A day will come for all of us when we are separated from the ones we love most. This is heartbreaking. It was never meant to be this way. Death was not a part of the design specs of the garden of Eden, and this is why death affects us so deeply; our minds and hearts were not engineered to handle the effects of death. But God has wisdom for us, and through Solomon, has given counsel for navigating “the vapor” that is life under the sun (Ecclesiastes 1:2–4).
King Solomon tells us to enjoy life while we’re living it. Plain, simple, to the point. We are to look at what God has given us—the blessings we acknowledge and everything we take for granted—and maximize our joy in those gifts from Him. We are to leverage them to care for His Church, and in the process, He makes us more aware of what we’ve been given: “The righteous, the wise, and their works are in God’s hands” (Ecclesiastes 9:1). Solomon tells us to savor our meals, to tell stories and clank our glasses with friends, looking into the eyes of our fellow image-bearers. Why? Because it won’t always be like this. These moments are fleeting, so grab them now.
Wisdom in this life involves more than just fighting sin; wisdom also means fully living the life God has given us. Because of Jesus’s death and rising, we realize it’s not unspiritual to enjoy life—it’s actually biblical—for the glory of God and for our good. Jesus defeating death shows us that God doesn’t ignore the beauties of physical human life; He redeems them. Therefore, we ought to enjoy them and give thanks for them in the moment, which is an act of those who are fully alive, “for the living know that they will die” (Ecclesiastes 9:5).
This does not mean that we can shirk our responsibilities in pursuit of our own personal pleasure and comfort—that’s worldliness. Disciples of Christ discover joy in the ordinariness of life. Today, resolve to be present and relish in what you have been given from God, enjoying and acknowledging “every good and perfect gift” from “the Father of lights, who does not change like shifting shadows,” despite our circumstances (James 1:17).
Whatever you do in this life, do it all the way. Whatever it is that you’ve been called to do for work, family, church—do it with all your strength (Ecclesiastes 9:10). Life’s too fleeting for half-measures and good intentions. Both are ultimately empty acts, and Jesus came so that each of us “may have life and have it in abundance” (John 10:10). Love and live fully, laugh until you cry, embrace those around you. Enjoy life today, remembering that it is a vapor, but that in our God’s presence are abundant joys and eternal pleasures (Psalm 16:11).
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This writing has really inspired me. My thoughts on death and loss and the great pain of it were exactly this when I lost my hubby to cancer 12 years ago. It wasn’t meant to be this way. Now I face it again, with my 1st born, my daughter, terminally ill with cancer. I am already grieving, but I know much worse is to come. How do I bear it? Kristy my heart goes out to you. Thank you writer, I know every moment of every day must be enjoyed and cherished. I pray to Jesus that I have the strength to get through. Kristy – existing/distracting/breathing, already that’s where I am at. And yes would actually want to live again one day.
Amen! Loss is terribly difficult to bear, but I’m working on growing/cultivating my community to be one of encouragement and joy. One to help me through the difficult times and help me lean on God and them
Wow. Such a food reminder.
A good word. Lately my motto has been “carpe diem” because yes, we’re not promised tomorrow. Each day is a gift. This year has been flying back with all that’s been going on, and I look back to last year and wonder in a personal level what I’ve accomplished. It’s the little moments the count and the big ones will follow.
and hugs and prayers, Kristy
This is the biggest challenge of my present life… living with grief and trying to find hope and joy. My beautiful 1st born child, Jacob, died with no warning or goodbye, of an accidental overdose.
One normal average day, of work and praying for him and normal things – until a phone call that I still can’t fully replay in my mind – 22 months ago, and my 22 year old son was gone.
Truly living, instead of existing/distracting/breathing to get me from one moment to the next is eluding me…
The grief and the ache is overwhelming…
I can’t even imagine the pain you must be feeling! I’m so sorry!!! I’ll be praying for you!❤️
I am so sorry for you, Kristy, and the loss of your son. No words of mine can comfort, but His words, His truth and His promises can. Lean into Him, dear one, and know many will be lifting you up in prayer thru your willingness to share your grief and pain.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m praying for you, Kristy.
Reading this gives me such a sigh of relief. The weight of the world, fighting sin, always trying to do better. All good things, but God has also created a space for us to enjoy life, because these good things to enjoy are gifts from him. What a waste if we don’t stop to enjoy them and give him praise.
ERRICKA HAGER I loved your take in this. Ice often thought the same. Solomon had wisdom, that which we are all seeking. Still he failed God. We are not perfect, BUT GOD! ♡
Amen…powerful
I find it so very interesting that Solomon requested wisdom and knowledge and *because* of his request, God granted him what he asked PLUS that which would distract him from the very path he thought he wanted. Solomon had all the wisdom and knowledge, but God shows us through him very compelling reasons why He does not grant every request we might think we need. And all of this is within the wisdom of God’s great plan, the using of a vessel not only for honor, but also for dishonor. What a lesson in our multifaceted makeup as fallen human beings and how not one of us is immune from the fallenness of this world, as well as a lesson in God’s power and wisdom that we cannot fathom but that we can surely trust!
Wow. Needed that so much. Just last night I was worrying/dreading/crying over having to physically go back to work after working from home for the last 10 weeks… the catch is… I don’t even know when I’m supposed to go back but I’m already fretting over leaving my babies (7 and 4)… I’ve gotten so used to being with them, delighting in them. But this reminded me to just live for today.. enjoy this life God has graciously given me and the opportunity to work, support my family and be with my family all at the same time.
And not to worry about tomorrow. God is in control… even when I feel out of control! ❤️
Things are so challenging in our society right now. I spent a lot of my day feeling anxious and uncomfortable, but so many things going on will need time to fix. It’s not instant. Reading Ecclesiastes is a little glimmer of light: life should be enjoyed. There are hardships, but God provides us with beautiful things wherever we are. Definitely going to spend more time looking for the daily joys that seem to get swept under the carpet of unsettling current events. ❤️
Churchmouse, I understand where you are coming from. I, too, am immunocompromised and haven’t stepped foot in a public place since mid-March. My church had the first in person service this past Sunday and masks were strongly encouraged, however not even all staff chose to wear them. I spoke with my two closest church friends and neither were planning to wear a mask. This was hard to hear, and I will most likely remain home the rest of the summer. All that to say, I know my church has spent much time in prayer and discussion regarding reopening. The pastor has sent emails letting us know there are people who think the guidelines are too lenient, and some who think they are too strict. The pastor and elders are in a tough position and I am choosing to extend grace to them and understand that this will not go on forever. I do hope you choose to return to the church at some point. From your kind, thoughtful comments here I can only imagine your presence is an asset. Hugs to you, this too shall pass.
Just a quick note as I am running late for work. Restrictions in our country have not lifted enough to allow us to meet again in our church building. However we are setting up home hubs, where small groups of people are able to gather together in each other’s homes to watch the live stream and love and serve each other and fellowship with each other. Could this be an option for those who aren’t able to meet in a church building right now, with face masks and social distancing? In many ways it reminds me if how the early church used to meet in houses and the community they created
I am reminded of Colossians 3:23, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.” Doesn’t matter what you do, do it for the Lord! Even in the the most mundane task of everyday life, do it for the Lord! Let’s all LIVE FULLY!!
Churchmouse, I feel where your coming from. May I suggest like I think one or two might have already you have a few people in to your home for a home service where you can control it. Or try a church where they do wear masks until which time you can go back to your own church.
Lizzie, I love what you said and love the song.
Zanita Fletcher, that is a great way to look at it and would like to pass that on if you don’t mind.
Angie, you have given me much to think about and contemplate on.
Taylor, you have given me two things to really strive for and set out to accomplish.
Elisha Anne, your thoughts have me wondering now about some of the same things.
Allison Bentley, I love what you said. You made my day, I hope you don’t mind if I pass it on.
CHURCHMOUSE: As I read your thoughts, your angst really, in regard to the optional vs mandatory use of face masks as churches in your area open up for gathering face-to-face, I hope to share a bit of my story with a gracious and compassionate response. I actually have wrestled with some of the same thoughts. Years ago, when my sensory sensitivities (fragrances, lights, noise, touch, etc.) ramped up, reactions from being at church (and at work, the grocery store, etc.) were causing a decline of heath to the point it was increasingly difficult to function. Though I attempted to ask for help at my church, the lack of understanding of my condition kept me from much support. In a moment of desperation during time with the Lord, I said your very words, “It’s just you and me, Jesus.” Astonishingly in my spirit, I heard a resounding “no, that’s not my way.”
Stunned at first, I eventually asked the Lord what he wanted me to do. He brought my attention to 2 Corinthians 12 in which Paul describes the body of Christ as God’s design. Since my love for Christ had been growing even in the midst of all the hard circumstances, loneliness and perplexity, my desire was (and is) to love those he loves. For a time I continued to press on and kept to church, but in time, my body broke down so much that I was incapacitated; I couldn’t even get off my bed without help for a time. I began to wonder if I should have kept pushing to go to church. There are many nuances to what the Lord has revealed of my heart as I spent much time asking the questions of him.
I’ve been homebound ever since; though not as bedbound as I once was. I’ve been doing the virtual thing for the past 12 years and like you, and the rest of our brothers and sisters, I long for the face-to-face gatherings to worship and serve the God we love together. Yet, though the longing is deep, gratitude of how the Lord has kept me persevering in this immensely difficult place. He has taught me how to lament in a way that is true, honest and humble. He has grown a love in my heart for my neighbor, for the brethren, and even for my enemies. I pray that as we continue to wrestle through the questions together (for like you, I have many), we remember that the church is us and we are called to love one another. So to love Jesus means loving the church.
Today I am a member of a church who is trying to help me connect virtually. I see that some people are ‘shut-ins’ for various reasons and the church has an opportunity to minister in these circumstances. Special situations need individual care. So we are continuing to search out ways to make it better, not only for me but others in special circumstances. It’s a slow process and I still can feel discouraged in the wait, yet I am hopeful.
Watching the Covid-19 situation play-out has reinforced that we are in desperate need of God to help us love each other well. As some have already said, our leaders are struggling to make wise decisions based on everyone’s needs. Some needs actually contradict others. For example, wearing a face mask for someone who has compromised lung capacity is actually dangerous for them. I, myself, react to the mask causing painful reactions. For this reason i aim to stay home as much as possible. I actually am not sure how to handle going to my next doctor’s appointment (whenever that may be). In other words, this situation is complicated and I pray that together leaders and members will seek the Lord and keep the lines of communication open.
Thanks, CHURCHMOUSE, for opening up this discussion. We need it, as the church!
I think it’s important to note enjoy, eat, drink and be merry BECAUSE you have me! Nothing to worry about because He is in control- sit back and enjoy the ride (while wearing your seatbelt and wearing a face mask; following His commands)
Today’s reading in Ecclesiastes gives voice to the unpredictability of life. To find enjoyment in life as circumstances allow is a challenge for the one whose life is more difficult than pleasant. I find it noteworthy that Solomon tells of how some experience a more pleasant life as a whole while others a more difficult one. In my own experience of many years of being disabled and homebound because of ME/CFS, this reality has often been dismissed or underplayed by those in a more comfortable life with “everyone suffers.” It is true; no one is free from trouble in this life. Yet, it also is true that some suffer more than others.
I imagine this is the cry of our fellow humans whose skin color has made their suffering greater than the more privileged. As I continue to lament their circumstances and pray for justice and changed hearts, I also pray that these suffering souls may find enjoyment in life as much as their circumstances will allow. Goodness, I pray this for the many lives broken and hidden by ME/CFS and similar complex illnesses. May the God of all mercy draw many to him and grant them salvation through faith in Jesus Christ which leads to eternal life. And may the hope of the resurrection at the second coming of our Lord help all the deeply suffering souls to persevere and have godly character produced in us through the refining fire.
Thank you Churchmouse for the wisdom you share on this site daily. Thank you also for your honest emotions. I hear your heart, and I understand a little bit, although no one can completely. This decision is between you and Jesus ultimately.
For the last two years I have wanted to change churches. The church we attend is great at building disciples for Christ, but not good at winning the lost. Except, every time I asked God for confirmation that it was okay to go, He showed me why He wanted me to stay.
I had to determine why I went to church. I decided…
I went for praise and worship…to dwell in the presence of the Savior in community with other believers. It was an opportunity to glorify God and it strengthened my spirit.
I went to be drawn into the Word of God as spoken through His vessel, to be stretched and to grow.
I went to fellowship with the body of believers. I need the wisdom and knowledge of others to help me see my weaknesses, God’s strengths, to grow my faith, and to draw closer to Him. My thinking can get off-track and self-centered so easily. I don’t even know it. Having people I am accountable to helps immensely, even in my own thought life.
And, I went to minister for the kingdom. There were people in that place that God loves and so do I. Some older, others younger. I didn’t do anything big – the only title I held was “friend,” but that was enough. That was His call.
My next questions was, “Well, can’t I do that at any church? Does it have to be here?”
And the answer is, “Yes, I can…and no, I can’t.” Yes, I can go to any church, no I can’t make a difference on my own, only if I am led by the Spirit of God. He might use my hands and feet, but it is His work that makes the difference. Where and When He shows up.
Then, I realized just how self-centered my reasons for attending church were. It is not that they are wrong, they are just all about, me. My worship time, my growth, my fellowship, even the ministry filled a spot in me that said…”you are making a difference here.” I felt like I mattered. And, bottom line, it isn’t about…me, period.
Here is what I came up with in the end. Where Jesus wants me, is where I want to be. He is my refuge and fortress, my God in whom I trust. Sort of like Ecclesiastes, in each day that He gives me breath, I will try to serve Him. I will try to live a life that makes a difference for Him. I will fail in many ways, but, I will try and keep trying. One decision, one step, one leap, one stumble at a time and He will guide me through.
Years ago, as a young mom in Bible Study Fellowship I said to the leaders, “I just wish we all went to the same church, think what a difference we could make for the kingdom together.” In her wisdom she answered, “Maybe it is better that we are not all in the same church. If each one reaches one, and that one reaches another, and we are spread out among nonbelievers, how many more will we bring into the kingdom.” It wasn’t about the ease and comfort for us, it was about His kingdom.
Also as a very young mom, there was a woman, Jackie Kitson, that I looked up to. She had wisdom from God and she shared it with us younger gals. She loved us with grace, while mercifully holding us accountable. What if Jackie had decided not to come to church? There were monumental times she pointed this arrogant, air-headed daughter of Christ’s focus back to where it belonged. There were so many times she gently but firmly spoke truth into my life. Her years of wisdom helped me time and time again in my personal walk with Jesus.
In regard to this virus. I share as someone who has had first hand experience. God went before us. He knew my husband would get it. I wait for my results and continue to stay isolated. I have symptoms, but not nearly as severe. Through this time the body of Christ has had an opportunity to love and minister. And we are left more humbled by it, (that is always a good thing). God supplied and continues to supply our needs.
Churchmouse, I pray you have God’s wisdom in your decision. May you have peace and follow His time table. The “church” as the body of Christ benefits from you. You are a part, and without you, that body is incomplete. How or where God uses you, only He can guide and give direction. As wonderful as your God given words, I believe, in the timing He gives, it would be a blessing for you to be in physical community with other believers. But again, His timing. He will guide. No one can make the decision when or if you return to church in the physical sense, only you and Jesus. We can share thoughts, just as Jackie Kitson did so often for me, but the decision is yours. God will guide you. It is my prayer that your decision will not be made out of fear of this virus, for God is still in control, yet…guided by the wisdom of the Father, for His plan for your life.
As always…I have too many words. Churchmouse, that is something I admire about you – God has given you the ability to be concise and wise. Thank you, and may God’s blessed presence strengthen, guide, and protect your every moment. Blessings.
Abundant joys and eternal pleasures! Praying I would live life abundantly for Christ. I was thinking yesterday about my sister, and about when she told me she believes Christ died/resurrected…But there was no joy or awe in her voice, it was like she was simply stating the weather. Trying to think of how I can ask her questions to get her to think about if she actually believes the Bible and all of what Jesus said to be true. She should have joy and the assurance of heaven if she did believe in him, but I don’t think that’s there. Love you all, thank you for your prayers! Praying for you all as well.
Very dear Churchmouse, I hear your pain. With all your insightful comments, please know how cherished you are! Though it is no substitute for a local body, I believe we are church everyday on this site. You are so loved by so many here for your wisdom and courage. It is not just you and Jesus!
Our church has decided not to open yet. As I am also high risk, I am not sure what I would have done if they opened. Surely not attend without everyone in masks.
I am so sorry to hear of your pain. I pray for brothers and sisters to gather you in His love, from 6 feet with masks! I pray you be so surrounded with His comfort that joy abounds. I pray this pain you are experiencing reap a great harvest! Only the Lord knows, of course, but perhaps you should start a home church! May the Lord send in His servants to remind you that you are not alone. You are loved. You are appreciated. You are the church.
It’s interesting how a poor mans wisdom is despised, it’s only the rich who can defend themselves that are heard and regarded. Even when Jesus came to earth, in whom were hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge, He was despised and rejected by men. Life is short, the time passes so quickly, what are we doing to make the most of our time? We need wisdom to know what He would have us do and to do whatever He desires. He will make it plain.
Churchmouse, I’m so sorry to hear that you will be unable to return to church. This current situation has made everyone feel lonely and isolated to some extent. Please know that you are relevant. I think I can speak for many if not all that your posts are the 1 st that I/we look for daily. You are so insightful. You are an important part of the SRT community and an inspiration. You are important to us. I know it’s not the same as going to church and being in the presence of your church community but SRT is a community of women it may be different but it is definitely gift and a positive use of the technology that we have available. Just know that you are a very important part of this community and that we look forward to reading your posts. I pray that the holy spirit will comfort you during this time and that churches in your area will reconsider their policies. Hugs from far away.
Thank you all for your prayers for me, my daughter and my granddaughters. So blessed and honored in being part of you my sisters in Christ. Angie, thank you for the song, I will play it for us all when we are together. God is so good. This study has been good for my heart in the acknowledgement that under the sun, it is futile, but Jesus is about eternity and heaven and all that we do in Him, for Him and with Him brings His peace and Love and expands Heaven. I pray for you all as I read your messages, and am so blessed as you express your hearts and that which you are leaning on the Lord in. Churchmouse, praying for you, your faith is strong and it blesses us all. I am type 1 diabetic and in this pandemic what I know is God has me, and my days here are still numbered. I am and will be respectful of others but I will continue to trust Him for my health until He calls me home to His glory. He’s got you and me sister in His hands and I pray you do what gives your soul peace in Him. He will not let go. Dorothy praying for you and your time alone and all those in isolation whether because of Covid or because of other reasons Lord Jesus draw near and help us to seek out those who need your touch direct us with your Holy Spirit in this time to love with your immeasurable unfathomable healing love. Amen, press on Beloved for the Almighty loves you!
I see a dichotomy in today’s passages, devotion, and comments. And I think these two areas of life are meant to live side-by-side. Let’s see if I can properly articulate this:
1. Find joy in life despite our circumstances. Jesus died to give us abundant life here on Earth. This is truth. How we have abundant life is living out of God’s will for our lives. Hold onto moments of joy because they are fleeting (wow do we know this to be trust at the current moment). I started a gratitude journal when quarantine started because I found it so hard to focus on the good things in life. This gratitude journal has been a saving grace at times. Like yesterday for example. I challenged myself to think of 3 things to be grateful for despite everything terrible happening around us. This journal helps center me to see how God is working and how He is providing despite all the chaos.
2. BE PRESENT. Whatever God has called you do to do, do it with all your strength. How can we be present with those who are mourning, those who are suffering, those who are experiencing systemic racial injustice? Thoughts I am challenging myself with today. Part of me wants to run to my safe, happy place; however, many are not afforded a safe, happy place right now. We still glorify God and live out of His will while we are mourning.
My thoughts are jumbled today but these are the two truths I drew out of today’s readings. Will you join me in thinking of 1-3 things to be thankful for either today or yesterday? Will you join me in pondering how we can be present with those who are suffering today?
Blessings to all you SRT sisters today <3
Thank you for this Taylor!
What a awesome reminder of how precious life is! God has a plan for everything and everyone. He’s always good, and he’s always faithful. I know people are hurting out there in the world and I want you to know that I’m praying for you and that Gods plan is always greater than our own! If you have any prayer requests please let me know so that I and all the SRT sisters can pray for you!
Right now I feel we need to heed the words of Ecclesiastes 9:17 and 18, especially 18 “Wisdom is better than weapons of war, but one sinner destroys much good.” After two days of protests and even riots here in the Kansas City area the church my sister and I go to obtained damage with broken glass doors and graffiti on the white church building. Our minister has decided to live some of the graffiti and paint over the obscene stuff. But in a letter to the members I really admired her, she said “The events of the weekend are breaking my heart wide open today, and I’m asking what the Spirit is trying to tell us at this time. You’ve often heard me say, ‘What God is doing is none of our business.’ But I do think one thing is clear: our building was the physical manifestation of the presence of God last night, bearing witness to the pain of the world, and that makes the events of these days our business. As I said in my sermon yesterday morning, we who are often present in this space would be wise to ask, ‘How can we listen for the wisdom of God that challenges us to see with the eyes and heart of our common Creator and act in a real and tangible way with nonviolence and peace?’ .” On our sign in front of our church right now is a quote from Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., it says, “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.” Like i said yesterday I am filed with so many different emotions right now. I want to cry but I want to praise God that no serious damage happened. Sisters we need to pray for the US and all that is going on here. All the turmoil amongst this pandemic. We also need to pray for the world and to be rid of this pandemic. To be rid of this craziness it is causing. Most of all sisters we need to pray for God to restore peace to the world. God bless each and every one of you my sisters, I’m so blessed to have you as friends and prayer partners.
“Where ever you are, be present.” I’ve heard that said many times, and I believe it is one of the principles of Ecclesiastes. Today is a gift God has given us. He owes us nothing, and yet gives us Himself, all we could ever need. How will I use the gift He has given? Will I keep it to myself, much like the parable in the Bible of the man who had so much that he built bigger barns only to die that night? Or will I disperse what He has so freely given as He guides? Basically Solomon had everything imaginable wisdom, wealth, fame, power…he had it all. But, he didn’t have contentment. He didn’t have a purpose beyond himself. I don’t mean to judge him, I cannot as I am not in his situation. But, I believe he wrote Ecclesiastes so that we could learn from his life. Where ever you are, with whatever you have been given…be present. Make it the best present you have to give. We only get one life. Everyday that God gives us breath is another day we have to honor him. It may be nothing more than the smile you give the postal worker, but it could also be the well you fund for people without clean water. We have a sign in our dining room that reads, “Today is the beginning of a new day. You have been given this day to use as you will. You can waste it or use it for good. What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever. In its place is something that you have left behind. Let it be something good.”
Dear Churchmouse,
I am saddened to hear both of the optional wearing of masks at your church and your feelings that actually being present at church isn’t really necessary at all. Jesus speaks so much about the church and about fellowship. We were not created to be alone, being with other believers is vital, it not only aids in our spiritual growth but also gives us a place to minister, serve and come to know the needs of others. If one part of the body is missing – the whole body suffers. You have been such a “presence” here at SRT. You have ministered to many, shared your God given wisdom, encouraged and helped many. Satan knows how much you love God, follow Jesus and help others in their walk. He wants to discourage you and have you give up on the local church. Please don’t listen to his lies. He is such a deceiver. When we are told “not to forsake the assembling of ourselves together” in Hebrews 10:25, it is because in coming together as a body of believers we are able to “stir up love and good works” in each other (Hebrews 10:24). If you are wearing a mask, it should protect you even if others aren’t, and even more so if social distancing is being practiced. I will be praying for you to have the wisdom to make the right decision without letting your emotions get in the way and that God will protect you should you decide to physically go to church. Thank you for being so open and honest and brave enough to voice what you are feeling, here with your sisters in the Lord. Much love and prayers!♥
Thank you for sharing your heart. I will be praying that the Lord will give you your hearts desire and that you will be blessed in all that you do!
We serve a God who demands joy. How good is that!
Switchfoot sing a song called Life is Short, “Life is short; I wanna live it well
And you’re the one I’m living for” Striving for the best will leave you empty. One day, we will all leave this earth. But God is in control. It’s good to enjoy life, but trials will come. So “listen to the quiet words of those who are wise” amidst the shouting of the world. Psalm 62:5-8 calls us to a place of silence, and to a place of pouring out your heart to God, saying,
“Rest in God alone, my soul,
for my hope comes from him.
He alone is my rock and my salvation,
my stronghold; I will not be shaken.
My salvation and glory depend on God, my strong rock.
My refuge is in God.
Trust in him at all times, you people;
pour out your hearts before him.
God is our refuge.”
Whatever may come, the unknowns and the pain we face, rest in God alone.
One more verse: Psalm 119:135, “Make your face shine on your servant, and teach me your statutes.”
Sisters, please pray for my Dad. He has been living in an independent living facility for the last two years and has really enjoyed it and thrived there. However, he has dementia and this virus and stay-at-home orders have really impacted him. He is supposed to move into a memory care facility on July 7. We hired sitters to get him through these last few weeks, but this morning he got aggressive with his sitter and tried to leave his apartment. My sister and one of my brothers are with him. I am three hours away, but I was already planning on going for a visit today (the first one since the stay-at-home – Georgia finally lifted ours). We are going to have to figure out what to do with him for the next month. Please pray that we will make the best decision for him. It has been so heartbreaking watching him slowly fade away.
Thank you for your prayers.
Yes, Churchmouse! We are the Church. The Body of Christ. The Hands and Feet of Him who sacrificed His life for us. So, even during this time of isolation, I love that you see it as a time of being with just Jesus. I was worried when I read your line about the importance of church. But as your thoughts kept going and said life may be about to expand because of Just Jesus….I love that! I have missed my church family most. And we are having services. My husband hasn’t wanted us to go. It has been difficult. So, I will pray for this time for you. And Jesus. That you and He would draw closer and closer together. That after the restrictions are lifted, people will see Him all over your face, your words, your actions and you will be able to show Him and introduce Him to many.
Lehua, I am glad I’m not the only one! I feel like so much of this book is Solomon complaining. He had the world at his feet, yet he had nothing. If he had “everything” and “nothing,” then what hope do we have?
I’ve been trying to look beneath the surface, see the wisdom of his words, and seek balance in living our current lives while keeping an eye to heaven.
Oh churchmouse. It breaks my heart to hear you may be giving up on the church, the bride of Christ. Please continue to seek out the fellowship of other believers – I believe it is a key component to life on earth! As it says, do not neglect in meeting together. Our church is only allowing 5th grade and up for children & that leaves us staying at home too so I understand. I will continue to press into my community group and worship online to the best of my ability. We need each other! Please don’t give up!
Churchmouse, I read your post and wanted to respond. I understand exactly what you are saying and wanted to share a few things I’ve learned. I am in the risk group, I have a history of asthma, and breast cancer, I’m 60 (this week) but I am also a nurse. When this whole thing started, I was offered the ability to leave the office where I work and go to another office that is only seeing well people. After prayerful consideration, I declined that offer to stay and work at the “sick clinic.” My husband was not thrilled and my son thought I was crazy but I really had peace about my choice. Why? Because, as a follower of Christ, I know that my days are numbered and death will come how and when my Father chooses. Will I be reckless? No!! If I can stay distanced from people, I don’t wear a mask. If I can’t, then I wear a mask! I do all I can to minimize my germs…
One thing I’ve learned during this whole thing is that there really is no consensus on what is right or wrong when it comes to the spread. At first they said it was 100 times more contagious than the flu and 10 times more deadly. As it turns out, none of that is true.
As far as you and your church goes, please don’t judge too harshly. Our church has created strict guidelines and we are basically escorted to seats, properly distanced. The worship center is cleaned after each service. If that is done at your church, masks or not, then the guidelines are being met by the CDC.
Dearest Churchmouse… I hear the cry of your ♥️… I live the n SE PA, and hopefully we will finally be in the “Yellow” phase on Friday… It is getting very long, and people ( yes, even Church people) are getting restless, and a bit contentious, in how we are to proceed. I’m also longing to return, and will wear a mask, at least in the beginning, to show care for my immunosuppressed fellow believers. ( I’m in that age category, too)
My ♥️Is saddened as I hear the anger and frustration that is being aimed at our Church leadership… Is it possible that “Church” has become our idol??? When we forget that we are a body, with strong parts and weak parts???? Praying for all of us, congregants and especially leaders, as we move forward.
I have a sneaking suspicion that none of this has caught our Heavenly Father By surprise… I pray that we (I) will fall before Him, seeking His direction, tuned in to His purpose for our body! I have been feeling that things WILL NOT be the same ( not should they be)… God wants to do a new thing in US… His Bride!
Churchmouse, I so appreciate you and thank you for sharing the Wisdom God has imparted to you! So thankful that God has this…and us… and our church families!
Churchmouse, I hear what you are saying. Our small congregation meets in a school, so until schools reopen we are unable to congregate. I am enjoying the online services, but agree it’s not the same as physical fellowship. However, with the use of Zoom I am participating with other believers in 2 different weekly Bible studies. Because our faces are together on the screen it almost feels like we’ve been together. I’m also Zooming weekly with a friend across the country who has been depressed, & we’re enjoying wonderful virtual visits. I also do a weekly Zoom with our children & grandchildren who are scattered around the country. All of this has been such a blessing, as has SRT. I too am immunosuppressed, & it will take a long time, or a vaccine, before I go out & about much-masks or no masks. I too am immunosuppressed.
“Life is too fleeting for half measures and good intention” how apt in times like these. We are called to “learn to do good, SEEK Justice, and Correct Oppression…” let’s not use half measures to do so. Life is fleeting, let’s make an impact wherever and however we can. We have a job to do on this earth, by winning people over to Christ we increase the light in this dark world and store up eternal treasures that outlast this futile existence
Solomon was strong, wise, wealthy and handsome yes! … how is that working for those who maybe the same and yet are drawn away by strong desires giving into the pride of life, the lust of the eyes and the lust of the flesh like he did? He was chosen and anointed and gave it all away by giving into his human weaknesses. What does that say for the rest of us? God help us all to see this and have wisdom not to fall into the same trap.
Dear Lord, please help us stay unspotted from the world until Jesus comes for us.
James 1:26-27
Dear Churchmouse, I think there are times in our lives where and how we worship changes. It has definitely for me. I was raised Catholic, attended Catholic schools for 12 yrs ( with nuns). In my 20’s I started questioning my faith. When I met my husband, who was not Catholic, we decided to find a church where we both were comfortable and could raise our children in. Fast forward 40+ yrs and I am again in that place. Not in doctrine but in the way I worship. Both of my children live in different states and I love to visit there churches and worship at them. I’ve come to love praise music and the vitality and love in those places and with the people of all ages. As much as I love the old hymns my soul needs the other music. My church will not change and I fear it will continue to grow old. So even during this time when my church has gone virtual, I have been able to worship at my son’s church in the way my soul craves. There are seasons of faith and I pray you find a peace with whatever decision you make. Safety and love first, perhaps being able to just visit when it is quiet, not quite the same as sharing fellowship, perhaps another of like mind would join you. Sorry this is so long but I sensed your sadness in this tough decision. Sending prayers for peace. Have a blessed day.
Dear Churchmouse,
I know how you feel. I have lupus and feel the limitations you do as things seem to be opening up to everyone, but me. Because of the elderly and inmunocompromised people in our church, my church has decided to continue having online services. I know it stinks for everyone else, but it feels good to know that church leadership was thinking about us and wants to be sure the most vulnerable members, including the children, are safe.
Either way, I’m grieving with you and praying for you, Churchmouse. May this time of earthly loss of connection with your church family be filled with heavenly abundance and God’s presence.
Life has narrowed. Because I am immunosuppressed my ability to go about freely is restricted to those places where face coverings are required. The things I enjoyed doing before this pandemic, those things that brought me into contact with more people, have been quite limited. I enjoy meeting people, striking up conversations, hearing their stories. I am otherwise healthy and able-bodied, just must be cautious. I don’t want exposure to your germs and I don’t want to give you mine as neither of us know if we are an asymptomatic carrier. I had been looking forward to the lifting of our state’s stay at home order so that I might return at least to church. Surely my brothers and sisters in Christ would welcome me (and others in the vulnerable category) back with open arms and faces covered. Hooray! The order has been lifted! Retail stores and restaurants are reopening though to limited capacity and thankfully for me, masks are required. I intend not to frequent either but it’s comforting to know that I can. Church was where I really wanted to go. Online worship is a blessing but it is not the same. Unfortunately my Hooray! was short-lived. The churches in our area have uniformly (I’ve checked) adopted a policy of optional masks. Staff and volunteers must wear them but those in the congregation do not. Therefore, I cannot attend. This greatly saddens me. “Love your neighbor” apparently does not include wearing a piece of fabric for one hour a week so that those of us who have had cancer or are under treatment for immune disorders may more safely attend worship. Otherwise healthy, we have been told to stay home from church but “join us and enjoy the online worship experience.” No. Not so much. So, I am rethinking the importance of church, the gathering together of believers and how best to move forward without it. I must admit over these months the local church has become almost irrelevant and I have pondered this well before their policy was announced. I write this knowing many of you may react strongly to that statement. As one who has loved the church it surprises me that I am feeling this way. Perhaps this is the season for me to find ‘church’ well beyond its walls, relying on myself for the components I once depended on finding there. I’m on a journey now to enjoy this life without that which once grounded me. Perhaps I relied on it too much and now truly, it’s just Jesus and me. So yes Solomon, instead of being sorrowful over this particular loss, I will seek to find enjoyment in Jesus only. I know we often say that Jesus is all we need but with the removal of fellowship at a church, He really will be. Just Jesus and me. I’m thinking life may not have narrowed at all. I think it’s about to expand.
Thank you for bringing forth a necessary conversation. I have found more community, companionship and compassion during this time in my online yoga community. This community was nimble, not tied to the rites and rituals of the past, and made a quick pivot to embrace their new setting and put structures in to support their members. I have found that Jesus grounds me, not a physical building, and that the honor we show to our fellow humans is more important than my butt in a pew. We are in the perfect place to imagine how church can work and I hope that we take full advantage of this opportunity.
Churchmouse, it breaks my heart to read how you’ve been hurt in this. My husband is a pastor. We begin live services this weekend, masks required. There has been some pushback on that, but it’s what our leadership feels is important. It is a small sacrifice we all need to make. This is a strange, difficult, and isolating time. Many churches are struggling with how to love their congregations well virtually when many have little to no tech capabilities to begin with. It’s frustrating and I’ve also felt hurt and not cared for at times. I would encourage you to remember that the church is Christ’s bride. But she is not perfect. She makes many mistakes and hurts many people along the way, unfortunately. Church leadership is also made up of many sinners. As a pastor’s wife, I know the hours spent agonizing about what to do, are we doing enough, how do we do more. It’s a difficult place to be and many mistakes have and will be made. We need each other, we’re made to be closer than 6 feet apart. We’re made to be able to see the smile of a friend. One day we will be back to that and I hope and pray you will be able to be connected to a body of believers that encourage and build you up. Who look at you and say, “I know, me too.” I hope you don’t feel that I’ve minimized your hurt….it’s very real and valid. Your post is actually extremely valuable and helpful, thank you for sharing your heart. I pray the Lord will send you great encouragement even today and surround you with his loving arms.
When I saw your long post I knew I had to take time to read. It breaks my heart to know you’re hurting.  I am not good with words but please know that I am praying for you. I pray that you enjoy this time with just you and Jesus. And then hopefully soon we will all be at church together.
Churchmouse, this is something that I resonate with. Here in my province in Canada, churches and other aspects of life are in the process of cautiously reopening. We are expecting our second little baby any day and because of that, are on more strict lock down measures then even before to protect him and our health care team. I’ve been wrestling hard about what being the church looks like in this time and have found comfort in the early church. Even doing life together with a small group of people is something I have come to find joy in and I continue to pray that God will use us in this time and in this way. Praying for you as you continue to sacrifice the normal aspects of your community for your health. It’s so hard, but I pray that you will not feel alone. May your church minister to you in this time!
Churchmouse I am so sorry to hear your pain and disappointment, but I’m also so thankful for your post and your willingness to share. My church sent out a survey asking when we would be comfortable coming back, and if we wanted to make masks mandatory or optional. They also asked if we would be willing to have 2 services, one where mask would be mandatory and one that would be optional. Before reading your post, I may have filled that survey out differently. Thank you for reminding me that we are to love our neighbor as ourself! I will wear a mask to help keep those who are at a higher risk safe. I will wear a mask so the elderly feel safe to attend church. I pray you are able to find an alternative way to enjoy fellowship during this time. There are probably many people who are in the same situation you are in. I pray you can connect with them for fellowship while wearing masks.
I completely understand that. Most of the churches here in my state are not reopening yet because of the restrictions, however my church has come up with a solution to build a stage outside. I’m not sure what the rules are going to be as far as masks etc but I am excited for them to finish the stage and to be able to attend so I understand completely where you’re coming from. I have so missed attending in person, although I have also enjoyed watching and worshipping the service online from my living room. I always try to find a silver lining in every situation. Praying for you and yours and may you be able to attend your service as quickly and safely as possible
Thank you Churchmouse for sharing this. My local church has also made masks optional. As someone with a lung disease I have to be very careful as well but was looking forward to being in back in church. Like you I assumed I could trust the church to have a heart for caring for the vulnerable in their own body. It’s been disheartening to see during this pandemic how little people have been willing to tolerate minor inconveniences like masks and distancing. I expected it of the world but not the church. I understand that the leadership are caught between these two factions but I’m having a hard time accepting that they’ve chosen to decide against the most vulnerable in an attempt to appease those who just don’t want to be inconvenienced. I would argue that comfort and love of self are the idols here, not the church. I too am questioning attending my church any longer. I thought I’d found a ‘home’ there, but this certainly doesn’t feel like ‘family’ anymore. Family doesn’t devalue the life of another when protecting it is so simple and requires so little of it.
I am deeply moved by your words as anyone who understands the importance of taking of ones health. My autoimmune condition has placed many restrictions on my life and have had to mourn the loss of many things I once enjoyed. I pray that God will reveal the ways in which He will provide community for you during this trying time. He has taught us the importance of community and the body of Christ and it has never been something that is meant to be contained within the walls of a building. May your experience of God’s family, the church, truly be felt and expanded during this time and may God use that for His glory as this season of waiting and change continues. My heart aches for you sister. I pray He will give you both joy and peace!
At first glance, this Ecclesiastes scripture seemed depressing to me. But in the proper perspective, it does make sense – enjoy your life as you’re living it, because it’s fleeting. Thanks be to God, for when we abide in Him we are shown how to live our life to the fullest, connected with His purpose for our lives and a deep relationship with Him.
Thank you all, dear sisters for your prayers. My first day back at work went really well. Each day is different so the rest of the week is still full of “firsts” until next Monday, but I am grateful. It’s a new month, and although times have changed, so have I. God whispered that in my ear last night as I prayed, heart starting to waver in doubt. It has become another layer of armor… He’s got me. Without Him I am nothing, but through Him I can do anything. Praying for you all dear sisters for your prayer requests (I have written them down on a prayer list) and for sustained strength and comfort in these days. God is good. Have a blessed day, everyone.