Fallen and Redeemed Work

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Genesis 3:17-19, Ecclesiastes 2:18-26, Romans 8:19-23, Ecclesiastes 9:9-10, 1 Corinthians 10:31, Colossians 3:23, Philippians 2:12-16

I was once a well-oiled working machine, churning out articles, speaking at conferences, ministering within my capacity and out of my weaknesses and strengths. While I’d never envisioned myself as an unmarried woman, I found fullness and contentment in the plot God had given me to tend.

Then I got married. And moved. And moved again. I’m no longer in my home, or church, or comfort zone. I still don’t really know anyone here, and we haven’t found a local church home in the D.C. area yet. We feel displaced.

Meanwhile, all the work that’s been done in me and through me is suddenly no longer for me. I can’t write about singleness anymore. I’ve begun to see others picking up the banner I laid down for the gift of marriage—and I’ve resented myself for losing it. My heart echoes King Solomon’s words:

“I hated all my work that I labored at under the sun because I must leave it to the one who comes after me. And who knows whether he will be wise or a fool? Yet he will take over all my work that I labored at skillfully under the sun. This too is futile” (Ecclesiastes 2:18–19).

There is this sadness in me that I cannot shake. The earthly identity I worked hard to build, and tried my best to bear faithfully, is no longer mine to carry. Those days of fruitful ministry feel very far behind me across the chasm of this difficult year. The enemy loves to taunt me, to tell me I’ve wasted and been wasted, that all those words and thoughts are now lost. It’s hard to trust that my previous work has not been done in vain, though I know it was never mine to begin with. It was always His.

I dreamt of this time for years, didn’t I? I longed to be married. Why then is it so hard to reconcile the work I once did with the work I’m called to now? I agonize over how to spend the eleven-hour days stretching from the still-dark hours through sunset when my husband returns. I sweep the kitchen floor, wash the towels, and put fresh flowers in the vase, growing weary and resentful of all I’ve lost, straining to remember that I’ve also gained. Happy as my husband and I are together, happy as I am to be called his wife, this place in life is still not our true home. It isn’t supposed to be.

Today I do four loads of laundry. I sweep the kitchen floor. I write. I text Nate and our friends to tell them I love them, that I’m praying for them. I heed King Solomon’s words: “Whatever your hands find to do, do with all your strength” (Ecclesiastes 9:10). But in my struggle as a new stay-at-home wife, I remember that work is still work, no matter the title, no matter how blessed. God explained this to Adam at the fall, that the work of his hands would be hard from then on (Genesis 3:17). And it still is, for all of us. It will be until the day in Glory when pain in all its forms is no more (Revelation 21:4).

Sometimes the days drag on, the work feels endless. I can’t sort through the mountain of to-dos quickly enough, and yet it feels like I’m searching for things to do with my hands. But this is the plot to which I am called today: this home, this house, this husband. It is a life both better and harder than I imagined, and it’s being redeemed by God with every light and heavy step along the way. “For it is God who is working in [us] both to will and to work according to his good purpose” (Philippians 2:13).

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  1. Ada McCloud says:

    Different stages. Different struggles. Different joy. Same pain.

  2. Crystal Laiben says:

    As a stay at home mom and wife to a Methodist pastor, I completely feel this. First, I had an identity as a children’s minister. Then I left that job and we moved to rural Kentucky as my husband began his ministry. We’ve since moved again and though we have the church he pastors, I still feel displaced, friendless, and wandering. My work that I do running the home and schooling our children sometimes feels “less than” when compared to what I had been doing and I worry that the ministry I had worked so hard to build up is languishing without me. I’m learning to trust God more though, as I give all of my daily work to him and I see that what I am doing now is just as important because it is also for God.

  3. Margaret W says:

    One day my 18yo daughter asked me, “Mom, I don’t mean this disrespectfully, but what DO yo do all day?” OUCH! I homeschooled her and her 4 siblings until high school, except for the youngest, who went to public school when her dad walked out after years of refusing to support the family. I’m busy managing to find caregivers for her adult disabled brother. I have given and given to domestic violence victims, only to be betrayed by the one on whom I invested the most. Some days, I can barely breathe from the trauma and responsibilities I face in a place I never expected to find myself—single and responsible for the college education of 4 children and the lifetime support of one who will never support himself but who dreams only of joining the army. Oh, yeah—I spend a lot of time in trauma therapy. And yet, I feel like I’m “just a SAHM.” I AM in full time ministry—#£>*%—(pardon my French, but I don’t know any inoffensive words to describe my feelings.) I understand my daughter’s question, but I’m tired of living in a world which values what I DO when I can’t label it in a nice little box. Perhaps this post should be my resume. If I had time for a paying job, that is.

  4. Caitlan Reese says:

    This was so encouraging to me! I have been a teacher for 9 years, but will not return to the classroom this fall. I am battling stage 4 cancer. I loved my life SO MUCH, but am coming to terms with a very different one these days. Grieving the loss of my identity and lifestyle makes me feel selfish, but I know that God will pull me through whatever He calls me to do. Thank you for this encouraging post!

  5. Krysta Orona says:

    Finding contentment in the dragging bored hours of the day, where chores don’t seem important or the kids are not in need of something… That’s where I feel the most restless. Like, I should be doing something now… Praying? Reading? Cleaning? Cooking?
    What would happen if I just…. Be? I shudder to find out.

  6. Ashley Hoffman says:

    This is a passage I didn’t know I needed to read. I often feel out of place in my work at home. I felt like being in the office I had purpose and was vastly more productive. People knew me and sought me out for conversation, help, and more. At home the only thing that seeks me out in the cat and when he’s home, my partner. But God is still speaking, still moving, and still being Good in my life. I need to have peace and rest in this truth.

  7. Virginia Mhasvi says:

    This was such a much needed encouragement. If we are the Lord’s, our work is never in vain. No matter if it feels mundane or tiring. We are working for the Lord…
    Super encouraging reminder.

  8. Sarah Beth Strong says:

    I just graduated college and moved on my own to my first big job and this morning is my first Sunday in a new city, trying a church on my own. Singleness, moving, losing touch with the ministry I had built in my last home & nerves as I try out a new church and find my new church. I needed to read this and be reminded of this. These words echo so true and are so precious to me. Thank you.

  9. Mariah S. says:

    Just want to encourage the wives out there that it’s OKAY to be a wife/mom and still find purpose in WORK outside the home. If the stay at home thing isn’t filling you up, it’s OKAY to go back to work! It’s okay to do work in a field you’re passionate about. God put that passion and calling in your heart. You’re not bound to the home just because you got married.

  10. Nicole R says:

    This is so perfectly written. When I read this I cried. All the feelings I experienced, it’s like you put them all on the page. It is good to remember and hold tight to what God is doing in each season. Thank you for your faithful witness.

  11. Amy A says:

    DC can really be a challenging place in so many ways. I would commend to you Church of the Advent, where we found a deeply loving and faithful home for many years.

  12. Jessica Kamin says:

    Thank you for sharing your struggles and wisdom. I completed a PhD seven years ago and have since chosen to stay home with my four kids, and have started homeschooling this year. I struggle sometimes to quiet the inner accusations that I’ve wasted my potential. Even though I hold firmly to the decisions we made along the way and feel that this is where God’s put me to work right now, it’s tempting to get discouraged by the mundane tasks.
    When we ladies share the complex blessings of each season with each other, it helps to dispel the lie that a different ‘plot’ to work would be easier. And clearing that lie out helps us to put our hands heartily to the work He has for us today.

  13. Melissa Graves says:

    Churchmouse, I’m catching up on the readings for this week, so I’m a few days behind. I always jump to your comments because of your wit and wisdom that seems always to apply to my own circumstances and life situations. Your comments today were no exception. We all have challenges to face, regardless of our age or stage in our walk with Christ. And He is available to us for strength, wisdom, hope and guidance in order to navigate our way safely home. Thank you, once again, for these reminders, which served to encourage my heart and soul to continue to fight the good fight of faith!

  14. Melissa Mcronney says:


  15. Alanna Reger says:

    I don’t know if you will ever see this comment, nor do I know how long ago you wrote this devotion. On a chance that you might see this and are near enough, please come visit McLean Bible Church. It has been our home church in the DC area for three years now. Thank you for these words you wrote. They resonate with me: a fellow stay at home mom.

  16. April Love says:

    Thank you lovely ladies for your kind words of comfort & encouragement, and for you le prayers x

  17. Melissa Perez says:

    Wow! This was timely for me today! 2.5 years into marriage and the devotional took the words right out of my mouth. So thankful for my husband but some days I get caught up in the “house work”. But I’m thankful marriage is ‘work’ gifted to us by God!

  18. Anne Jones says:

    Please forgive my typos from this morning. It should have said than you Churchmouse. And SRT community.

  19. Natalie says:

    I totally feel this. In the 8 years my husband and I have been married, I have changed jobs 5 times and we’ve moved across the country away from friends and family for his career. It’s so easy to get burned out and hold a grudge waiting for it to be *my* turn. But I wouldn’t trade our life for anything and I know we’re exactly where God wants us to be. We’re getting ready to move again, and I’m praying God continues to show me where I fit. It’s so much easier than trying to claim space on my own.

  20. Michelle says:

    I really needed to read this today. Thank you so much for your writing, Lore.
    I have been in a very similar season for quite some time now. Going on 2 years. I was in full time ministry, and God called me out of it without a real solid reason other than to rest. I had recently gotten married, which I believe has been such a huge blessing. But for a while it was difficult because I felt like I was somehow giving up on ministry although I was trying to obey God’s calling of surrender.
    So here I am 2 years removed from resigning, still no church home, and feeling “unsettled.” We don’t know where my husband will end up getting a new job, and where I can serve/find a job. It’s been difficult to find purpose in folding laundry and doing dishes… but I trust that God’s timing is perfect, and that He’s glorified even in the small tasks that he’s bestowed on me as a stay at home wife. Thank you for the reminder this morning. I was not expecting to be met with such a relatable devotion this morning. God is good.

  21. Elaine Clark says:

    I’m so incredibly thankful for the honest transparency of your words! May we all work hard for what God has called us to now and always!

  22. Laura Smail says:

    I just want to encourage you, Lore, that your change in marital status does not necessarily need to change your ministry. Singles need to hear from married women who have gone through an extended period of singleness before finding a husband. It gives us hope. Please don’t stop reaching out to singles just because you are now married. Your encouragement is still very much needed.

  23. MARTHA HIX says:

    ❤️ Thank you Churchmouse for all your beautiful insight and wisdom. I too have more years behind me than before me.
    I love reading all your comments and am so thankful for this community.
    Happy Thanksgiving to you all.

  24. Churchmouse says:

    The Scripture reference alluded to (regarding the holding up of arms) comes from Exodus 17:12-13. This is what is accomplished by intercession and encouragement for one another. It is indeed a soothing balm, an empowering oil. Thankful you came to my aid.

  25. Churchmouse says:

    Dear friends, how you warmed my heart with your kind and encouraging responses to my post yesterday. Though my circumstances have not changed, you certainly lightened the burden. I felt you holding my arms up so that I might yet continue to press on. You were His gift to me, a little light in this darker season I am in. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I am praying your kindness forward – in my prayers for all of you. Ephesians 1:16-20.

  26. Kara says:

    I find it to be a tough balance of “doing it all for the glory of God” and losing my identity to my work. Praying on this today.

    1. Samantha Rogers says:

      I am in the same boat Kara! Recently took a new job doing the same work, but being in the new space has me feeling displaced in a way. It’s hard to want to keep up the same pace as my old job while navigating all the nuances of the new job. Maybe we work for the glory of God, but we also rest for the glory of God and regard ourselves as enough no matter what we accomplish, for the glory of God!

  27. Kenna Johnson says:

    This was such a great reminder this morning. To do everything for the Lord and give Him all the glory. I’ve been struggling with a job that I don’t like and finding a new one. It’s been months, but over these months God has been teaching me to be content, have patience, and peace. We are working for the Lord whether it’s at home, at our jobs, hanging out with friends… He is in us and working through us to better His kingdom! I’m so thankful for this mornings scripture reading and devotional. Happy Thanksgiving sistas! If you have a special prayer request shoot me a reply, would love to pray and lift it up to God for you.

  28. Kelly Salter says:

    These words and the scripture in Ecclesiastes put into words my feelings after stepping away from children’s ministry at our church. It was the right decision and comes with so many blessings but still a struggle with the identity shift. I always felt like a terrible person that I struggled to support the team that took over but I realize after reading this it is the result of sin and fallen work. Thanks for sharing what I could say relate too

  29. Sherry says:

    Thank you for this devotion SRT and thank you for your words this morning Churchmouse. I especially needed to hear these words today “But God does not want us to live life with closed fists. He wants us to live with open hands.” God, help me to live life with open hands.

  30. Diana Degnan says:

    The Lord brought us into adoption and then we adopted a son. He has been home for 3.5 years now. Our love and attachment is growing everyday. It is very hard for him to have me gone for very long. I say no to many things now because I trust this time invested in this relationship will be fruitful. That my previous ministry and social life was a season and now I’m in this one. I wait and trust, and miss my old life sometimes.

  31. Anne Jones says:

    Praying for you April that God will give you peace and an understanding of this season. Thank you circumcised for sharing your wisdom. Prayers for all of the DRY community. Have a blessed Thanksgiving

  32. Kristen says:

    Such a great reminder when rereading these Scriptures. Do everything as unto the Lord. If I truly do that, wow, that should change my attitude and grumpiness. It can be tiring when you feel no one pulls their weight or cares to help. I don’t like my requests to be dismissed. However, if I do these things as unto the Lord, that takes my focus off of me and my feelings. If people don’t change, I have to change how I respond. Thankful that God’s Words in Scripture can guide us in all things!

  33. April Love says:

    Eight years ago we left our home and moved across the world. New country, new culture, new people. I went from someone with a community, a church, a career, friends and a sense of belonging to intense loneliness and social isolation. No community, no church, no friends, no belonging. I do have a job now, which I like very much. But I am still very homesick and I just want to leave this country and go home. My mental health is in tatters, my marriage is tense and I’ve given up on myself. I would like to say I’m happy clappy in the face of misery but that would be a lie. I cannot begin to fathom what God is doing let alone why; it’s unknowable. Surely God has not brought me here simply to crush my soul?

    1. Amy W says:

      I’ll be praying for you, April. I pray that God sends you a friend and that you would find Him as your closest friend during this very difficult time. Even when we don’t see what He is doing, He is working – He is for you and your husband!

    2. Linda J says:

      I’m sorry that this season in your life is difficult and confusing. God is always faithful and works all things for our ultimate good. Not easy to see and feel where you are today. But somehow it’s more true in our saddest moments. God loves you so much and will bring you through. Hold on and pour out your fears to Him. Praying for you.

    3. Kenna Johnson says:

      Praying for you April! I pray that through the hard times and brokenness you are feeling that He would bring you near to Him. You are in His hand always and He loves you dearly. I pray you would press into Him, read His truths out loud and worship Him. He will never leave you. I pray that God would reveal the direction He is taking you and that He would give you peace and contentment while you’re in this season of life. I pray that God will bring you a friend who you will see His light through them. That that friend will love and care for you and God would use them to speak to you. You are loved April, God has a plan!!! I’ve felt crushed before, but I’ve learned when I’ve felt brokenness it’s because God is using this brokenness to always build me back up to who He has called me to be and to be closer to Him.

  34. Tricia C says:

    Thank you Churchmouse, for your words of wisdom. May I be with open hands ready to receive what the Lord has given me in each day, week, stage of my life. For our time here really is only for a little while in the great scheme of things. May it be used for His glory, to further His kingdom.
    Happy Thanksgiving!

  35. Churchmouse says:

    “Fleeting days.” Yes Scripture speaks truth. Time goes by fast and so we try to grasp every moment tightly, every season and the work that comes with it. We rightly want to please God in it all, to live according to His purpose. But God does not want us to live life with closed fists. He wants us to live with open hands. How can we receive a new gift from Him if we don’t? Each stage of life brings its challenges and its blessings but it is for a season. God desires for us to grow with Him and always towards Him. This necessitates that life be fluid and moving. And yet we are to be still and know that He is God in each season, at each stage. I have more years of this life behind me than ahead of me and my thoughts often turn to my legacy. As my people gather around the table this Thanksgiving I am glad my main investment was in them. Each one is a believer and I am so thankful. Yet each one is not without struggle in their season of life, as I am in mine. Three generations trying to live according to His purpose, with each journey unique. Each having had to let go of one season to be open to the next. Hands open, though sometimes reluctantly at first, for what God has planned. At all times, hands that hold His. Dear SRT sisters, may we learn to be content and grateful and faithful. May we look at our present season with hope for He has placed us here for His good purpose and He will see us through. Whether we are busy or not, whether we are working in our career of choice or not, whether we are living in our favorite city or not, whether we are married or not, whether our bank accounts are full or not, whether we have accomplished our dreams or not, may we trust in Him who first reached out to hold our hand. He never lets go. These are fleeting days but there is an eternity that awaits. We have a living Hope. Let us open our fists to His latest gift. We can trust that it is good.

    1. Rosemarie Clair says:

      Oh still so good and true. Hope this Thanksgiving finds you well. Grateful for you and SRT who brought us all together. ♥️

    2. Ashley P. says:

      Churchmouse, thank you for sharing this— God used your description of holding his hand to touch me deeply, as that’s actually been something on my mind lately…thank you for your willingness to speak what the Lord puts on your heart. And praise God, who holds our hand and never lets go. ❤️

    3. Candi Salenieks says:


  36. Aries Wang says:

    Thanks for the sharing! Enduring the least spectacular daily struggles in which we find identity hazy and fluid is not less of a challenge than major life crisis. But the word of life always reassures us about who we are meanwhile enabling us to embrace change, although with inevitable groaning and tears that remind us that we are humans with limitations yet dearly loved by a unlimited God.

  37. Haley White says:

    Thank you for this!

  38. Kari says:

    Lori, this was the saddest post I’ve read on SRT! I am so sorry for this difficult transition period you are going through. I do hope things have gotten easier since your wrote this. Although I can’t relate to this one, I feel so much pain for you. Prayers will continue to come your way!

  39. Calista says:

    I hope you’ve found a church by now! Just in case you haven’t, give Monterey Church a try! It’s in Warrenton, VA, I believe. I can relate to what you’ve gone through. I don’t know what to do with myself sometimes and I fill the space with food or tv or both. Thanks for that verse in Romans!!

  40. Jenny says:

    @loreferguson thank you for your words. They really resonated with me. I am in a similar season. I have gone through school, gotten a masters degree in education, taught for 3 years and am now….at home. No kids. As a military wife, my life sometimes seems at the beck and call of the Air Force. I’m at home now because we are planning for 2 moves this year. And so, like you wrote, I do laundry and check my endless to do list, but also seem to be looking for work to do with my hands- such a strange place to be when it seems there is so much to do and yet you feel frantic to be busy and productive! To be purposeful. Thanks for the reminder that this place, too, is a called position. A verse that God spoke to me in this season is 1 cor 7:17 “17 Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.” Where we are is where we’re called, and it is a divine place- just like the other places we’ve been.

  41. Mems says:

    This is a lesson for my next season of life. I’ve been unwell with M.E for a couple of years, managing to just about hold down a part time job, but no energy for housework. My husband has been working hard full time plus tending to the house. We have a baby on the way in August, and moving house in the next month or two. I will be stopping work and have been dealing with feelings of guilt that I will not be contributing financially for a while. Actually, I wonder whether God has ordained this time for me to rest and heal, but also to focus on housework first, that will be my job, so my dear husband can rest when he comes home in the evenings, and once baby is born, spend his time with his son/daughter. It always amazes me how God knows exactly what our family needs. Thank you for this reminder today, it has been a great encouragement to me in a time of big change!

  42. Ashley says:

    Definitely needed this today!

  43. Elizabeth says:

    This is exactly what I have been going through! Being a stay at home wife and mom makes me feel almost like my life is amounting to nothing but I have to remember that God has me here for a reason! This was truly beautifully written!!

  44. Marilyn says:

    I’m going through a similar phase, but at a different life stage. I was a stay-at-home mom for 25 years, but before that I had a thriving career in the publishing world. Now, though I am able to do some editing and writing from home, I long for the identity and fulfillment I once had in my career. I know my identity comes from Christ, and He is sufficient for me, but I guess we all long for human recognition. I’ll be praying for you, Lore, as you seek after God’s best plan for your life.

  45. April M. says:

    Lore, thank you so much for sharing these words that were good reminders to me today! I am not sure if you will see this, but we have some friends who started a church in DC about 5 years ago and just wanted to recommend it to you. These people love and treasure Jesus and live out the Gospel well! http://restorationchurchdc.com

  46. Joy says:

    I feel like this was written just for me. I resonated with everything you wrote. I am a single woman, however made a move back a few years ago to my hometown in the west coast after living in Philly for 12 years. My career and independence defined me while I lived in Philly. Now, even after 4 years of being in the west coast, I’m still feeling displaced and incredibly lonely. My heart also echoes and resonates with Eccl. 2:18,19. Thank you for speaking to my heart.

  47. Sandy says:

    I’ve been married 37 years, and for my husband’s job we have moved cities 6 times. Each time I had to start over–finding a church, friends, doctors, shopping, schools, finding clients for my small consulting business, and on and on. At times the loneliness was almost palpable. I remember thinking I could die there and no one would even know. I have learned that suffering produces great fruit. Those experiences shaped us profoundly, we see now. God has burdened us deeply to reach out to others who are lonely or new, and it has become our personal ministry. We would have been content to never reach out, had we not agonized through repeated loneliness ourselves.

    1. Hannah says:

      I really like this and find this encouraging :) thank you!

  48. Sarah says:

    Good for me to read today. I am entering into a new season as I am working, going to school, involved at my church, and now starting a part-time internship. All exciting things but the thought of how to balance day to day activities seems too much for me to handle. I feel passionate about everything I do and have to continue doing it all. However, I don’t have much strength right now. It was encouraging reminder that I am supposed to do each thing for God who promises to work in me when I am looking to Him. Lord, please be my strength and well as for all the ladies as well. We need You so desperately!

  49. Deborah says:

    I feel as though I could have written this. Truly. My family moved into the DC area just 3 months ago and while we’ve found a church home we have not yet gotten into serving mode. I had a full time ministry position that I had taken as a single woman and I’ve left it 14 years later as a married momma of 2 kiddos. Left that position for a secular office job. Left my stay-at-home-momma job for a full day away from my kids job. My identity was more wrapped up in being a worship leader and mom than I ever realized. There are days I sit at my desk and wonder, is this worth it? I know we made this sacrifice to enable my husband to finish school, to be near my family, but I truly, truly, truly am struggling to find my way, to find connections, to find home. Reading over everyone elses comments has been such an encouragement to me. I’m going to find the work the Lord has for me to do at this time and in this place and do it for HIS glory and with ALL my might, because He is a good good good GOOD Father, and this world is not my home, I’m just passing through.

  50. Sarah says:

    God is so good and His timing so perfect! Your words could have been mine but as a newly stay-at-home mom with my twins. I left a job I loved to stay home and do a job I love more, that I’ve prayed for, for years. As I fell asleep last night I struggled with inner turmoil over leaving so quickly, not getting to say long goodbyes to those who were my family, their children mine for so many years. Thank you for putting these thoughts down and giving Scripture that always speaks truth! My restless heart is quieted. This season is full of change but there’s immense beauty and joy in it

  51. Becky Miller says:

    Ecclesiastes 2:18-19, what a comment. Your words touched me deeply today. I am behind on this study and this may be the reason. I am married, for forty years almost. But I am in a similar place. I retired while taking treatment for cancer, not really a choice. I feel lost and unnecessary. Your words spoke to my heart. I also prayed God’s close present to you. Ecclesiastes 9:10 is going in my verse to turn to when in need. Thank you.

  52. Brittany says:

    This was really powerful today. Scripture that I’ve been repeating to myself lately repeated one after the other. Sitting in my car on a lunch break at work, praying God reveals my purpose. My job is difficult sometimes, as are most. Thankful God is with me all day, even when I forget that I’m working for Him. Thankful for His grace.

  53. Michelle says:

    Thank you to each of the writers for sharing your hearts so openly. Just recently we were going through a busy month of lots of visitors an my husband busy with work and I was trying to kid wrangle and homeschool our 3 littlies. I was really treading water and feeling the disconnect and the tension between my husband and I growing. One day I said to God why should I do all this to help my husband? He’s not even noticing that I’m doing as much as I can. He doesn’t deserve it! The response was not audible but the next closest thing- but I do. The Lord deserves my utmost, my best always. Another time recently while struggling with my eldest and his attitude I was feeling deflated about wanting to delight in him despite the attitude but responding badly. Again the voice in my heart, delight first in me!

    1. Elizabeth Wood says:

      This so encouraged me!! This is right where I am today.

  54. Ashley says:

    This resonated with me today. I am still figuring out what it looks like to fulfill God’s call on my life in married life. I used to feel like I would be totally fine single my whole life. There were many things I wanted to do and so many ways I felt like I would make a difference in the world. Now, I feel like I am just floating through life, without purpose. My husband is in leadership at our church as the worship leader, and I feel like I am just added on–my husbands wife. It is not at all how I pictured my life, and I have been struggling greatly with this. I feel like I have no purpose and that I am just going through each monotonous day until it’s over. I have been reminded that part of marriage is being a support to our spouse, so instead of trying to find “my thing,” I want to be supportive where he’s at in this time. And I’m sure there will be different times in our marriage when things will be different. But I need to be fully present where God has me now.

    1. Jenny says:

      I can really understand where you’re coming from. As a military spouse, I’ve definitely felt like an “add on” as I follow my husband and his career around the country- sometimes working, sometimes not. One thing I’ve been praying lately has helped me: “God, how can I live the fullest life NOW?” I’ll close my eyes and think about what a FULL life would look like to me in this season and I believe He’s led me to a lot of different opportunities as I prayerfully consider how to spend my time. I signed up for a pottery class, started volunteering at a local homeless shelter and am looking for writing groups in the area. God has people and opportunities for you NOW that will prepare you for what’s ahead. I will say a prayer for you today, Ashley! That you hear Gods specific callings for right where you are. :) also 1 cor 7:17 has really helped me as I consider the place I’m in a calling from God.

  55. Jenna Hoff says:

    May I gently ask a question. ….why does being a wife and married now mean you must stay at home and not work?

    I don’t mean to imply you must work now that you are married. But if you have 11 hours of boredom and struggle to fill the hours after doing all the laundry etc and if you are healthy and well and miss your former lifestyle of working and out of home contribution, perhaps this is God’s way of gently letting you know that there is a place for you in the workforce.

    Maybe you could find a small part time job to break up the day, or start a day home where you babysit a local child, or volunteer at your church or a local hospital or soup kitchen. Your writing is excellent. …maybe you could write more about newlywed life or a different topic altogether.

    I think as women we can undervalue our skill sets or what we have to offer. But I don’t believe God wants us to sit at home bored and unfilled while there is an entire world of hurting people with needs that we have skills to contribute towards. Some may disagree but I don’t think being a wife and working are mutually exclusive. Now that you are a wife and have even more rich life experience you may have even more to contribute to others. Maybe you could spend a few hours per week at a teen crisis shelter and mentor young girls in need.
    Please don’t think this is a criticsm but a gentle encouragement.


    1. Sarah says:

      These are excellent questions, Jenna. This echoes some of my own learning process as a new wife a few years ago, as I found outlets to work and serve that mirrored God’s desires stirring in me. As I grew into my own new place in the world and how that looked different in a new city, now married, it also brought joy to our marriage. I was refreshed being all of who I was created to be, and brought that back into our home and relationship. I’ve also found these outlets of work and service, dreaming and creating, when activated in my life, bring joy to my role as a mother.

      Good questions to ask as we pray and seek wise counsel for our own lives. “I have come that you may have life, and have it in abundance.” John 10:10

      Prayers for you, sisters, as you determine what is uniquely best for your life!

    2. Emily says:

      I had the same question and thoughts… honestly kind of confused about this post so I’m glad I wasn’t alone. Thanks for sharing.

  56. Kelley says:

    Lore – I became a stay at home wife in the Spring when I left my job to look for work, and you’ve written about the struggle of being a stay at home wife (no kids) in a way that is so honest and connective for others who are facing what feels like such an isolating place!! There are secular blogs out there for stay at home wives, but I haven’t found anything for Christians seeking to follow the Lord. In changing your circumstances, God has given you a new subgroup of hurting people to love on and minister to. Your words bring to life dark emotions we may not know how to phrase and your post provides opportunity for a community of people all struggling with the same “stay-at-home” status to connect and encourage one another. This discussion that isn’t being had in most churches, and it encourages my heart to know there are other beautiful godly women in the same place I am. THANK YOU!!! Don’t stop writing and speaking! We need you.

  57. Beth Rayburn says:

    Lore, you have transitioned from singleness to married life, I am transitioning from a stay at home mom to one with an empty nest. The feelings are the same regardless. Any new place feels strange and a bit awkward. Doing whatever your hands find to do, and doing it with the confidence that God is with you, that is the mundane that glory needs to cover. Your next step will unfold. Be blessed.

  58. Jennifer W. says:

    Wow, this was really convicting to me. I realize I haven’t really let down the “mantle” I was carrying when I was a single missionary for a decade always praying for a future husband and family. In the short span of two years, I met, married and had a beautiful baby girl with my wonderful husband. We are growing together and I love being married. But I feel so much guilt for the ministry I am no longer doing. And I read this post and think I am still doing SO much more than folding laundry and texting people I love them. I work 15 hours a week at our church, I am a leader in our women’s ministry and I have sweet one year old girl. I haven’t ever let myself be that wife and now I need to be a mom too and I haven’t taken the time to allow myself to be in the season that God has so graciously granted me. If you read this, please pray for me. I really don’t know how to get out of all of the commitments that I have to my church and I feel that if I let go of the ministries, I will just feel guilty all of the time that I am not doing more. Meanwhile, my husband is beyond stressed that we are so busy, we can’t lose our baby weight from the stress even with diet and exercise and I am missing sweet time with my baby girl. We are totally open to God giving us more children, and I really want to see God help me find my rhythm in this season before we just add more “to-dos”. I need real vision for my home and to receive grace to be the shepherd of my home and not of everyone else right now. Thank you for anyone who feels led to pray. I know that God hears.

    1. Kylee says:

      Praying for you Jennifer, that God would reveal in your life the commitments & obligations He has called you to handle, and help you drop the stuff that’s not meant for you. It can be so hard to know what we’re supposed to do when everyone seems to think we can do it all — so lean in to God and let him guide you in this season! The guilt from dropping commitments will pass in time, and you’ll be on your way to finding enjoyment in this season vs dreading it. Prayers, prayers, prayers.

    2. Phylicia says:

      I hear you… Praying for you Jennifer!

  59. Brittany Burkman says:

    Lore I hope you read this- there is encouragement in your posts about singleness despite the fact you are married. Just because you are married doesn’t mean you should stop posting and working for singles. Please keep doing that because I find encouragement in your messages.

  60. Kelsey says:

    I moved home a few weeks ago after serving in China for the 3 years. Being back with my family has been great, but I often feel like I left my purpose and ministry on the other side of the world. Though I’m not married, I can relate to your emotions of transistion and am thankful that we serve a God who holds our hand and never changes through the ups and downs of new stages in our life! Thanks for the encouragement! PS. The song Seasons Change by Unites Pursuit has really encouraged me in this time and I thought I’d share in case others in transition need a tune to lift their spirits!

  61. Maria Baer says:

    Oh— this. This is me. I had a great identity as a single woman and then I got married last year and I feel like I’m drifting. I feel resentment especially when I feel I’m not being appreciated for everything I gave up even though I know I’m where God wants me to be. I find marriage hard and I pray that I shake this feeling.

    1. Phylicia says:

      Praying for you Maria! The transition from single to married life can be a difficult one. I know I struggled to find my new identity but was reminded by my cousin – my identity isn’t wrapped in what I do or don’t do, it’s in Him and who I am to Him. I’m His daughter and His hope for me is to follow Him. I had to create an identity of who I wanted to be as a person, not in a career or status, but as a woman of God. He gently reminded me it’s ok to let go of the single me and embrace the married me He designed. It’s another step in life but I’m still the same person: a daughter of God.

  62. Sarah says:

    Come to National Community Church!

  63. Jacqueline says:

    This: “I agonize over how to spend the eleven-hour days stretching from the still dark hours through sunset when my husband returns. I sweep the kitchen floor, wash the towels, and put fresh flowers in the vase, growing weary and resentful of all I’ve lost, straining to remember that I’ve also gained.”

    Thank you for putting words to my recent experience. My husband and I just moved to a new country for his job and I cannot work here without a permit which will take months. I left my friends, family and job behind at home and I don’t know a soul here. He’s gone most hours of the day and it’s tough. But I’ve also gained a lot. I’ve gained more time to spend in God’s Word. I’ve gained a more relaxed, slow-paced life, which is good for my formerly high levels of stress and anxiety. And I’ve gained the opportunity to support my husband in more practical ways as he takes on this new challenge. So, I’m going to keep doing all of this ‘with all my might’… and try to maintain this fresh perspective. Thank you.

  64. Christina says:

    Thank you. Maybe someday I will have a husband. I’m 38 and single and that is God’s will for me today. God needs me to learn to have faith in him alone before I have a husband because I can easily become codependent on a human. I am in a job search and pray I get a position at St. Luke’s a faith-based hospital in my area. So far they are the only people I have had real contact with and am excited about working for them.

  65. ~Lakeisha says:

    Beautiful post, thank you!!!! Love the scriptures today!

  66. Hannah says:

    This post spoke to me so much today. I have found myself in a huge point of transition – having to balance preparation for the future while finishing large tasks in the present to wrap up the past. And all at once I am too busy to mentally and emotionally prepare myself for the change, a time where I will have new unfamiliar and maybe undesirable work. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I loved Philippians 2:14-15 – “Do all things without grumbling or disputing, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world”. What a beautiful reminder.

  67. Christen Stevens says:

    I really got a lot from this post. I love the scriptures you chose because I think it’s easy to forget that God has blessed us with this life and we must do our very best, no matter what the task.

  68. Livin On Holy Yoga And Oils:) says:

    This is going to sound terrible but does anyone else feel there is to much scripture to read? I feel like I am able to take to heart a smaller amount of scripture than when I read so much it all gets lost somehow. Some things so stick out but not as much.

    1. Ijeoma says:

      I understand :) but really after the study of the day, you’d realize only one scripture or two stands out. I think you should focus on the one that ministers to your heart most.

  69. Allison Janae says:

    This is so fitting for today in particular for me. I will be needing a lot of prayers for my boyfriend today. His dad will be addressing some news towards him that will be hard to hear/accept. Please pray it does not fall on deaf ears and that his heart and mind will be softened. Pray also for strength, for all of us.

  70. Becky says:

    Thank you for sharing. You put words to my experience and what continues to be a lot of my world. I appreciate your honesty!

  71. Andrea says:

    I don’t think I’ve ever read the verse at the end, Phil 2:13 in this context. Thanks for shedding new light on it!

  72. Vanesa says:

    Lore, You and your husband are welcome to join us at Luther Place Memorial Church on Vermont Ave NW in DC. We’d love to have you worship with us.

  73. Hannah says:

    I can totally relate to this post. For me it was the transition between working wife with no kids to stay at home mom with a brand new baby. It was tough and lonely figuring it all out. On top of that we moved across the country so I knew no one. We had to find a new church, new friends and get used to living so far from family. We are almost at the year two mark. I prayed for a new Christian community and a few close friends and God provided, in his perfect timing. Don’t give up Lore. Hang in there. Our God is so faithful and He has this new plan for you that is better than you thought or imagined. Thank you for what you do; for sharing your story and he love of Jesus in every season.

    1. Jennifer Wood says:

      We have such similar stories! Almost married two years, moved across the country for my man, our baby is one year old now. New church, new job, new family and trying to make new friends! I will pray for you! God has blessed me in this new season but it has definitely been stretching and challenging!

  74. K says:

    In past years, I’ve been happily busy serving- working with teenagers, kids with special needs, leading medical mission trips. Now I stay home with my littles and do not formally serve anywhere. It’s the season of life I’m in- being present with my hubs and kids. It’s easy for me to fall into thinking that I’m a slacker, that I’m doing “nothing” with my life to honor God. But God help me to work wholeheartedly in this season, rejoice in it, serve you well!!

  75. Terese says:

    Hi Lore,
    Thank you for your honesty In sharing the grief in losing your old “purpose” in life despite the gaining a husband and the joy that can bring.
    I too am in a season of life as an empty nester to an only child who had cancer, but is healed, Thank God. I had such a busy life raising her and taking care of my elderly mother who was dying at the same time as my daughter’ s illness.. I knew what was expected of me at that very hectic time in life. I was very busy doing what I knew God had me do. Now my daughter has grown up and gotten married.
    So I am now in a new season in life and am not really sure what is expected of me. I am a doer, I like to be busy. The things that were important to me,
    Like taking my daughter to sports and friends, and a spotless home, no longer appeal to me.
    I am learning to use this time to sit at the feet of Jesus and listen to what he has to teach me.
    I am learning that God is redefining who I am as my roll in life has changed.

    1. Christa says:

      Thank you Terese. I’m not quite where you are, but I dread getting there. I have been called to be a kindergarten teacher and, after 20 years, still love “playing school” and serving my kindergarteners everyday. My daughter is 12 and I spend most of any time away from work taking her to dance, cheer, tumbling and competitions all over the country and Texas. We are always on the go! Somehow, my hubby and I still find time for date night! But, sometimes, I wonder if I will be lost when this season ends. My daughter’s growing up, not needing me as much, so I know it won’t be long. Eventually, retirement will come. Thank you for your wisdom. You reminded me that I am here to first serve the Lord, not my job, or my child, Although I cherish every moment. It gives me hope that when our nest is empty, I will still find purpose in Him.

  76. Tosha says:

    Lore, thank you for putting into words how I often feel. I longed for the day that I got to be a stay at home wife (or domestic engineer, as I now title it). I thought it would be picture perfect & that I’d love it; I’d keep the house clean, make homemade meals for every meal; we’d get pregnant right away & my Hallmark movie channel life would continue on perfect & blessed. That was 4 or 5 years ago. Our family still consists of my husband, myself & our two animals. We do have two unborn babies in Heaven but my arms are still empty. Thank you for the reminder that is this not our true home. Thank you for bringing the Bible verse of Philippians 2:13; I shall put this verse in my heart & work on acting it out in my life.

    1. Erin says:

      I love you Tosha and am so proud of the work you are doing. Miss you, friend.

  77. Nancy says:

    Love the honesty & transparency of today’s devotional thoughts. We’ve all been there (or will be). I’m ‘adjusting’ to retirement right now – much anticipated, but yet trying to find my place & purpose once again – struggling at times. I welcome the tasks – dedicate them to Him; celebrate opportunities to be with family & chances to connect; take each day as a blessing & come with expectation into His Presence for communion & direction. Thanks for a thought-provoking devotional!

    1. She Reads Truth says:

      Thanks for joining us today, Nancy! Praying for you in your adjustment!


  78. Steph W says:

    Thank you for this post! I was prompted by the Lord to leave my job back in October 2015… It’s been almost 10 months since then and my husband and I moved across the country a few months ago. I’ve been trying to land a new job in my field but no luck. I’m not even sure if what I was doing is STILL what I want to do.

    The Lord has been speaking to me a LOT about identity lately. My identity was found in what I DID and not who I am as a child of God. It’s a continual struggle as I am now a full time house wife with no kids. I feel guilty most days for ‘not doing enough work’. I need to remember that in this season I need to work hard for the lord in even the small things.

    1. Kelley says:

      Hi Steph! I feel like our stories are parallel, the God prompting you to leave a job and the identity struggles. I left my job as a legislative staffer in the Spring, and it’s been the hardest and yet most spiritually nourishing season of my life. I’ve been applying and interviewing but no offers yet, and I feel like I’m just getting the hang of “life can keep moving when you’re unemployed”. Thank you for sharing your story!! It’s encouraging to know there’s someone else out there who is seeking to obey God in the same way He’s leading me right now. “In your book were written every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.” -Psalm 139:16

  79. Claire Dial says:

    I know of a very good church in Arlington. It’s called Portico Arlington. They meet at HB Woodlawn at 10:30 AM. It’s located at 4100 Vacation Lane in Arlington. It is made up of mainly young marrieds. The pastor is fantastic.

  80. Annie Luther says:

    Thank you for sharing. I would recommend The King’s Chapel in Clifton, VA. It’s my home church and though it might be a 20-30 minute drive, I find the community and mission wholly worth it. Christ’s peace x

  81. Melody Suarez says:

    I’m recently engaged and am getting married next August but for some reason lately, I have been really missing my single days. Not that I don’t enjoy being in a relationship but just that being single, you are able to give your full undivided attention to the Lord and serve Him with all your might, rather than trying to please your husband all the time. I really took that for granted when I was single and always thought the grass would be greener on the other side, but even now, I’m still craving something more, and I know that something more is my Heavenly Father. I think it just reminds me that we were made to crave heaven, to be with Jesus, and that this life on earth is temporary and fleeting. Obviously I’m going to serve my husband still and love him, but even when I’m married, my identity is not in marriage, it’s in Jesus Christ. It reminds of the quote by C.S Lewis: “If we find ourselves with a desire that nothing in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that we were made for another world.”
    Can’t wait for that day! I think it’s good for the single ladies to know that marriage is not going to satisfy the way you think it will. Marriage is good and God created it, but it’s not the best thing, God is the best thing and enjoy giving him your full attention!

    1. Christina says:

      Praying for you Melody. Engagement was the hardest for me too as I separated from my singleness permanently; it was a giant step of faith for me. Trusting that as my husband and I became one that we would make our life about God’s purpose just as I had strived so hard for in my singleness. It hasn’t always been easy in our 9 years of marriage but I can certainly say that God does indeed use marriage to make us more holy and not just to make us happy. There will be times you will have to be on your face in prayer for your husband to lead you and times when you can feel that you are clearly not in alignment with God’s will; your husband won’t do it perfectly all the time but God will honor our dedication to Him even in the mess of life. Press into God as you love your husband; He will care for you both gently! Xoxo -CW

      1. Melody Suarez says:

        Thanks so much for sharing that Christina! I love that you said marriage is meant to make you more holy and not more happy! I read a book that reiterated that same message. It’s called Sacred Marriage. It totally put into perspective what marriage is about in a spiritual and Godly sense and I absolutely loved it! Thanks for that reminder :) and I’m excited to see all that the Lord will do in this new season of life and transition. Congratulations on 9 years! I will be praying for your marriage too and that it can impact others like your words of wisdom have impacted me. Super grateful!

    2. She Reads Truth says:

      Melody, thank you so much for sharing your honest and encouraging thoughts today. Your post is one I’ll return to! Glad you’re in the SRT community.


  82. Kacey says:

    This really spoke to my heart. Thank you for sharing. I recently got laid off from my job. My husband and I have been married for about a year and a half. I am a college grad but have never really found the “perfect” job where I felt I was using my talents. every job I pursued has not worked out since I got let go. I prayed and prayed and over and over again & I have felt God telling me it was okay to follow my dream of owning my own photography business. So, this past month I have been pursuing that dream. As a person who likes to be busy and hates sitting and waiting…it is hard for me on the days when I feel like I am a stay-at-home-wife like you were saying. Some days I don’t feel my business growing or see the good that has come from this time of trusting God or the good in the ordinary day of cleaning and laundry. Some days the Devil likes to remind me of my anxiety and fears and the fact that I don’t have a flourishing career right now and it holds me back. But, I know God is faithful even in the small things. He has provided a part-time job this past month & a promise of one in the following months as well. He hasn’t left us in this season of waiting and trusting. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I love how you say “But this is the plot to which I am called today: this home, this house, this husband”
    So often I forget this.every season is one that we need to embrace, especially the ones that produce growth. Thank you!

  83. Caroline says:

    Thanks for sharing this Ecclesiastes verse. SO powerful. I hate the taunting of the enemy… oh how it feels so true sometimes…


  84. Keri Underwood says:

    At my bridal shower this past weekend, everyone wrote down advice for Josh and I. One that stuck out to me was saying that even when you’re fighting and you don’t want to serve him or clean the house or make dinner, do it to the glory of God and not for him. We don’t have to do things for people BUT we are called to serve. So if we focus on doing the wifey duties for Christ instead we will see that our heart will soften.


  85. Megan Craig says:

    Lore’s testimony is so encouraging – I’m like her, always busy busy before God did unexpected things in my family life and now I’m a stay at home mom. It’s an identity and lifestyle shift – more mundane than I imagined, and yet infinitely more joyful because I’m being faithful to my calling. I mean, I still hate doing dishes and cleaning up toys 20 times a day, but there’s purpose there. It produces a new, quiet, unshakable faith in my heart.

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  87. Sarabeth says:

    This is beautiful. I struggle with being in a job that is good but not what I truly feel called to do. Yet He has said “Wait” when I plea with Him to fulfill my dreams and calling. I too struggle with my hands itching to do something. Even in my job that I must continue in, there are times that I feel underutilized and ignored. However, He has called us to do His work wherever we are. Lord give me the strength and love to do Your work where You place me.

    1. Sarabeth says:

      Ps 90:17 “May the favor of the Lord our God rest upon us;
      Establish the work of our hands for us-
      Yes, establish the work of our hands.”
      My prayer for all of us.

      1. cindy says:

        Thank you for that verse Sarabeth.

  88. Kellie says:

    I almost can’t believe how timely this message is today. Today is my last day of work at a job I love with people I love in Las Vegas, NV as I again uproot everything for the second time in two years to move back across the country to DC. I can’t wrap my mind around the fact that today I say goodbye to so many people and things I love, all while continuing to step out in faith and go where the Lord has called me. The choice to walk by faith and not by sight is no means an easy one, but I trust that in all of this it will be done by God’s grace and for his glory. My life is not my own, and if he wants to uproot us every few years to keep us feeling like we’re in the valley and cling to him in dependence, I welcome that! As strange as it may sound, I am convinced one of the best things in life is for life to be difficult but for Christ to give us himself. I pray we all take that leap of faith today to step out into the unknown of where God’s calling us, knowing he will be with us every step of the way.

  89. Sarah says:

    Balance. Something I for sure struggle with. Choosing to spend time on activities that provide little long term value to the plan God has for my life and instead finding I lost in an hour on Facebook. Some of my dissatisfaction coming from choices that I have made to neglect that which God has called me and instead choosing that which has little value. I am grateful for my family and my work. I find myself overwhelmed when I say yes to too many things. Not considering what God would have me do with my time. What he finds valuable? This year I am going to make sure what ever tasks/work I do is in line with his will for me so that I don’t get overwhelmed and find myself too distracted to do the ministry of raising my little disciples, teaching and loving children. Working with all my heart on that which he has given me to work.

  90. Diane Huntsman says:

    The more noticed we are in a ministry the harder it is to go to the unnoticed life.. But God notices the unnoticed and His eyes are the most important.. Stripping is good when God desires to do a work in us.. I’ll never feel as important in a life that doesn’t have much glam to it, but I am important to God no matter what I’m not doing for the applause of man.. His ways are not our ways they are higher.. ❤️

  91. Christina D. says:

    Today I’m thinking about all of these comments and this devotional. I became a mother two years ago and I am quite smitten with my daughter. But since my pregnancy we have made two huge moves and with the first I left my nursing career. It has been hard. I frequently feel “less than” as a stay at home mom, especially as I watch so many of my nurse friends who have babies return to work. Outside of being at home I kind of feel useless. I even had a dream recently that I was going to have to find a job again and I felt overwhelmed with anxiety because it has been so long since I worked that I no longer possessed the knowledge/skills to do my job, which is a huge fear for me. Additionally the two moves uprooted me entirely from friends. Thankfully the second move brought us much closer to family which really is a gift (I’ve lived away from them for 15 years). But I’m finding I still miss the certainty of my identity through my career and the comfort of close friendships that were forged over the course of many years. While I have faith and family to anchor me I still so often feel adrift. I am so grateful to spend the time at home with my daughter during these very transient early years of her life but I still water that seed of discontentment and allow it to take root in my heart. Lord, you know the value I carried in my identity through my career and friendships was still worthless compared to you. Please sew your peace in my heart during this season. Shine a light on the goodness and joy but also the quietness and solitude and the space it allows for me to abide more deeply in You. Weed out the discontentment in my heart that is so often my silent companion. Make room for rest and peace.

    1. Ijeoma says:

      I pray the peace of God that surpasses all understanding dwell richly in your heart, giving you the wisdom to know what step to follow. If it be according to the will of God, I pray the dream the Lord has given about your job come to fruition. Don’t give into fear. He’s still at work in you, Christina.

    2. Beth says:

      Christina, I pray you find peace, but maybe that peace would be some form of getting back into your career. As a nurse, you may think about just taking a contingent position somewhere. Some commitments are as little as 12 hours a month (one shift). Maybe that would put your mind at ease that you are not losing your skills and knowledge and also bring you some companionship outside the home. I’m not trying to discourage staying home with your child, just giving you something else to pray about.

  92. Tochi Heredia says:

    Ugh, this was surprisingly timely.
    I’m currently struggling with the balance of ministry work and my missionary calling, and my secular job and career calling.
    I very often feel like Solomon, that everything I do is in vain, I feel like I strive for doing a good job in every aspect of my life, but I usually fall short and end up disappointed at myself. Some days I just sit and stare at my work pile, thinking why bother.

    How refreshing and marvelous it is that our Father doesn’t really care about WHAT we do, but rather HOW we do it. I think that He gladly takes everything we do as our service to Him, as long as we do it with a humble heart, selflessness and for His Glory.

    Today I’m praying that He shows us the way He wants us to spend our time and resources, and that our hearts find joy in it.

    1. Sarah says:

      Absolutely, I was thinking about the same. How does he want me to spend my time and resources.

  93. Elizabeth says:

    I used to live in DC and also have to recommend DC Metro Church. Amazing. I miss it every day.

  94. SharonR says:

    When I read your words, it was if I was reading my own. Starting out in a new place is hard. But, being where the Lord has placed you is the best. The long days waiting for my husband to walk into the door are probably the hardest part. We have found a church family that we love but making new friends is still a challenge. Thank you for being transparent, which ministered to me.

  95. Eliza says:

    Thank you for obediently writing your heart (i.e. Holy spirit goodness). I sent this to three of my friends as it connects to closely to our late-twenties life style. THANK YOU for your honest words. They brought about feeling of being known. So grateful.

  96. Katheryn says:

    Thank you for the reminder that my time at home as a wife/mother is not wasted. Today’s reading has given me renewed motivation to get our too large of a house under control, and to be thankful for my time home with our toddler.

  97. Brittany says:

    Thank you for this. I uprooted myself to follow my husband and a job out to the Midwest and have been struggling to find my place. I appreciate your opening up. I am originally from the DC area and attended McLean Presbyterian Church, which has some pretty excellent people. Thinking of you in your church hunt and empathizing with how hard that is.

  98. Sophia says:

    Thank you for sharing this word today. DCMetro is another awesome church in the area; Alexandria and Fairfax locations.

  99. Jamie says:

    You should check out Christ Our Shepherd church in DC!

  100. Merri says:

    I so needed this bible study today on the meaning of work after the Fall and after Redemption. Great scriptures and lesson.

  101. Chaney says:

    Thanks for sharing your heart so honestly this morning, Lore! Thought I’d throw my two cents in on DC area churches since that’s where I grew up and spent two years of my adult life. The Falls Church (Anglican) was where I spent my childhood years and Church of the Advent is where I went as an adult. Both are wonderful! I still miss Advent, even after being gone for two years.

    1. Liz says:

      I was also going to suggest Church of the Advent or its sister church on the Hill, Church of the Resurrection!

  102. Churchmouse says:

    Not so very many years ago I was thriving in a very public local church ministry. It was rewarding, fulfilling, good Godly work. I loved it! God and I were tight. Then… Church upheaval. Not once but twice. Ministry there became difficult. My spirit unsettled. God wrenched me from that place. I cried. I complained. I begged God for an explanation. I was doing good work for His glory so why did it all go crashing? Today, years later, comes understanding. Those ministry years were simply preparation for now. I thought that former ministry was the goal. Not so. It was just part of an on – going journey. Would I serve Him privately, quietly with as much diligence as I had publicly? Would I see the small task as every bit as glorious and important as the large task? Would I trust that He knows exactly what He’s doing when He’s moving me? Sweet sisters, I would not trade what I am doing now for ‘back then.’ Today is every bit as richly rewarding but it took that preparation to get here. He has opened doors I could not even imagine, still quiet ones without fanfare. But He is there and that is all that matters.

    1. Melea says:

      I needed this lesson today as well as your comment. I am going through something very similar. Our loving Father is also calling me to serve Him quietly and privately after having served Him so publicly for so long. It’s a hard transition. Thank you for sharing! Your words give me the clarity I needed regarding my situation. ❤️

    2. Rhonda says:

      Wow…you just wrote of my story, Churchmouse. Looking forward to the doors He plans to open.

  103. Leah says:

    I told you about my new small business yesterday that God led me to start. They are boxes for every season- http://understoodsilence.etsy.com
    Anyway-here’s the Fb https://www.facebook.com/UnderstoodSilence/
    I don’t have many real friends to ask them to join. That’s something I’ve been praying for-Godly friends. I’m praying for all you girls today-no matter where you are in your journey today.

  104. Christy says:

    Lore, welcome to the DC area! It is certainly a different kind of mission field. We would love to have you join us at Restore Christian Church in silver spring me (wearerestore.com). Wherever you land, I pray that God will soon put the person(s) in your path who will be able to walk with you in this journey He’s set for you here and in this new stage of life, amen!

  105. Cindy Young says:

    Lore and Veronica, I pray that our Heavenly Father, who is faithful in all of the seasons of life, will meet you today, right where you are and you’ll recognize His embrace and relish His peace and comfort.

  106. Sarah M says:

    I completely feel you sister! I felt that I had such a thriving ministry before I got married. It was well-defined, fruitful, and highly suited to me and the gifts God gave me. I knew that when we got married three years ago, it would pull me from my familiar geographic zone, not out of state, but far enough to really snap those cords of connection to what I had known and had been doing. I knew that it would be good to take a year off of doing any sort of committed ministry so we could focus on our new marriage, but it’s been sluggish getting started in anything else. We don’t have children yet, which are usually a good catalyst for ministry, and everything I used to do is just beyond reach. We have also committed to working hard now so that I can stay home when they do arrive, which means I have little spare time for extra activities. I do lament over what used to be and the freedom I had as a single woman – the experiences I was able to throw myself into for God. But I know this is a season of my life and God is still using me in small ways. You are in my prayers, friend! I know the heart-hurt this can give. I’m sure some wonderful women on here are in your area and can suggest churches for you.

    Thank you for your story today.

  107. Beth says:

    Come to @DCMetroChurch in Alexandria!

  108. Veronica B. says:

    I’m having similar issues, but in reverse. I was a wife for 8 years. I loved it and I thought I was good at it. Then my husband decided he didn’t want to be married to me anymore. That was two years ago and while I have come to terms with my divorce, I am now struggling with life as a single person. I got married right out of grad school, so I’ve never really lived on my own and had my own identity as an adult apart from my husband before this. It is so much harder than I would have imagined.

    I love the freedom I have… I can go wherever I want, whenever I want. I can take spontaneous trips without having to check in with someone else. I can use my finances however I see fit, without having to check in with my spouse. But it is also hard and I miss a lot of the little things that having a life partner comes with: walking down the street holding hands, coming home to a hug, always having someone to talk to at 2am when you can’t sleep because of stress at work or you had a nightmare. These are the things I’m struggling with right now.

    I’m working hard to focus on the good things and trying to be patient and allow God to work through this phase of my life. But it is just that… hard.

    1. Frieda says:

      I have been hoping that someone else would share what I’ve been experiencing and feeling. After 31 years of marriage I too am grieving the loss of what I thought would be forever and trying to figure out how to fit into my life that seems like forever right now.
      I know that my Savior has me in his arms but I must admit that I feel at times so detached from Him as well. I don’t know how to do this or fit into this life. I have recently moved also, to southern Houston area, and need to find a church home for community. But truthfully, many days are just too hard and I find myself being a hermit rather than doing the hard work of meeting new people.
      This is the first time I’ve posted on SRT. It’s crazy thinking to feel so blessed by those who share their hearts but I feel so hesitant to share my own. I know the enemy wants win right now but I cling to the One who will never leave or forsake me. Thank you SRT women of God.

  109. Jen says:

    Grace Covenant Church has a DC, Chantilly, VA and Sterling, VA locations!! Come worship with us :)

  110. Heather says:

    I attend DC Metro. There are locations in Alexandria, Fairfax and Woodbridge. I love it there.

  111. Kristine L says:

    I moving to a new school, onto a new team. I’m working with new people who don’t know me or my strengths and I’m struggling to carve out a place for myself versus just putting my head down and allowing myself to be absorbed. Then today’s reading reminded me that my true call is to shine like a light, not for myself or my personally glory, but always as a reflection of His light. Perhaps with that as my goal, the rest will fall into place.

    1. Patti says:

      Hi Kristine. While our situations are different, I understand. I’ve been a classroom teacher for 20 years and moved 6 years ago to a new city. I have not been able to find a full time teaching job in all that time. In fact I had a job interview yesterday that did not go well. I knew the moment the principal and I locked eyes – before we even spoke – that she was not going to hire me. Not going into the detail, but let’s just say the interview wasn’t good. Have you ever had somebody yawn and rub their eyes throughout an entire interview? When I got in the car to leave I cried out to God , “Why am I doing this? Why am I spending hours on teacher portfolio binders to present, calling schools to inquire about openings on their faculty, checking online job sites?” Like Solomon I feel like I’m blowing in the wind. So today’s devotion/scripture study was meant for me. :) My true call is to shine like a light, not for myself, but as a reflection of HIs light. He will not abandon me. Thank you for your comments. Thank you, SRT.

  112. Katie says:

    I have been married three years and a mother for almost a year and half. I selfishly thought these roles in my life would fulfill me and that I’d be natural at it all. I’m far from it! its the hardest thing I’ve done and on most days I just want to hide from it all. we also have just moved. I’m away from my family for the first time and support system. someways I feel like I’ve just been tossed into the deep end of the water without knowing how to swim. But is it possible to slowly drown not from the chaos of the waves but from the mundaneness of it all? that has been the hardest thing for me. keeping joy and a flame of passion alive. which is sad and selfish of me. I have been blessed with another day, I should be thankful and make the most of it, but it’s hard to keep that mind set. I wouldn’t say I was holding on to a past role or ministry more I was holding on to an idea or dream of what this kind of life would be like and the kind of person I’d be in response to it. it’s not what I thought it would be and I’m not responding how I thought I would. trying daily to come to terms with it all and be content and at peace trusting God.

    1. Chrissy says:

      This was helpful for me to hear and encouraged me.

    2. Emily says:

      Completely agree that motherhood isn’t always as natural as it seems it should be- and it’s really hard most days!! Moving and uprooting your family is a long, tough adjustment too. Am going through the same things right now- know you’re not alone in this!! ❤️

    3. Debbie says:

      It’s funny how we start out in a new season of life. It was the same with me as I birthed my first baby. Changes yet slow, feeling lonely yet overwhelmed. Now years later my children have their own homes, I have grandchildren, and a few months ago I retired after 44 years in nursing caring for others . Wow, time is so strange and this new chapter I say “what am I going to do with the rest of my life” So I ask God to be in whatever He has planned for me as I have done for so long. I am finding that even introverts need others to feel content. Praying for all the SRT sisters whatever stage you are in. Praise God he is faithful !

  113. Liz says:

    A corporate level person is going to be at the office this morning. He was there Monday too, and he was such a jerk that I very nearly walked off the job, and I’m the type of person that wouldn’t dream of doing that sort of thing. This was timely reading this morning. Usually I love my job and I enjoy doing it well. It’s good to remember I’m working for God not necessarily people. Pray for me please ladies. I’m going to need it and I will happily return the favor.

    1. Leah says:

      Prayers Liz

    2. Taylor says:

      Praying for you Liz!

    3. Phylicia says:

      Prayers for you!!

  114. Meg says:

    This whole series has been incredibly timely for me. I lost my job last week and moved houses. I’m still sorting out which way is up as I try to figure out what life looks like now. And yet, God is still faithful through it all.

  115. Jenny says:

    McLean Bible Church, with several locations, is worth checking out if you haven’t already!

  116. Monica says:

    Welcome to DC! I work in Georgetown but live in beautiful Loudoun County! You are welcome at Community Church in Ashburn!!!

  117. BJ Vickers says:

    My son and his wife live in Aldie, VA, not far from DC. They attend Community Baptist Church and I know they would love for you to visit.

  118. Bee 3 says:

    I hardly have words to describe how this makes me feel. Convicted and conjoined at the heart. This place is not my home, and this life, this identity, isn’t “me” at all.

    Nothing about my life is what I thought it would be 30 years ago, and I wrestle with desiring to be satisfied with a life which has been turned upside down and sideways, and I’m not quite there yet.

    I’m also in the DC area, displaced from all the things and people and identity that gave the illusion of security and blessing and happiness. But God knows why He chose this rocky road for me. And how could I be so ungrateful as to chafe at the opportunity to draw ever closer to Him through the sorrow and loss, finding my true calling and identity in Him alone.

  119. Kellie says:

    Blessed by these words. I am currently making a career change, and it is so easy to feel like the transition should be easier, though it’s almost like I’m letting go of the identity in my vocation I wore for so long, to put on another. Reading this helped me feel more able to move into the messy transition, knowing that it is good, and where God wants me to be, even if my feelings don’t always match up.

  120. Hannah says:

    Wow. It’s amazing how God uses blog posts to convey messages of stillness and contentment. I really needed this today. I am transitioning between seasons, and to find contentment in every situation is hard but so important.

  121. Carol says:

    I’m in a similar place. “In-between,” by choice – receiving mentoring, tending the soil,. Words describe but do not title me for the first time in three decades. My “brand” is vapor! It’s private, holy and sometimes lonely. Your post has helped me remember to balance the reaching in with reaching out – thank you. So poignant – this entire series. ❤️