Whatever You Do
Open Your Bible
Colossians 3:18-4:1, Matthew 6:33, Ephesians 5:22-6:9
BY Guest Writer
Text: Colossians 3:18-4:1, Matthew 6:33, Ephesians 5:22-6:9
It’s been a rough week in the Bethke household.
My husband has had some extremely long work days, and we’ve hardly seen him. Then he got sick. Then I got sick. And now we’re packing to leave home for a month, baby girl in tow.
I’m overwhelmed. I feel drained and in need of a break. And if I’m completely honest with you, which I’d like to be, today I have had a terrible attitude. The inside of my heart looks a little like this:
But I’m exhausted too! Can’t I have a nap? Can’t someone make ME soup? I know somebody has to keep the ship sailing, but why does it always have to be meeeee?
But, do you know what? God knows my heart, even on my terrible days. He knows your heart too. And He knows relationships are messy because, the fact is, we’re messy. And so, through Paul’s letter, the Father gently lays out Colossians 3 for us, telling us what actions to put off and what actions to put on. Then, in Colossians 3:18-4:1, Paul gets into the nitty gritty of certain relationships. Husbands and wives. Parents and children. Masters and slaves. (We get the distinct sense this list of two-party relationships could go on.)
He sums up these diverse relationships with this:
Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.
Relationships can be tough for everyone. We feel forgotten, misunderstood, and underappreciated. We try hard to please and we get caught up in comparisons. We can feel brought down, discouraged, frustrated, angry—we can feel a lot of things.
But in the quiet, the Lord whispers to us, My child, I know you. And I love you. Do all that you do, FOR ME (Psalm 139:1, Romans 8:38-39, Colossians 3:23).
When we take our eye off Jesus, we put them onto ourselves and those around us. But true love, hope, and joy don’t come from ourselves or others—they come from our Savior! We can find joy in difficult moments, relationships, and circumstances because God is the only One we need to please, and we can rest in His unending love and grace. We don’t have to earn His love; He freely is pouring it out on us every moment of every day (Romans 5:5).
My friend, you are not forgotten. You are seen (Psalm 139:2).
You are not underappreciated. You are greatly rejoiced over (Zephaniah 3:17).
You are understood. God made you who you are (Psalm 139:13-14).
The gospel should be the fuel of all our relationships, in the joyful moments and the tough moments. The messy moments will happen but, like us, they are not beyond Christ’s redemptive reach. When we keep our eyes on Jesus— remembering that He is the one we serve when we love others— the perspective and attitudes of our hearts will be laced with the grace of Christ.
May we do all things for Him and for Him alone.
“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.”
Alyssa Joy Bethke is a lover of people, adventure, sunshine, and coffee. Wife to her best friend— author, speaker, and spoken word artist Jefferson Bethke— and mom to their sweet baby girl Kinsley, Alyssa serves alongside her husband to share the message of God’s lavish grace. Alyssa is the author of Spoken For: Embracing Who You Are and Whose You Are.