to pray, forgive again, and give it to Jesus again, and again, and again.

  40. Micki Goodell says:

    We’ve been through a similar situation. What we’ve discovered is forgiveness is not a one time thing but a position of the heart. We had a good reason to be hurt, but we gave it up

  41. Dorothy says:

    Next the Ephesians verses I had written I’m ELATED CHRIST “bridged the gap” between Gentiles and Jews!!! NOW I HAVE ETERNAL LIFE!!! Thank You Lord Jesus, THANK YOU.
    Then next to the Colossians verses I had written God is so awesome, so unbelievable, so amazing, so loving, so grace-giving (I think I meant gracious but couldn’t think of the word at the time), and so forgiving. GOD AND CHRIST AND THE HOLY SPIRIT are first and will be first in my life. Thank You Christ and God for allowing me to be holy and blameless thru Christ’s blood being shed on the cross. I will continue to believe and stand firm in the truth of the resurrection and Holy Spirit. Amen.
    Sisters be blessed and go SHOUT GOD’S GLORY everywhere you go today.

  42. Jennifer Loves Jesus says:

    Reconciliation. The barriers to God are removed, broken down, and washed away by the blood of Jesus. Freed from the law which demands impossible perfection. Freed from the wrong side of war when I was God’s enemy. God is a peacemaker, but we must choose sides. There is no middle ground in this war. I am either near to God or far from Him. It is not possible to be both at the same time. So, I stay near. And I pray for those who are far from Him. Only He can save, His right hand extends far enough into enemy territory declaring friendship and making righteous those who want to be saved. Jesus was the surrogate sacrifice, all guilt and punishment laid upon Him. There is no harmony between love and wrath. I cannot understand God’s holiness, yet I experience it through friendship with Him. This message of reconciliation is written on my heart and displayed in my life. The result is peace. Hope. “Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, since God is making His appeal through us. We plead on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God.” (2 Corinthians 5:20) Selah. Maranatha. Amen.

  43. Rachel B. says:

    I’m learning to start every day at the cross. Every morning, I reflect on my desperate need for a Savior, and I’m reminded of all the ways I have fallen short of the matchless glory of God (not in a shame-filled way, but in a way that leads me to falling on my knees and calling on my Savior). This leads me to the cross, in complete awe that I have been forgiven, that He has cast my sins as far as the East is from the West, and He redeems me and SEES me as a new creation- fully forgiven, fully loved, fully known. When I realize the glory of my own reconciliation to God through His sacrifice, I find it a lot harder to avoid reconciliation with someone who has hurt me. If I deny forgiveness to someone who has sinned against me, while knowing my own debt has been paid in full, I am denying the power of the cross in my own life and judging someone else’s sin as greater than my own. EVERY DAY needs to start at the foot of the cross, to remind us that forgiveness is a precious gift that Jesus freely gave, and now it’s our turn to give that same gift away as well.

  44. Mari V says:

    It’s because of Christ in me and only because of Christ that I am where I am today. As a few of you here have journeyed with me you know it’s been a difficult road. I wouldn’t be where I am today if it weren’t for my Jesus and the prayers of many of you here. I am much stronger because of Christ in me. Please continue to pray as I’m studying to improve myself in hopes that I can move up in a better position and pay. It’s a little scary and many times I feel inadequate but I have to give it a try. Please pray for both my children as they push forward through some of their difficulties themselves. There’s so many obstacles around them but they push forward in a relationship with Jesus and I have to remind myself that that’s what matters, that they love Jesus.

  45. C.J. Carter says:

    We all need forgiveness. Yesterday we learned how we have to daily confess our sins that we commit against God. We hurt God and cause pain to God without that being our focused intention daily. Of course other Humans are going to do the same against us. It’s important that we “forgive those who trespass against us” as well, if we are going to ask the Holy Father for forgiveness ourself. By showing forgiveness to others, we are acting as Gods witness to others.

    This concept is hard for me. And something I was faced with last night (Gods timing on Bible Studies never ceases to amaze me). Forgiveness is not easy when you feel hurt. But we have a Father who loves us. Take your hurt and your pain to Him and ask him for the power to forgive.

  46. Penny Renfro says:

    Amen Kelly

    Bev, I understand. This struggle is real for me too.

  47. Penny Renfro says:

    Amen Kelly

  48. Rachel says:

    Strong’s concordance defines “reconciliation: as follows:
    to reconcile completely
    to reconcile back again
    bring back a former state of harmony

    This can be SO HARD! Especially when the other party refuses to own their part in the disruption of harmony, or if opposing beliefs/world views have taken us down entirely different paths. But I can still do my part to “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” (Rom 12:18) I can also stay in my lane and focus more on my own humility and sanctification than having imaginary conversations about the lack of those in someone else (ouch). God will not hold me accountable for someone else’s actions or behavior – nor do I think He will excuse my ungodly behavior or lack of obedience because of someone else’s behavior. Pretty sure I am way more quick to justify my thoughts and words than He will be (SO thankful for the cross!).

  49. Jordyn C says:

    I think it’s important to note that while reconciliation is always the end goal, in certain circumstances it may not be healthy or safe. In those situations, with the Lord’s help, I think it’s possible to forgive in your heart the hurt and pain even if reconciliation with that person is not possible or best.

  50. Annie says:

    I can be quick to forgive others and not hold anything against anyone. I want to share the love of Christ first and foremost.

  51. Rebecca says:

    After reading all the comments today it brought to mind someone I continue to hold a grudge against. She doesn’t even hurt me directly but it’s the pain I see she causes to her stepdaughter and my sister (her mother in law). I have to remember that it’s kind of an ongoing thing, this reconciliation. I’ll pray for forgiveness and understanding and lift her up to God. Things go well for a time then something happens to stir up negative feelings again. So it’s a reminder that I need to approach the throne of grace with confidence again and again, and keep the faith that He will lead me to the path of forgiveness.

  52. Ceredwyn Holt says:

    Learning to be compassionate and willing to forgive .

  53. Michelle Patire says:

    @Jo– Amen. I also know many who are confused about their faith being raised in the church and then chose to leave. I pray that God would continue to compel them towards His great love for them. I know He sees much more than me.

    I wonder today if I still seek reconciliation about what happened at my last job. I did all I could to be reconciled with that person, but she did not want to hear me. I prayed and sought God – who eventually had me removed from that environment. This has happened twice since moving home with my parents, where someone at work has treated me so badly (while I try to love and be at peace with them), then the Lord tells me I did my part and it’s time to leave. Now, I am self employed. I know I make mistakes like they do. I know Christ died for me and them just the same. Lord, I pray for healing. I forgive these women for not recognizing the power of their words/actions- and how they hurt me. Please help me to have a humble heart toward them. They are loved by You, as well. May they know how greatly we are loved by You, God. May they remember what You have showed them. Please give us all healing and heart change in the way You best see fit. In Jesus’s name.

  54. Debbie -Pursued by Him says:

    “For he himself is our peace, who has made the two groups one and has destroyed the barrier, the dividing wall of hostility, by setting aside in his flesh the law with its commands and regulations. His purpose was to create in himself one new humanity out of the two, thus making peace, and in one body to reconcile both of them to God through the cross, by which he put to death their hostility. He came and preached peace to you who were far away and peace to those who were near.”

    Jesus preached peace. Peace to people who hated each other, but both reconciled to Him. I pray for that peace today for our country, our leaders, the hurting in Chicago, my church family, my relatives.

  55. Searching says:

    BEV – I agree with KELLY (NEO) and also that forgiveness (for me at least) plays a big part in reconciliation, that I must forgive and be forgiven before reconciliation can move forward. And sometimes reconciliation is not the goal on both sides of the situation – and remember that I still have to forgive, repent and move forward.

    Back to the past couple of days –
    I prayed through Monday’s requests and will be making a list to continue praying for these needs. Jesus says in Matthew 18:20 “For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.” NKJV. And we know from the comments that there are definitely far more than 2 or 3 of us gathering here. Let us pray.

    Yesterday, something RACHEL said (In a world that celebrates us just as we are and says there’s nothing wrong with us) got me to thinking. The Bible is God’s word and will guide us every step if we will choose it as our guide, our standard for living. The world has standards/guidelines for pretty much everything – buildings, food, sports, driving and so on – that are honored (by most people) and result in punishment if not followed. And yet the world tells us (and sadly, many listen) that there is not a guideline for our lives, our very souls, and ignores the reality of eternal punishment and separation from God. May these come to know the saving grace and love of God, to study His word, seek His wisdom and follow Him.

  56. Caroline Bridges says:

    I had to look up the definition for reconciliation. I don’t understand what they mean by this. I got thrown off by the word reconciliation.

  57. P Blundell says:

    Reconciliation is something I have a hard time with. I hold grudges for way too long. Today’s reading really has my heart softening and humbling itself to come to God and figure out a solution for me holding grudges.

  58. Sydney Smith says:

    Love so many comments pointing us towards being humble and looking for that peace with reconciliation. Lord help me examine my heart each day to be sure I approach others humbly and always remember I am your ambassador, what should be will be with you at the helm. Thank you for loving us enough to help us reconcile with others, but more importantly your forgiveness and reconciliation with us.

  59. Kenya Rafferty says:

    In this season of learning to minister to my family through word and action – I have to remember that humble reconciliation is part of that. It’s easy with the little one and hard with the big one. The reminder in 2 Corinthians 3:5 that my ADEQUACY IS FROM GOD can help remind me that when I am feeling hardened against her, that none of what I am capable of comes from me – only from God.

  60. Denise RICHIE says:

    Really spoke to my heart❤️

  61. Denise RICHIE says:

    2 Corinthians 3:1-6 really touched my heart. It reminded me that even though I can easily fall into believing that reconciliation is my doing, it is actually from God. So for me, giving up my pride and being humble is my first step. Allowing God to work through me is thd second step. I sometimes forget that I am a messenger for God, even in reconciliation, so today’s reading

  62. Danielle B says:

    If God created a way for me to be reconciled with Him and I am, then how bold would I be to not be willing to reconcile with others. Hurt is real and must be felt, but sitting in one’s hurt leads to a heart if bitterness. When I struggle to be reconciled to others may I seek God’s help in letting go of the hurt so I don’t in turn become bitter and ruin his testimony in my life.

  63. Angie Mills says:

    [1] BE HUMBLE. Remember that we are all in need of reconciliation. When approaching someone to reconcile with them, be humble. Remember that, except for the Lord, you may be in the same state as they are. [2] BE LOVING. The purpose of reconciliation is to display the everlasting, neverending love of Christ. Nothing will separate us from the love of Christ — nothing that we do or nothing that is done to us. Christ is always with us. We must show this same kind of love to others in our relationships. Even when a friend deeply hurts or offends us, we must be willing to forgive and reconcile with them. Christ has forgiven us so much more and has reconciled us to Himself. [3] BE ALERT. Watch for ways that you may be contributing to divisions instead of unity and reconciliation. When the Lord reveals these to you, repent and do what He prompts you to do to seek unity and reconciliation with believers. [4] STAND FIRM. Unfortunately in this fallen world, there are times when reconciliation is not possible. When you have sought reconciliation from someone in a humble, loving manner and they refuse to be reconciled or they refuse to seek Christlikeness and instead continue in their sin, you must stand firm on the Word of God and treat that person as one who needs salvation. This does not give us a license to hate them or deride them. This means that we must show them Christ’s love in a way that hopefully wins them to Christ. [5] PRAY. We must always pray in everything. Relationships are so complex and we usually only see them from our own point of view. We must ask the Lord to give us wisdom and understanding when seeking reconciliation with another person.

  64. Judy says:

    I think that knowing God is always with us, time and reflection help in reconciliation.

  65. Stormi Messmer says:


  66. Caroline Kelly says:

    I think I need to remember not only reconciliation with God, but the beauty of seeking reconciliation with others. Oftentimes acknowledging my wrongdoing to others is hardest for me. Give me a heart of humility and a well tuned conscience to own up to my wrongdoing today, not just later in prayer, but in the moment to who I wrong.

  67. Aimee D-R says:

    Showing love and compassion even when we have different views. Seeing everyone as God’s creation and knowing He longs for all of our salvation

  68. Charlie says:

    “For the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life.”

    This one just jumped out at me today. “The letter kills” — legalism kills — “but the Spirit gives life.”

    We are given new life, and it is our job to share that love abundantly — not through legalism and adherence to our church-y ways, but through love, compassion, and empathy.

    Lord, let me be an instrument of your peace.

  69. Kristen says:

    On the podcast this week, Racheal talked about the astonishing forgiveness she has received because of Jesus. She talked about forgiving others. Please listen to this episode. In fact, her words are still in my head. I actually want to listen to some of the podcast again. God bless you all today! Still thinking of some of the prayer requests from the other day and praying.

  70. Kathy Winstead says:

    I agree entirely! Very well said.

  71. Trish Leverett says:


  72. Kelly (NEO) says:

    BEV – reconciliation is a journey and it sounds like you are moving in the right direction! When the hurt feelings are stirred up, look at them as opportunities to pray for the other party’s welfare. Speak God’s words of blessing. Spend time in lament too for the hurt is real and God can help heal your heart and restore love. Trust the process and continue to seek peace.

    The Ephesians passage just makes my heart sing. GOD made the way for me. Jesus’ blood is what makes me His child. I have a “zero balance” in my account – my debt has been completely paid – I have been reconciled, made an equal member of God’s covenant people.

  73. Bev says:

    I was really hurt and offended by some church friends and leadership, we’ve talked through and prayed through, and drawn lines in moving towards reconciliation. But it’s really hard if you don’t see those people anymore, when you hear things it stirs up old (not good) feelings….so any advice on reconciliation from a distance, or just for yourself, so that you can walk free?

  74. Jo says:

    I lingered on the verse in Colossians that warns against drifting away from the hope of our faith in the Gospel. I know of several Christians who have drifted away from their faith over the last couple of difficult years. It’s interesting that God has called us to a ministry of reconciliation to those as well as those who have never believed. My prayer is that in living out my faith God may cause jealousy (the right sort!) to rise up in them as they remember what they had and then to return to Him. Always point to Jesus, it’s all about Him, hallelujah!