Songs for the Road: The Psalms of Ascent: Day 18

The Sweetness and Rarity of True Community


Today's Text: Psalm 133:1-3

Scripture Reading: Psalm 133

The Christian life is a climb—a journey of constant growth, sacrifice, and trusting God for what we cannot see. As Eugene Peterson said, we are pilgrims, but we are also disciples—always moving and always learning. The Psalms of Ascent (Psalms 120-134) were sung by worshipers as they made the journey up to Jerusalem for the annual feasts. In this 3-week reading plan, we are digging into these traveling songs with the help of short summary essays and thoughtful, reflective questions for each psalm. Take your pack on your shoulder and walk with us as we pursue God together.


Psalm 133 (CSB)
A song of ascents. Of David.

1 How good and pleasant it is
when brothers live together in harmony!
2 It is like fine oil on the head,
running down on the beard,
running down Aaron’s beard
onto his robes.
3 It is like the dew of Hermon
falling on the mountains of Zion.
For there the LORD has appointed the blessing —
life forevermore.


The pilgrim-disciple celebrates how good it is when her brothers and sisters dwell together in unity, meaning it is rich and pleasurable.

There are two kinds of pleasure: the kind we seek only for ourselves and the kind we seek as a part of belonging to a community. This second kind requires vulnerability and intimacy, trust and the laying down of self. Finding unity with others takes work as well as risk. It is something we celebrate because it is both rare and good.

1. Is there someone from your past or present with whom you need to pursue reconciliation—someone you need to move toward in love? In what ways do you “behold how unpleasant it is” to dwell in disunity?

2. What are some of the best ways you can actively pursue Christian community? Why is it important to cultivate spiritual friendships?

3. This psalm describes our unity with one another as something that carries over into eternity. How does regarding our spiritual friendships as eternal relationships help us love each other? Forgive each other? Respect each other?


  • Rachel Lopez

    This study truly hit home for me. I have recently moved away from all my family/friends and basically everything I have ever known. I got married and we relocated. I have been away from everyone for about 3 and a half months now and it’s horrible! I’m struggling with it everyday. I haven’t been able to find a church in my new area and it’s so much more difficult to make friends as an adult. I need this message to remind me to keep trying to seek out those relationship and keep seeking a church!

  • I too love the SRT community! I have been so blessed by these studies – they have become my main source of spiritual food and strengthening over the past few years. I rarely share, but I always read the comments and find such encouragement in them! I am a few days behind in the study, plus I spent two days in this one, because I found I needed to hear what was being said here. I am going through a difficult season in my life and I find myself identifying with so many – and weeping because I realize how I miss having that community in my life. We have been part of the same church body for 40 years – our whole married life. We raised our children here – we enjoyed such wonderful community here. My husband and I were both heavily involved in the church and it was good. But slowly over the past few years, we have found ourselves in disagreement with the teaching of the leadership and I realize I am feeling ….. adrift and very lonely. I am also going through a season of grief – I lost my best friend and then my sister to cancer within 6 weeks of each other. My best friend and I shared a long history – she knew me better than anyone and we talked almost daily. I grieve her loss deeply. So…. this study on community hits home! I realize how important it is to seek out and nurture those relationships. I also realize that those dry seasons have their value – they force me to dig deeper and to push through. I am so grateful for this community – for the support and encouragement I am finding here! Thank you!

    • She Reads Truth

      So grateful that you have felt encouraged by this community, Esther! You’re words are encouraging to the hearts of many here. We are so grateful to have you and so sorry for your recent losses. Thank you for sharing today.

      – Stormye

  • Just a thought, but maybe you can go back to that church and those friends but not rush into college. I had to wait many years to find a group of Christian friends and I know what a gift that can be and impossible to replace. Hope it works out and praying that God will give you wisdom to figure it out. ❤️

  • Melody Suarez

    One thing my pastor said the other day that really touched me was. “The worst thing in the world is not that you feel lonely” but to be “surrounded by a group of people that make you feel lonely”
    There have been times that I have felt that way even within my church community and with people that love me. I don’t know if it’s an insecurity that I struggle with or with fake assumptions I make up in my head but I’m praying that God reveals to me what it is. I long to have a community where I don’t have to feel that way.

    • Kristina

      It could be imposter syndrome, its a condition where your brain causes you to doubt your placement in work, or social life. You can give yourself a talk before you enter a social gathering such as “this is where I need to be” or “I am a part of Gods family.” A short phrase just for you. You are a part of God’s family, and you matter!

    • Ashley

      Melody, I just read this devo today and saw your comment and can empathize with you. A lot of times I feel the same way in our church community and I want you to hear it’s not just you that feels that way. I have struggled with years of loneliness and feeling like an outsider, and honestly still feel that way a lot. My encouragement to you is to just keep fighting to be yourself and pray for God to send you friends you can truly connect with. He has been faithful to send me two friends who I feel like I can connect with and share deep things with, and that has been so encouraging and refreshing to me!

  • I’m currently taking a break from college after a semester of depression, loneliness, and dreading school in general. It’s been one semester since I’ve moved back home and one of the hardest things in making the move was to leave my core group of friends and my church. I’ve church-hopped for the last couple of months and still feel lost and unsure of where I am supposed to plant myself for the time being and gain this community that we all long for and/or have. The struggle is so real, especially since the church that I have liked the most is 35 minutes away. I want the community I had during school back of course (I have told friends and church members back in my college town that I’d be back) but I lack the motivation to get the things done to move back there and live again. So will I go back? Am I supposed to go back? It’s really confusing, but being home in my sleepy little town has been really, really good for the soul. I just wonder what God has planned for me with my life currently at such a slow pace (that I don’t entirely hate).

    • She Reads Truth

      Praying for the Lord to reveal this to you, Liv! He is good and in control and will guide your path. So grateful for you.

      – Stormye

    • Mary T

      Just a thought, but maybe you can go back to that church and those friends but not rush into college. I had to wait many years to find a group of Christian friends and I know what a gift that can be and impossible to replace. Hope it works out and praying that God will give you wisdom to figure it out. ❤️

  • Jessica

    I have really been prone to gossip here lately. I have had such a negative spirit, and haven’t lifted up, but rather torn down. Please pray that I be an encourager, and that I would have the self control to resist the temptation to speak negatively of someone.

  • I recently decided to pursue community, to be vulnerable, to try to discover what true Christian sisterhood was all about. And it came right back around to bite me. I opened up, I told the truth about what had been going on, and now I’m being ignored and basically bullied for simply opening up. Right now I’m kind of struggling with the idea of vulnerability, because of the situation I have been going through. But I know that this situation was simply a result of human sin. It wasn’t a true “God thing”. No, what he has for me is pure and good and true and will never hurt me. I pray for a true, godly, open relationship with other “God girls” that can spur me on to grow in my faith and develop as a Christian. In the meantime, this community is a lifeline- getting to read the comments and see how open and encouraging everyone is is incredible, and this site has caused so much spiritual growth and personal development in my life! As a teen it can be hard to find Christian community but this little corner of the Internet has been just that for me, and I am hoping to find something like this soon in person.

    • Wildflower

      That’s the worst… opening up and getting shot down. I’m glad you can see the truth of the situation though, and I hope you can find good quality friends who aren’t afraid to have the tough, raw conversations.

    • Emily B.

      I’m sorry that your vulnerability wasn’t met with kindness and encouragement. Don’t let it get you down, though. Keep on being bold and stepping out in faith! God’s got you!

    • She Reads Truth

      Praying for you, sweet friend. Asking the Lord to redeem this situation and to bring you community. So grateful that you would let us know how to pray for you!

      – Stormye

      • Mari

        Thank you so much! I totally felt your prayers I felt an incredible strength when I got to work. Then I ran into a parent who had no idea it was going on and was giving me encouraging words. While our situation might not be able to be redeemed I’m just hoping to get through it.

  • Shamrock

    I am lifting up in prayer those of you struggling with loneliness. I’m at what I hope is the end of a season of loneliness and spiritual isolation and am preparing to move to Seattle. I could use prayers for finding spiritual community there. At the same time, I’m also learning to rely on God more than people, and it’s hard to know how to do that in practice. Thanks!

    • She Reads Truth

      Praying that you find community, Shamrock! Thank you for your encouraging prayers!

      – Stormye

  • After college, I moved back home to live with my mom. We always had a rocky relationship and my argumentative nature got the best of me in just about every conversation we would have.
    About three years ago, I was in my room after a really intense argument with her when the Holy Spirit whispered 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 to me. As I read those words, the tears flowed because when I replaced the word “love” with my own name I realized that those statements couldn’t be farther from the truth. I knew I wasn’t reflecting God’s love and I needed to change. I knocked on my mom’s door that night and crawled into her bed, crying and hugging her. She was strong in her faith and I wasn’t.
    But from that night on, God began to change me and draw me into a close relationship with Him. And as I drew closer to my loving Savior, my relationship with my mom began to change too. Now I am so thankful to have her in my life every day, to listen to her counsel, to encourage one another, and talk about our faith together. I don’t really have any close Christian friendships with other women right now and I still long for that. But I’ve also learned to recognize the blessing of friendship that God has given me with my sweet mom in this season of my life.
    I am also thankful for this community of sisters! I don’t comment every single day, but I always read the comments and pray for those in need. Praying for all you ladies who are yearning for community and friendship today.

    • Emily B.

      What a sweet testimony. Thanks for sharing!

    • valerie

      love this for so many reasons!
      you just described my life right now except my daughter (who is in college) hasn’t let Jesus be the Lord or her life yet. your testimony has given me hope that one day she will listen to the Holy Spirit and be changed.
      thank you for sharing kristi!

      – and “replacing the word love with your own name”….. what an eye opener!

    • She Reads Truth

      What a beautiful testimony, Kristi. Thank you so much for sharing!

      – Stormye

  • Karen S

    My community is mostly my church and family. I wear a mask everywhere I go except here, with all of you, and during my alone time with God. It is very tiring. I have skeletons that I never want to reveal, for fear of rejection. Some days my marriage is more than I can or want to deal with. I have many friends. I’m sure the turn out at my funeral would be huge. But I’m lonely for a soul to share deeply with. I’m tired of being the one to do all the inviting for lunch, or any activity for that matter. Don’t get me wrong, I love my family and my church, and am deeply in love with my Savior, but sometimes I just ache for a really strong small community of sisters that will allow me to remove my mask and just be.

    Sorry to be such a downer when the Psalm is so uplifting!

    • She Reads Truth

      Praying for you in this, Karen. Loneliness can be present even we are surrounded by people – asking the Lord to remind you that He knows and loves and pursues you. Thank you for your vulnerability today. So grateful for you!

      – Stormye

      • Molly S.

        Yes, thank you for this Karen! I remember a time when I felt the same way.
        I cried out to God in that time.
        He tells us that He hears our cry.
        He cares about your every need and wants you to share your heart with Him. Even the deepest parts.
        I’m praying for you, as well.

        He answered my cry for friendship and godly women to encourage me in the Lord. I now have people along side me that I can share anything with- no mask!

        Seek His face and see His love- for it’s in His presence we find fullness of joy and can be content in every circumstance!

        Surrender all of your heart to Him. I trust He will answer your prayer for friendship.

    • Kristin Erickson

      How beautiful for you to share your heart on here. I can guarantee that if you pick one of your friends you feel safe with and share your heart just like you did here, she will open up to you just the same. It’s scary to be so vulnerable but it can make for such a deep relationship/friendship. You are allowing your friends to truly be there for you. What a gift! True friends won’t run away, so go for it!

    • Ree

      Karen, your comment really touched me because I know how it feels to “put on” and “take off” that mask everyday. I lived it for 57 years until so many women like me were taking off their mask and sharing their stories. So now, I share my testimony with anyone who will listen or who God places in my path.

      Once I was open with my pain, I experienced such a freedom. I also realized that God had such a better life planned for me and that He wasn’t happy with the abuse that I was going through. So, after 37 years of marriage I finally got the courage and asked for a divorce. Never planned to marry again until my teenage sweetheart that I had not seen or talked to in over 40 years had a dream about me and pursued me on Facebook through a relative he remembered.

      I am ecstatically happy now. God ordained such a beautiful gathering for me and my love to find each other again.

      If I can give you any advise it would be, “be you”. Don’t worry about what others say or think.

      Blessings to you!

  • RondaGale

    The Power of a Praying Parent by Stormie Omartian has a chapter/prayer about praying for godly friends and role models. Not only have I prayed this for my daughter over the years (now 30yo) but several years ago I started praying it for myself as well. About 2 yrs ago my husband and I moved and I left my “small everybody knows everybody” church family of about 25yrs. to be a part of a large church that seems ominous. Slowly meeting ladies to have the cordial “hello how are you” on Sundays. Last year I started attending a women’s bible study group (large group that breaks off into smaller groups) that runs through the school year but takes a break during summer. Just yesterday one of the ladies in our smaller group invited everyone in our group to her house to talk about meeting weekly throughout the summer to get to know each other better. We have plans for Bible study/”book club”, prayer walks, memorizing scripture/a book of the Bible and a group project to update a room at a local “home away from home” house for cancer patients receiving daily chemotherapy or radiation.
    This is so exciting and certainly an answer to prayer.
    Husbands are wonderful but we still need girlfriends! And I love the opportunity for SRT “girlfriends” too!

    • She Reads Truth

      Thank you for sharing this RondaGale! So glad for what the Lord has done in your local community.

      – Stormye

  • I am so grateful for this community. I honestly wish we could have a She Reads Truth conference or retreat to meet each other.

    Right now I am in a season where my community is shifting; the ones that I used to be close to are not really in my life right now. But…there are others that I have gotten close to in this season of change and it’s wonderful. I still miss the old, but am really enjoying the new and deeper relationships I am forming. I have to stop looking at the past and look at who is in front of me, beside me at this time.
    As I cried out to God for the old, He reminded me that they will return in His timing. The ones he has placed around me are my rocks, and right now in this season of cancer, God says I need a lot of rocks. Strong people who I can count on in my time of need. Each one of them are amazing and have made this season bearable.
    Until God brings distant relationships back, I will be content with those he has placed in my life at this time.

    • Emily B.

      I’ve gone through something similar these last few months as I left my church of five years to find one to attend with my husband after we got married. I miss the women I was so close to from that church, and it makes me sad (and a little upset) that most of them haven’t kept up our friendships. It does make me appreciate the close relationships I do still have, and I know God will help me plug into a community in the new church I’m attending. It’s nice to read your comment and know I’m not alone. Thank you!

  • Diane Huntsman

    I haven’t experienced the community where we “stick together” through the hard patches.. I think the unfriending on social media has also become the norm when relationships hit bumps.. when we don’t see eye to eye we say good bye.. friendships in my experience have been disposable.. especially when you leave a church, it seems it means divorce with all the relationships you worked for years to build.. I’m almost 50 and I am hopeful that I still have time to make, build, and keep lasting friendships.. I too appreciate this community, although we don’t see one another face to face, bits of our hearts and lives are shared here and it’s good for the soul.. but I know God wants us to have real face to face walk through life relationships as well.. it can’t stop here on this thread.. so may we all take those risks, let go of past hurts, be vulnerable and dive into the pool of friendship!! We were made for doing life arm in arm to be sure! I’m sorry for all of you who have been the recipient of hurts, they aren’t fun, but licking our wounds and being the victim won’t help anything.. learn from the hurt and let it be the thing you make sure you don’t do to anyone else.. it’s messy and scary but it’s what we are made to do.. love people! Oh and read “never unfriended” it’s one of the best books I’ve ever read pertaining to friendship! Hugs!

  • Ladies if your area has a Bible Study Fellowship group– join them!! It is a solid Christian study for women of all ages. Our group has over 300 women, but you divide into small groups to do part of the study– then you come together for lecture and praise and worship!! Next year they are studying Romans. Look them up on line!! It’s very rewarding!!

    • Lizzieb85

      And they have an amazing children’s program too!

    • Anna

      I whole-heartedly agree with this recommendation!! I was so blessed to attend Bible Study Fellowship for 5 years. What I learnt through those years have grounded me deeply in Bible understanding and knowledge. Together with this, the small group set-up encourages true fellowship. My daughter started going when she was 2 and it was no child minding – the children’s program teaches from the same Bible passages as the adults. I really loved that they recognised that small children can learn God’s Truths for themselves through scripture and song. Unfortunately moved to a place that did not have BSF, but if you have the opportunity near you, don’t miss out!

  • Years ago and I was in a women’s bible study called Conversation Peace by Mary A. Kassian. Good study

    • truthseeker

      Yes ! I went through that study years ago and it is an attitude changer.

  • Stephanie

    I remember when I was in college, there was a bible study I loved to attend. The young woman who facilitated for us made us push past our comfortable boundaries and get real about our struggles. She would always tell us before we’d give our prayer requests, “BE VULNERABLE. I want your most vulnerable prayer request,” and no doubt, many of us would utter “UGH!” because it is super difficult to be vulnerable in a group setting, and even with yourself. It’s why the Bible calls us to do that (the hard stuff is what makes us more like Him!). I will never forget that, and how we grew together as a group through those moments of true vulnerability. I wish I had a group of people around me like that now.

  • churchmouse

    To clarify… I faithfully attend worship at my church. It is my involvement in serving there that I am pondering.

  • I recommend “Life Together” by Dietrich Bonhoeffer if anyone wants to go deeper into what gospel-Christian community is. I’ve read all or parts of it at least 3 times!!! It’s very deep, and it’s rooted in Christ. Sometimes I just read a page and meditate on that.

    True Christian community is rooted in Christ. That might seem obvious, but we can be different socioeconomic classes, have different political beliefs, etc, but Christ’s love compels us all…Draws us in and pushes us out!

  • churchmouse

    Living in unity is no small thing for any church. I have served in church leadership and it is not always fun. It can be heart breaking and leave in its wake walking wounded from the “friendly fire.” I know. I have the shrapnel to prove it. We left our previous church for a larger one and honestly, I am grateful to just slip in the back, worship and slip back out. I recently helped with a women’s simulcast event. It was an effort to get my feet wet because I wasn’t ready to dive in. I noticed the presence of cliques and heard some comments I wish I hadn’t. I had prayed about getting involved in women’s ministry and felt like God provided this opportunity. But now I’m not sure that this is the path of service for me. I lead a small group Bible study that is truly a faith community (I LOVE these women!). Vulnerable. Honest. Encouraging. Challenging. And there’s so much laughter! So good for my soul! I feel at home with these women. I’m praying if this is enough of a place for me to serve, if this is my niche, or if I should venture into the larger church again. Would you pray with me and for me as I seek His will? Thank you, Shes. You are the larger community I have right now.

    • Candy

      Churchmouse- I would definitely count all of your wisdom and advice that you provide to us all here on SRT!! I always look forward to reading your insights and comments. You definitely minister to me here!

    • She Reads Truth

      Praying for you in this, churchmouse. So grateful that you would share this and let us know how to lift you up in prayer.

      – Stormye

    • Cecilia

      Praying for you Churchmouse. I couldn’t agree more w Candy’s comment.

  • Caroline

    True community changes everything. I love that Hesus set the example by walking with 12 disciples!

  • Confession, my husband and I never watched X-files in the 90s and have been systematically watching through the old cheesy episodes. Just last night, Mulder had a run in with a genie and wished for world peace. The answer, of course, was that all other humans disappeared leaving him alone.

    In my life right now, I feel the opposite of alone in terms of friendships. Having moved every couple years for the our first decade of marriage, we have collected a little cadre of people in various states. And we are the rare birds who actually have good relationships with family, the closest of whom are a 10 hour drive away. Even now, after having the same neighborhood and church for 5 years, intentionally (compulsively at times) making hospitality and community a part of our rhythms, it still feels elusive and fractured to me.

    Who is my community? My out-of-state sisters who I call every day? My church family across town? My neighbors on the block? My online “tribes” with whom I share a hobby or process scripture? My “best friend” from high school? College? Pennsylvania? Washington DC? Florida? The ones who are still here, or the ones who have moved to China? Most of these people don’t know each other. Do they really know me anymore? Even Jesus was constrained by his humanity to live one life, in one physical location, next to specific humans and not others, albeit without Facebook. The technologies of modern life allow us to spread thinner than ever before. Does that increase my relational capacity, or does friendship with everyone mean friendship with no one?

    Who takes my kids when I’m puking or having a baby? Who knows what I do on Tuesdays? Who is close enough to stop by unannounced? With whom do I share my meals? My big news? My head lice? Who would actually confront me about anything? I want depth of community, not just the effectual “world peace” that happens from being loosely tethered to the whole world.

    • Heather (MNmomma)

      I am so with you here… a school nurse, I giggled with the head lice…..I have gone to rescue a couple of friend thru the years…..prayers this morning for you sister!

    • Kaitlyn

      I love the way you said this. I myself have always felt distant, even though I’ve been the girl who was friends with everyone. I grew up being very independent and not having many friends, so when I got older I have longed for deeper intimacy with one or a small group of women, but I feel like I don’t know how to be in that place. Maybe it’s the elusiveness of girl groups looking like unified, fun times where they all get together and tell stories and know about each other’s lives, but in fact when you are in relationship with others it’s never that clean. There are misunderstandings, hard times, and times where you don’t talk as much because life is crazy. Idk… I think that it’s okay to be deeply tied to different people at different times. We need regularity with the people we’re closest to at the time, so maybe by proxy someone in your state or who you can talk to on the phone every day/week will be your – we may not find one group of women who we are forever “besties” with.. but if for these years it is one person and then in the years to come that changes… life is never clearly mapped out, as long as you are seeking the Lord and others who will seek Him with you.. that’s what matters. Praying for you that the Lord will bring some more Godly and awesome women into your inner circle :)

      • Sarabeth

        I too have moved quite a bit over the last decade, and have a weird work schedule hindering consistent meetings. I have kept close friends with people who are many states away. But I do long for friends physically close. I also find myself “spread” thin with the close relationships when I try to cultivate new ones. I pray God shows us the way towards the community He has prepared for us.

    • Hilary

      Oh, how I want a community of women like that. I’ve prayed for years for one. Or even just one person. As I read each of your questions, I said silently to myself, “no one” each time. I’m so thankful for my husband who is my best friend, but I long for a girl friend who is close.

      • Emily B.

        Is there a women’s group or something you could get involved with at your church? Or maybe an older woman you could seek out as a mentor? I’m asking these questions for myself as much as for you, because I know I need to get involved in the new church my husband and I are attending. I’m just not the bravest when it comes to forming new relationships.

      • She Reads Truth

        Praying that you will find this, Hilary. So grateful that you shared this piece of your heart this morning.

        – Stormye

    • Veronica

      Yes, yes. Your comment is everything I am feeling. Except- I’ve never really had that ‘best friend.’ In any state, in any season. The ones I consider myself closest to, my ‘good friends’ who I still struggle with being open with, are hours away. Our relationship is limited to texts and calls.

      Your questions are ones I have uttered in my soul and aloud nearly daily for over a year. Don’t get me wrong- I love our church. The people there are incredible, and I genuinely like each family there. But, we threw ourselves whole-heartedly into this community a year ago and still, STILL, I feel on the outside. Our small family has gone through so much (our incredible church set us up meals for a week which was amazing)- but who do I text when I need encouragement? Who do I reach out to for the very real risk of cancer threatening our family? Who do I tell about the doctors call, the appointment today where I find out just the beginning of my fate? I may be too sensitive, I know there are some wonderful ladies I can count on in the worst of the worst – but that day to day? I’m struggling.

      As awful as it sounds, I am glad to hear that I am not alone in this.

      • churchmouse

        Praying you get good news today and that you share that with one near female friend – and that is the beginning of a fresh friendship. If the news is not good, I pray you’ll still call that person. Risk reaching out. That person may be sitting in their house wishing someone, anyone, would call.

      • She Reads Truth

        Veronica, my heart aches for you in this. Please know that I’m praying for you and asking the Lord to make those people evident to you and to help you feel cared for. Thank you for sharing this and letting us know how to lift you up in prayer. We are so grateful for you.

        – Stormye

    • Emily B.

      I love these questions you posed. They make me think about the relationships in my life. Thank you for sharing them!

    • Denise

      Thank you for writing this. I’m also glad to know that I am not alone. I have wept about this several times in the past couple years. And you know what? There was no one to take my kids when I was having another baby – a surprise baby, at that – but God provided for us at the last minute. We were very grateful. Nonetheless, the reality of the lack of community weighs me down on a regular basis. I’ve tried to reach out to all sorts of people but then it just begins to get awkward and takes a toll on my self-esteem. Life piles up so fast and I just so pray that God can bring people into our lives with whom we can share the real honest-to-goodness daily grind. The ups and the downs with none of the masks. Anyway, sending you a big hug. Hang in there, sweet friend.

      • Cathy

        Hi Denise. I want to encourage you to hold fast. I have been through several season of loneliness with small kids recognising I was actually more alone then if thought. God was my constant companion and I learnt a lot about depending only on him. But I realised later he had been preparing me for dependence for a reason( we moved overseas). Now several years later he has heard my cry and sent me a handful of wonderful women to be transparent with. Keep praying for your tribe.

    • She Reads Truth

      Thank you so much for sharing this, Carrie. Moved by your words this morning and praying that the Lord would answer these questions for you. So grateful to have you as a part of this community.

      – Stormye

  • Struggling

    Girls, I need to be real for a second. I have been dealing with jealousy towards two of my best and dearest friends who have befriended each other and have started to exclude me. I have started to feel like an inferior friend who isn’t good enough anymore. I know that jealousy is a sin. I am just bearing my heart to you before God. I don’t want to feel this way. God’s strength and forgiveness to overcome is all I need to overcome and also forgive. Please pray for me.

    • candacejo

      I am praying for you this morning. I have seen this happen recently to a dear friend of mine and she struggled with it too…at first. As time went on, she was so grateful to not be a part of something that was negative and exclusive. I know you will feel the same way and we will pray that the Lord will take away the feelings you are having and replace them with thankfulness. He can also send you better friends! ♥

      • Lilia

        <3; i have had this experience all over my life but at the end is true what candacejo says God wants us with people that can be instrument from God to help us grow not to entertain us

    • She Reads Truth

      Praying for you in this. Jealousy is a hard thing to combat – especially when you are feeling hurt. Asking the Lord to be bigger than your hurt!

      – Stormye

  • My Morning Song

    So timely that we would be talking about community today. I’ve felt called to start a women’s bible study/fellowship for awhile now, but have held off for various reasons. My heart has craved community with other women more and more ever since I got married. Not to say marriage isn’t amazing and beautiful, but it can often be lonely if we aren’t connected with others. I have few friends and have really struggled with the longing to be surrounded by God fearing women who lift each other up, which is hard to come by these days. I took the leap yesterday and put a blurb out there on social media to see who might be interested and I got so many positive responses. The Lord has been working on me for quite some time in this area and the study this morning verified even more that my heart’s desire and the Lord’s desire for this community are one. I pray that God would use me and continue to work in me so that this group of women thrives and strives to be more like Him. If you have any suggestions on books or studies that we can read together I would so appreciate your input!

    • Kandice

      You Are Free-Rebekah Lyons. It’s fantastic!

    • Vicki

      Our ladies’ group has really enjoyed doing Lysa TerKeurst’s books…she has study guides and DVDs that go with them.

    • Leah S

      Good for you for stepping out there! Shauna Nequist’s book Present Over Perfect is also great for a study!

    • She Reads Truth

      What a beautiful thing to be starting! The Romans study that we’re doing this summer is actually perfect towards groups – it could be a great opportunity to walk through a She Reads Truth study with people in your community!

      – Stormye

  • My husband and I have a similar struggle. It is my greatest pain right now. We left a smaller church that I loved (we left for my husband’s reasons, after he served in church leadership for several years)….and now are in a large church. After two years, it has become an unintended strain on our marriage, and we are severely lacking community. On Sundays, I feel homesick…..I want to worship with people I know, and I want to be deeply known. I too appreciate this online place where I can go to be with other women who are studying Gods word and trying to live like Christ, and asking good questions, and sharing thoughts and wisdom together.

  • I’m so grateful that SRT is an awesome, open, supportive community. It seems so rare these days to have a place on the internet that is so loving and supportive.

    Community has been a struggle for me lately. Growing up I had a great community in my church. When I got married I left the area, and we found a new (large) church that I love. There are so many opportunities and kind people, but both my husband and I are quiet people and not the best conversationalists! We’ve made small steps in trying to make friendships, but our shyness seems to keep us from getting closer to others. I know once we really dive in, we will love being involved. I miss having that Christian community. But I’m continuously praying for confidence and bravery as we try to make our quiet selves known in such a large church. I’m so happy that the Lord showed me SRT while we are in this transition! Grateful for you all.

    • Diane S

      I can relate to your testimony. We moved to a small town from the city almost 4 years ago. It has taken me 3 years to break out of my shell & begin making connections with people in my community. It is indeed a risk & sacrifice to let down my guard, to step out of my comfort zone and truly be a part of a community. But it is truly good to have this blessed fellowship & to know that God will heal my hurts & insecurities.

    • April Heather

      I too relate! I think the idea of community can be very difficult for people who are introverts by nature. I also believe if you’ve had a bad experience within a community it makes it more difficult to contribute and participate in a new one. And from my own experience-there are seasons. Seasons of community and seasons of solitude. And that’s ok too. God loves us just the way we are. That’s why SRT Is so great-helps us introverts build up our “community muscles” xx

    • Cindy

      I’m with you, Caitie! May I suggest one possible way to find that small group… Sometimes a group of people that come together for a common purpose find themselves bound together in love. In my church, for me, it is a small group of ladies who love to quilt. It could as easily be scrapbookers, or walkers, or people that want to do geneology, or whatever. We meet at the church one night a week, or someone’s home, and this is a group that I love and feel totally comfortable with. A common bond is a good place to start…

  • Sarah Joy

    As a child I learned Psalm 133:1 through Psalty and an adventure back in time where they met David. They sing this verse in Hebrew and English. Since then I’ve had a special place in my heart for this passage. Such simple, powerful words – brothers (and sisters) in unity! When I see churches working together despite differences, how pleasant! When I see neighbors helping one another, how pleasant! When I see three little sisters enjoy each other, how pleasant (especially to their mama)!

  • Gema Muniz

    Such a beautiful thing God has given us with this Christian community of women. A place where we can be vulnerable and open about our feelings. A community where we can be hugged and loved on from all around the world. Thank you SRT for being one of my spiritual communities. God bless you all!

  • How good and pleasant it is
    when sisters live together in harmony!…. even in cyberspace!!!!

    What an honour.

    What a pleasure.

    What a joy.

    What a community…

    This community right here, could have been the one described in verse 1…. SRT…

    I could not ask for a better community to seek, pursue and love the Lord.

    It has been, and I know will continue to be a place of unity, trust, vulnerability, friendship, respect and love… it has been a journey, for me of constant growth… I have so grown in my walk with the Lord, no doubt, and it is all because of this group of pilgrim disciples… Thank you., SRT , each and everyone, that have journeyed a ways, continue to journey, and to the new to come…
    ‘For there, the Lord has appointed blessing…. life for evermore’

    I love you guys.

    Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.k

    Every blessing.

    Peace and grace be yours always… with love wrapped hugs.. xxxxxxx

    • Sarah Joy

      Thank you, Tina. Thank you that when it’s time to be vulnerable you often say, “I’ll go first.” It give permission for the rest of us because we see your example and know this is a safe space. You are a blessing to this community.

    • Kristine L

      Amen and amen!

    • Tochi Heredia

      I feel the same way, Tina. I’ve been terribly blessed by the community here at SRT, you included.
      Lots of love!

    • candacejo

      How good and how pleasant it has been to study alongside of you the last few years, dear friend! We love and look forward to your insight ♥

    • churchmouse

      Amen, Tina. Amen. You’re speaking truth!

    • Heather(MN momma)

      So, so true Tina…..thank you! Love and hugs to you!!!!! (I am guilty of pulling back a bit lately and not writing and sharing as much….and missing some of that direct interaction….I am still here every morning, but haven’t been an active part of the community here…..sitting here convicted by the Spirit)…..

    • Pam

      I feel the same way Tina and always look forward to your insight. You are a blessing as well as the whole SRT community. So thankful for all of you!

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