1&2 Timothy: Day 6

The Mystery of Godliness

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Today's Text: 1 Timothy 3:14-4:5, Ephesians 5:6-14

Text: 1 Timothy 3:14-4:5, Ephesians 5:6-14

And most certainly, the mystery of godliness is great: He was manifested in the flesh, vindicated in the Spirit, seen by angels, preached among the nations, believed on in the world, taken up in glory.
- 1 Timothy 3:16, HCSB

The hymn “In Christ Alone” has been my church’s anthem for several years now. I say anthem because whenever the worship leader begins to play the familiar chords, the energy in the room changes. Everyone’s attention, once distracted, is now focused forward, and upward. Suddenly hands begin to raise. People stand without prompting and by the end of the song, we are all sort of yell-singing our favorite line: “Up from the grave He rose again!” We are declaring our anthem of what we believe. We are reminding each other of truth, and the power of this is tangible in the room.

Perhaps this is why Paul slipped a hymn into his instructions to Timothy. “The mystery of godliness is great,” he says in 1 Timothy 3:16. He then explains what that mystery is by using lines from what scholars believe was a popular hymn of his time. Yes, they sang hymns back then too.

He was manifested in the flesh,
vindicated in the Spirit,
seen by angels,
preached among the nations,
believed on in the world,
taken up in glory
(1 Timothy 3:16, HCSB).

This hymn states the basic truths of Christianity, something Timothy knew well and had been taught by his elders. Paul understood our human tendency to forget the truth and simply begin to follow a religion or set of rules just for the sake of following something. So, using the power of an anthem—his “In Christ Alone”, shall we say—he reminds Timothy of the Gospel before diving into further spiritual instruction.

We need the same thing.

The Bible is not a list of purposeless rules. There is method to our godliness, and it is crucial to understand the reason behind what we do and who we live for if we are going to stand strong in our faith. This is why we sing and worship together as a congregation, to remind each other of who God is and why we follow Him.

In almost the same breath that he declares the mystery of godliness, Paul also delivers a warning to Timothy, saying, “Now the Spirit explicitly says that in later times some will depart from the faith, paying attention to deceitful spirits and the teachings of demons, through the hypocrisy of liars whose consciences are seared” (1 Timothy 4:1-2, HCSB).

Later times? I would say that time is now. Heretical teaching happens now. Deceitful people are in power now. Hypocrisy and lying—they are rampant in our everyday lives whether we are aware of it or not. Knowing, understanding, and believing the mystery of godliness—believing the Gospel of Jesus Christ—is more crucial than ever. Without it as our anchor, we will float from here to there with each person who enters our lives with a new philosophy or theology.

However, with our anthem close to our hearts, we can clearly distinguish truth from lies. With our anthem, we are children of the light, as Paul calls us in Ephesians, and “everything exposed by the light is made clear, for what makes everything clear is light” (Ephesians 5:13-14, HCSB).

As humans, we will certainly be tempted to stray into the darkness. We have Christ in us, but there is an enemy who is alive, well, and roaming, and we can’t forget that. So, we must remember and we must remind one another. Just as Paul did in his letter to Timothy, we must chant our anthem. We must declare the creed again and again:

He was manifested in the flesh,
vindicated in the Spirit,
seen by angels,
preached among the nations,
believed on in the world,
taken up in glory.

Andrea Lucado is a freelance writer and Texas native who now calls Nashville, Tennessee, home. When she is not conducting interviews or writing stories, you can find her laughing with friends at a coffee shop, running the hills of Nashville, or creating yet another nearly edible baking creation in her kitchen. One of these days she’ll get the recipe right.

 

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  • Amen!!

  • Kasey Summers

    8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light — 9 for the fruit of the light results in all goodness, righteousness, and truth — 10 discerning what is pleasing to the Lord.
    Love the above verses!! We are children of Light!!! Our job is to shine shine shine God to others!

  • dailyartfix

    I have just been thinking about this , what is Godliness? what does it look like in practice? interesting. yet still knowing these truths that are at our core, for me it is always firstly about a relationship with Jesus and knowing what he did for us. The grace he so richly provides. Sometimes it can be hard to sing those same old songs with the same joy and engagement week after week after week, year after year, decade after decade. It is only through the holy spirit prompting me in my heart to really take notice and listen that makes the words come alive. I particularly love hymns that are based on bible passages as they have so much depth ! I love the old hymns the most :) I keep thinking how far I fall short. I don't want to be wishy washy in my faith, yet I have gone through times when depression made me that way and i retreated from church not just church but other social environments too. It is hard to be strong even though I believe in God, when going through depression> I also have bipolar and chronic fatigue symptoms that makes enthusiasm difficult at times ! I once was like that, the person who was healthy and singing the loudest at church actually I often led the singing as I am gifted that way, re-affirming publically what I believe. Nowdays not so much. I only hope to be back in the church, slowly, and next week I am planning on joining a small bible study to tiptoe back into worship with my wonderful church family. I miss church a lot yet I am very weak and struggle with energy and health. I want to be standing strong and tall in my faith again just like we are called to do. we are light ! how very powerful and amazing to think we are light despite obvious weaknesses we may have

    • Kerry Johnson

      Thanks for sharing and being so vulnerable! I can relate to some of the things you shared. Just remember that God can use us despite our weaknesses and that His power is made PERFECT in our weakness!

  • Although I have been reading SRT daily since Lent began, I don't comment because I don't mean to cause dissension, but this devo is all about the "truth of the gospel," so I just can't let this sit…
    Paul encourages BELIEVERS not to be deceived by perverse words and not to be drawn into dark deeds. He is not speaking to the entire human race indiscriminately. I feel that Christians are particularly prone to using their beliefs as a banner to try to have 'morality' written into law and to vilify anyone who disagrees. THIS is NOT the 'Gospel of Jesus Christ' that I read about in my bible!
    It is disheartening that some believers are so focused on battling the legalization of gay marriage in the U.S. that when they think about the church's duty to proclaim truth, this is the first so-called 'area of darkness' that comes to mind; that they spend precious prayers on that when there are so many other evils that are truly harming those who Jesus loves- what about the racial tensions exploding right now in the U.S.? The victims of the earthquake in Nepal? The ongoing war in Syria? The victims of modern day slavery that occurs right in our own cities and towns? And if you are really convicted about praying about sexual purity, how about all the sexual sin that occurs among committed Christians in the church?
    I absolutely and humbly proclaim that I cannot enumerate God's priorities, but I do pray that we as believers would seek to know what truly breaks God's heart and that we would shed the light of Jesus' grace and restoration in these areas instead of getting caught up in divisive dogma.

    • Crystal

      Sam,

      What breaks God’s heart is seeing His children lost. They fall into sin, drowning in their sin trying to save themselves when God sent His Son to rescue them but they deny His salvation. Jeremiah 2:13 13 “My people have committed two sins:
      They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water.”

      God has called us to be a vessel of His love showing grace and mercy to all. He calls us to, Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. Yet we may not see this in all of our community of believers because people are being led by their flesh and not the Holy Spirit who lives and dwells within each and everyone of us. We lose sight of who we are and whose we are. We are children of God created in His image and likeness. God’s greatest commandment is to love Him with all our heart, soul and mind. And love your neighbor as yourself. Yet many people don’t truly love themselves and are unable to truly love others. May the Holy Spirit continue to do a work in you, in me and fellow believers.

  • Antimony

    Easy to fall back in to rules. Frustrating because I can’t keep them. Nor do I even want to most time. But I have to try! How can I even claim to know God if I can’t obey Him?

  • In the study part of my bible for verse 16, it says “we can’t please God on our own; we must depend on Christ. As a man, Jesus lived a perfect life, and so he is a perfect example of how to live. As God, Jesus gives us the power to do what it right. It is possible to live a godly life-through following Christ.” I just love this so thought I would share.

  • I learned something new today and I'm so glad!
    I've often wondered what was meant by the "mystery of godliness" and now I know and now I know I want to know more so I'm off to study!

    He was manifested in the flesh,
    vindicated in the Spirit,
    seen by angels,
    preached among the nations,
    believed on in the world,
    taken up in glory.

    LOVE IT!

  • I love that Paul quotes a hymn of his time. It is what we need to remind others of and ourselves of, when we feel pulled back to darkness. We WERE darkness, we ARE light. We were not just in it, we were actually darkness, but GOD changed us to light, through Jesus who was revealed, vindicated, seen, proclaimed, believed, and taken. He is not a dead God and will bring all things to light. We live in a fallen, broken, messed up place, but our hope is He is coming again and it will all be made right again. Preach the gospel to each other daily.

  • Thank you so much SRT for these daily Bible readings and devotions. They have really helped me be in the word daily. I have been pondering the first part of verse 16 all day. I prefer to read in the ESV and the way that it is written there is… Great indeed, we confess, is the mystery of godliness
    the part that struck me today is the "we confess". To confess is to acknowledge, admit, or declare. I took this to mean that Paul is challenging the Ephesians and ultimately us to be bold in talking about the mystery of godliness and how great it is. We should be bold in our witness to each other and to non Christians. Of course it is easier to share with each other than non believers and I struggle with that daily. Praying for the courage to be able to remind one another of the truth. I love the hymn In Christ Alone as well!

  • Jennifer R.

    Hey ladies, I have a question unrelated to this study. My husband thinks it's great that I found this community but expressed to me that he wishes there was something like this for men. I did a little searching and I came up empty. Is there a site out there, that I'm just not finding, similar to this for men? TIA :)

    • Jenny Raymond

      Not that I have currently found either. I hope one day there is! Men need the brotherhood as much as we need our sisters.

    • SheReadsTruth

      Hi Jennifer! Not that we know of! He Reads Truth is something that is on our hearts for the future, and we would love it if you would join us in prayer for this ministry! In the meantime, your husband is welcome to join us! We actually have several faithful males readers. (He will just have to change the She to He and sisters to brothers!)

      xoxo-Kaitlin

      • Lauren AnneMarie

        Wish this for my husband as well! He reads SRT with me, but I know he’s righteously jealous for a similar community. Crazy that there is nothing out there! It’s been a prayer on my heart daily, and I will continue to pray that one day there will be a “He reads truth” to go to :)

  • We can become so desensitized in our culture. I’ve noticed even Christian friends of mine trying to get as close to “the line” between right and wrong as they can and its heartbreaking. We all do it, flirt with sin and it slowly looks normal. But we are called to so much more! An upside-down kingdom. God, let us be truth seekers that shine your light and refuse to compromise. Give us boldness to represent you well.

  • churchmouse

    With the United States Supreme Court hearing legal arguments tomorrow re: same sex marriage, these words from today’s devotion seem especially appropriate : “Knowing, understanding and believing the mystery of godliness – believing the Gospel of Jesus Christ – is more crucial than ever.” On my knees praying for the Light to expose the deeds of darkness. Grateful that the church is to be the pillar and support of the Truth and is speaking out on these issues.

  • ashleyrose

    This devotion this morning really hit a lot of the things that have been going on in my life. First, knowing the purpose behind what we believe. The other day, a co-worker of mine was asking about my fiancé. She said, "You live together then, right?" When I told her "no" she was very confused. She said, "What, are you Catholic or something?" I said, "No." I'm not Catholic, but that has nothing to do with it. She left confused about the WHY of what I was doing. And I had no idea what to say to her. I mean, I know why we don't live together, but when it came down to explaining to someone who does not have the same relationship with God that I do, I couldn't think of a single thing to say. I have thought about it constantly. Was it enough to just have the boundary in place to show her or should I have explained more? What should I have done instead?
    Second, I wanted to share my church's current anthem. It's Keep Making Me by Sidewalk Prophets. If you have not heard it, please listen to it!! It really puts into perspective the Lord continually working on our hearts and lives so our desire is for Him alone.
    Have a beautiful day, ladies!!

    • Savannah

      I had nearly the same thing happen to me! One of my coworkers assumed that my fiancé and I were living together, when I told her we weren’t she was surprised, but didn’t ask further questions. I guess that would have been a good opportunity for both you and I to share what we believe. Nothing crazy, but simple like “We really want to wait to live together and sleep together till after marriage, it’s what we think God has called us to do.” That may totally turn off your coworker, or she may just shrug her shoulders and say “okay”. I’ve been praying to not shrink back in my faith at work and have opportunities to minister to my coworkers. I think we should keep praying for this and maybe next time someone asks you why you do something you’ll be prepared to tell them why! My fiancé was asked the same thing at work and he actually told them why and told them that we were saving sex for marriage. They all thought he was insane and actually tried to change his mind, but hey! It opened up a door for him to talk about God. :) praying for you this morning!

  • Kendall_S

    thinking about andrea's comment today that paul reminds timothy of the gospel before giving him instructions….

    wondering how i can use this model when talking with my girls and how reminding them and myself of the gospel puts all other problems, issues, character flaws, arguments, frustration, etc. into perspective….

    bringing the gospel to bear on every situation is truly the only right response

    • Elizabeth

      What great insight! Especially since, as parents, we are not to train up our children to be independent but to shift their dependency from us to Christ. What a solid foundation they would have for their continuing lives! I felt so empowered by this Devo, and now you've brought it to another level. Thank you for sharing!!

  • This was what our guest speaker preached about yesterday in church!!! How awesome!! What a Confirmation♡♡♡

  • Rachel Fraley

    Been listening to “In Christ Alone” on repeat! Beautiful! Thank you!

  • Beautiful, wonderful truth. Taking up my anthem and going out for Christ.

  • stinav96

    The verses that stood out to me most in the 1 Timothy passage were 4 and 5 of chapter 4: "For everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with gratitude; for it is sanctified by means of the word of God and prayer." The Lord seems to be saying to me as I dwell on our passages this morning that without the truth of 1 Timothy 3:16, we could not experience the grace of 1 Timothy 4:4-5. If we believed in the Creator God at all, we would be under the law of "do's and don'ts" that was satisfied by Christ.

    Praise God, we are light! And we have the opportunity to spend our time here learning what is pleasing to the Lord. We are not dead and subject to the vain rules set forth by deceivers. Father, give us your discernment and wisdom to know Your truth, to show it forth as the light that it is, to remember our path and the reason for it. Father, may Christ shine on us who sleep no more! In Jesus' Name.

  • "Figure out what will please Christ, and then do it." The Message, Ephesians, 5, verse 10. Oh, how this has saved me trouble AND given me freedom. There are always things that pop up or experiences that leave me wondering what I am to do. The quickest, best way to know my position in it and my responsibility is to "figure out what will please Christ" in it. And it's not always the same. So many times, the simple answer is love. We are called to love all in our life, that is absolutely the best truth and yet there are times, that we are to love, but sometimes that means from a distance. Love looks different … it's not always "rainbows and unicorns"…. very often it's tough and sometimes it's about love of self, as in with Christ, as well. Over the course of months, my husband and I participated in a program that we hoped would allow us opportunity to engage with others in Christ and grow closer to God and each other. We were excited to do a kind of study together, but as we experienced it, we noticed that neither of us were connecting with the material. Instead, we were left feeling unsettled, that what we were hearing wasn't entirely God centered….but we continued, hopeful, that perhaps it was "just us" and that God would be revealed. a little more than halfway through, we came home one night and discussed a fews things we'd heard from a couple of leaders that particular evening and others … these are good people, but we realized that their everyday words didn't line up with scripture and as they spoke it to a crowd, we felt it wasn't what would be pleasing to Christ, so we opted out of the program and there was relief for us.

    If we seek God, He will provide plenty of opportunity to hear from Him. He will provide people and things we need to help us in our growth….but it is essential that we know His voice and His word. If we don't, we are subject the ways of the world and both good people and conceited people will have an imprint on our heart before Christ will. I don't want to aimlessly believe what earthly people say or share, I want my focus and understanding to come from the Lord, so in my every day doings, all of it, I want to know what pleases Christ, I want to know what comes from Him, I want to know my next step through Him, so that when I hear or see something that is not of Him, I can turn, without question, from it and do, instead what is of God. ~ B

    • Kelly_Smith

      B, you raise an important point from this passage. It is important to not believe everything we are told. It is crucial to filter everything through God's Word. The original teaching of demons occured in the Garden when Satan said, "surely you will not die." He went on to twist the truth just enough that it looked like the original but reslted in death instead of life. Like your couple friends, many people are well meaning when they spread deceit. They have been deceived themselves ("thier consciouses are seared'). May we all stay attentive to what we are taught, being careful to test it all against the Truth.

    • Emma

      B, your comment speaks a lot of truth. May we be a people whom study the Word of God so that we may be able to discern what God's will is. Many times we face "confusing" situations because we lack understanding of the Truth. Sometimes even when we know the truth, Satan tempts us and makes us question the reasoning behind God's truth. Thus, convincing that God's direction and guidance is more of a legalistic checklist rather than a protection and obedience call. Do we really believe that God will provide our every need? Do we really believe that giving a relationship over to God has a bigger purpose? Do we really believe that God calls us to AVOID evil? These questions are not rooted in God's light, but rather darkness. My heart aches for my friends who are battling defiant hearts and are listening to those who deceive. Satan is powerful, but I know God has conquered death. May God's light and power shine through deception, our questions, and lack of understanding of his Truth. We serve a gracious and merciful God. May his people rise to figuring out what pleasing God, and DOING IT even when we don't want to or don't understand. Create obedient hearts, O Lord!

    • Betsy P.

      This is so true! And to echo what Kelly_Smith said, we have to filter everything we hear–including those sermons in church–through the very lens of God's Word. I once heard it compared to detecting fraudulent money: rather than study all of the possible counterfeit bills, FBI investigators are instructed to study the real thing; by the time fake ones come around, they have studied the original so closely and carefully that the fakes instantly stick out. I pray that I can be that quick to recognize false doctrines and teachings prevalent in our culture today.

  • This entire study has hit it on the nail for me! Thank you for this great reminder!

  • carlybenson

    I love "In Christ Alone!" It was the song I chose for my baptism and it always lifts my spirit whatever is happening. It's so important to have hymns like that which remind us of what's really important. I was struck today by 1 Timothy 3:16 and the hymn Paul quotes. Each phrase has a human element and a heavenly element to it and it reminded me of the mystery of Jesus- that he is fully God and fully man and somehow these things come together. I realised it's kind of the same for us- not that we are God, but the earthly and heavenly elements coming together. We have this heavenly life, eternal life, Christ in us- we are new creations with a heavenly identity- but for now we have to live this out in the context of earthly life. The truths we know about God should have an impact on every part of our lives. Praying that for us today.

  • confusedandhurt

    Im sorry, this isnt't about todays reading necessarly. I just really need some prayers.
    I know my dad has secrets, i can just tell he hides things. Since I was little (im 18 now) he often stays out late and I just know he is cheating on my mom. My mom has told me about a few things before, not to gossip and make my dad look bad but because she has no friends and noone to talk to about it. I know they want to divorse but we don't have the money for that. He also is an alcoholic but denys it, but I always find empty bottles in paper bags in the back of his car or on the side of the house. My mom knows about these things and he knows shes aware of them and he doesn't care much. As long as his kids don't know, hes okay. I've been disgusted with him before because I've seen search history on his computer and messages hes forgotten to delete on his phone and snapshots my mom has from his phone that she sent to her phone.
    But tonight, I saw the worst messages I have ever seen between him and another woman and I just want to throw up. I'm so disgusted by him and I don't know how to love him through it becasue all I want to do is distance myself from him. And I know the worst thing for him would be to know I saw all of that. So part of me wants him to know I saw know about these things so he can feel terrible..
    Now I know this is not right. I know I should love on him because jesus loves me unconditionally. I know I am just as much as a sinner as him just in different ways. But I just can't bring myself to do it. I don't have anyone to talk to it about because I cant tell my mom that I know this much. And I can't tell a close friend because I know they will look at my dad different and I'm embarrassed for me and for him. If you met my dad, you would never know this about him and its just so hidden from the rest of the world. It's the worst to know these things and know where he is late at night and then to see him come home and pretend in front of me and my siblings like he was just "working" and knowing he thinks we beleive him. We all know, just don't say anything.
    Sorry this was so long, I just had to get it out somewhere. And I know it's not pretty but it's real
    Please pray for me, my dad, and the rest of my family. I don't know where to go from here and I need god's direction.
    Much love

    • Pamela

      I’m so sorry you are going through this! I believe his alcohol addiction and straying away from God are to blame. The most important thing is for you and your family to pray and to join together to find resources for him to help with his addiction and unfaithfulness. Perhaps talk to a local pastor about counseling and then staging an intervention with your whole family. Remember to let your father know how you feel but try to be as supportive as you can in order for him to feel encouragement instead of just walking away from your family and living in the darkness. Praying for you and your family! Hugs!

    • Prayer Warrior

      Confused and Hurt,
      I’m praying for you and your family. My dad was also unfaithful to my mom, also had addictions. They divorced when I was 12. I’m 36 now. Looking back I know that God used those incredibly painful times to draw me closer to Him and teach me to trust Him. Remember that when it feels like you can turn to no one in this world,God is a father to the fatherless. He will never leave you or forsake you. He loves you completely and you can trust Him. Praying for you!

    • ~ B ~

      I am so sorry that you are enduring this. Jesus absolutely calls us to love one another and loving one another can be incredibly difficult at times, but sometimes loving one another also means rebuking one another, as well as, sitting quietly and letting Jesus point out the wrongs. I would encourage you to seek counsel from a minister or christian program as well. If you don't have a church community, it would help to find one, for all of you. You need support, your mother needs support and certainly your father and siblings need support. My husband's life was very similar to yours and prior to salvation he carried a great deal of the weight…. God doesn't want that for you. I will be prayerful that God cover you today, that He provide the peace you need to get through each day. That as you think to the things that you have seen or heard you look to the cross instead. Prayerful that when you are tempted to "see" what your father has been up to that you turn to Jesus instead. That God give you the strength to resist checking up on your Dad, I know He desires that your eyes be on Him and not your father's wrongdoing….sin is bad enough being in it, let alone, looking at it as a kid, from aside. I am prayerful that God walk this out in the coming days in a big way with your family. That He moves quickly to convict your father of his sin and that God allows you to see who the enemy really is and it's not your Dad. I trust and believe God has great things in mind for you all and I am praying that He reveal to you, at 18, the plan He has specifically for you. That He will remove the burden of all that you are in and grant you the luxury of your life in Him. I pray that God provide a community that will come around you and embrace you. Folks that will stand the gap with and for you while affirming God's desire for you all. May you have peace today dear girl, may you be so in love with Christ that the pain of your circumstance falls away.

      Many hugs and prayer ongoingly coming your way from mine ….. ~ B

      • Brandi

        Amen. Praying in agreement with my sisters Father! Standing in gap in Your power!

    • Ashley

      What a wise and mature young lady for 18 years old. I’m so sad for you, your mom and your dad. I appreciate that you aren’t telling everything you know out of anger-we are told to season our words. However, having a calm, love-driven conversation with your dad to call him to accountability isn’t out of line. I’m saying a prayer for you this morning, friend.

    • Judy

      I wi ll be praying for your family. Alanon is a huge help if you and your Mom can go. Look online for meetings.

    • smithwendy62

      My heart breaks for you…and my prayers go out to you! Stay strong and know that the choices your father is making have nothing to do with you…they are his choices and he is broken. You do have a loving Father that will not fail you ever…rely on Him!

    • JessicaLoves___

      Praying for this entire situation. These things are clearly hurtful to your entire family, not just your mom. But I don’t think continuing to go through his texts are beneficial to you. You know enough to pray for him and to pray that the Lord intervenes to resolve this matter. Praying that you are able to focus your efforts on relying on God’s guidance with regard to how you interact with your father and how you respond to this issue.

    • Katie_K

      My heart sincerely goes out to you in all of this. I grew up in a similar situation. A father who was always cheating and addicted to porn. Images and things seen by me from an age as young as 6. When I was 15 my father finally completely left for another woman and I was left caring for a distraught, suicidal mother. These are all burdens none of us should have to bare and I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I too struggled (still sometimes do struggle) with loving and forgiving my father. For me, see trying to see him through God's eyes has helped tremendously. As a broken, struggling sinner who looks to temporal, fleeting pleasures for fulfillment when the only true fulfillment is found in Christ. It allows me to have compassion and love for him in place of my bitterness. I also think it is totally normal to feel disgusted by his behavior. In all truth, any such behavior should disgust and repulse us as followers of Jesus.
      I agree with some of the others that seeking help from the church would be a great idea. It's not that you are trying to uncover your father's shame to the world, but it is also not your burden to have to cover for him and allow him to go on thinking no one knows. A pastor can give some great guidance and help in these tough situations. I wish I had reached out for help at a younger age, but it really wasn't until I was much older that I was honest about my background and healing started taking place in my life.

      I will most definitely be praying for you, your father, and your family. For God to give you wisdom and guidance in dealing with such a difficult situation and for Him to fill you with an inexplicable love for your father.

    • Madison Ortiz

      What you are bearing is heavy, I am sorry you have to walk through this. I know you know that in the midst of trial Jesus is there in Daniel we see the three thrown into the fire only to find later there were four God was with them. Take comfort in the truth that he sees all. What you’re father is doing is not right, but as his daughter the Bible says to honor him it doesn’t allow for exceptions like honor him if he’s honorable, or obey him if he follows the Lord it just says honor your parents and obey. The best thing to do first is pray trust that God will lead you in what to do and that God will work on your dad. If you do feel led of God to speak to your dad do it in a way that is honoring, Proverbs said it is a soft word t ghost at turns away wrath and a harsh word that stirs up anger. Through Jesus this can be made right. Pray, and I will pray too.

    • Tanya

      You're not alone. Thank you for letting us know so that we can pray for you and your family. I dealt with a similar situation in my house in regards to my father's infidelity. Here's the thing, you need to stop checking his phone and/or computer. That's making you crazy. Especially if your mother is asking you to do it. You need to establish boundaries for yourself self. In a house with addiction, co dependency is present. Do yourself a favor and get the book Boundaries by Cloud and Townsand. Also, you and your mother need to go to an Al-anon meeting. If she won't go, you go yourself. It's not just your dad who is sick.
      The hiding and the lying are not go to stop him. Loving him doesn't mean you enable him. If your dad is driving under the influence he is a danger to himself and others and it's illegal. If he drives with his children in the car while under the influence that's illegal in your state. If your mom knows this and still lets him do it, she got some things to answer for. I'm not trying to be harsh. I just want you to step back from the guilt and shame you're feeling which is coming from the enemy. I'm sorry that you have to be the grownup here. I will be praying for you to experience some peace in the storm.

    • MNmomma (heather)

      Prayers being lifted for you and your family this morning…..

    • Kendall_S

      praying for you this morning – praying that God in His love and faithfulness will cover you and guide you as you seek to love your family well – so glad you have this SRT community to come to and praying you can find a community closer to you that will support you in person as we lift you in prayer

    • Sherrie

      I could've written this same entry. I'm no longer 18-my Mother has passed away, that earthly father hasn't really changed much in the last 30 years, despite my sisters and I having Godly husbands and families of our own. Not only do I share your pain and hurt, know that God is WITH you. Seek help for yourself first–a Christian counselor-grounded in the Word, just as today's devo teaches us-to help you sort out the situation as well as your feelings. (It may take a few tries to find one you're truly comfortable with). You have this community of Believers that will lift you up in prayer. Ask the Lord to lead you & watch for Him to do just that. Live in Truth, because you have the knowledge that this type of lifestyle is not right– your entire family are experiencing such pain–talk in love with your Mother. I'll be lifting you and she BOTH up! Your Dad has to make his own decision to repent and follow the Lord, you cannot do it for him. Becoming argumentative and judgemental will not make him say "I want my life to be filled with the spirit of love my daughter has." But being passive and ignoring the behavior that is harmful to your family is also NOT appropriate. A Christian counselor will help you assess and address the situation as an adult–so be prepared to see it through a different set of eyes as well as being ready to take a stand for your emotional self and that of your family. Thank you for sharing your situation so that this body of Belivers can lift you up & pray for you!

    • Dawn

      Dear Confusedandhurt,
      I will also be praying for you and your family, and I will particularly pray that you find both direction and peace. I am so sorry you are going through this, but I am also so proud of you for keeping your focus on Jesus. Know that you are loved – by God and by us.
      Hugs and love,
      Dawn

    • Missy

      I am praying for you! Praying God would fill you with His live and peace. I also pray that he would lead and guide you to do His will.. Even if it is hard. Remember only what is brought into light can be healed. Things hidden in darkness are not what God would want. Whether you are the person to bring it into light is for Him to show you. But praying it would be brought to light so that healing can begin. Praying for strength and Truth!!

    • Cindy Barge

      Truth
      Deceit
      You are living in an atmosphere of deceit.
      You need truth on which to stand.
      My prayer for you is that you will seek and find truth in God's word. Write every truth you find down so you can refer to it when things spin toward craziness.
      I just searched for the verse "Record the vision, inscribe it on tablets" and found Isaiah 30. I believe the good stuff in there is for you.
      Love never fails.
      God changes lives.
      Prayer changes things.
      God loves you.
      He loves you.
      More than your mind can fathom, God loves you.

    • unitedinprayer

      Thank you for your honesty and I am glad you were able to let your thoughts and feelings out of you. It is important for you to not swallow this pain and let it eat you alive. I will definitely be praying for you and your family.. As many other sisters have said I encourage you to stop reading/looking at his phone, at this point you know enough and you will only hurt yourself more. I was once where you were and though my dad wasn't an addict he did cheat on my mom. He was my hero, he was who I looked up to, he had always encouraged us to live in the word of God and love God above all. When all of this happened my heart was destroyed. The person I admire the most not only disappointed me but hurt my mom deeply. They decided to stay together and though many years have past the scars continue to heal. If I could go back in time I would have made it a point to talk to him, I was around your age when this happened. I think at this point you are old enough to share your feelings and respectfully let your dad know how concerned you are. I didn't do this and until today I struggle letting go of this feeling of disgust, and pain. Though I know God is healing me and he is walking with me through this process. May God guide you and lead you through this journey, don't give up God will move in his heart and his eyes will be opened. We declare it in the name of Jesus

      Blessings

    • Lesley

      Blessings to you Dear One. We are all lifting you up to Jesus, where you will find the comfort and peace that surpass your situation. I too have recently been caught in a situation of deceit and betrayal and it can be so hurtful and confusing. The temptation is to think that you can figure it out, that you can inspire, or convince, or confront someone in the right way to make them change… You on your own cant, you will just drive yourself crazy. I agree with the sisters on here that Al Anon and counselling from a pastor would be really great supports. The best, in my experience, has been to turn to Christ. Right in that moment when you find your mind turning to the problem. Right then, turn to him and ask for help. Lately when my mind turns to my ‘tempting situation’ ( tempting me to anger, judgement, fear, jealousy etc) I say out loud ‘STOP!’ And then , if I can’t remember how to pray or what to ask for, I just say His name out loud over and over.
      Jesus Jesus Jesus…. He will come to you, calm you, and guide you thru!!
      Praying that you remember to turn to him.
      He is at work in your family. Much Love to you all.

    • Christa

      Praying for you tonight. Praying that light will shine in the darkness. Praying God's abundant love and grace would pour out of you towards him and you experience loving out of the power of the Holy Spirit, and that reconcilation on all fronts would happen.

    • Zoë

      I am praying for you now – someone in your church or a local church would definitely help and support you in this. Please go and ask for a pastor or woman’s support, it’s so hard to do it alone! God gives us wonderful community to help up in these hard times. – in Jesus :)

  • We have recently as a church, taken up the creed…This I Believe by Hillsong, has become our Anthem. <a href="http://.http://youtu.be/uuDI-sk2nJU” target=”_blank”>.http://youtu.be/uuDI-sk2nJU and I have to say, I sing it most days…a reaffirmation of what I believe, just as Paul writes to Timothy……'..the pillar and foundation of the truth. Beyond all question, the mystery of godliness is great…

    I believe in God our Father…I believe in Christ the Son…I believe in the Holy Spirit, our God is three in one….I believe in the resurrection..that we will rise again….I believe in the Name of Jesus…

    Declaring today, and every day from this day forth…that I BELIEVE IN THE NAME OF JESUS… The creed that holds my life together, that puts into perspective, what the life I live, should be …for, with and to whom ALL glory belongs…I Believe in the Name of Jesus….

    I love the hidden treasure of the words, we could so easily have brushed over…'For EVERYTHING God created is good….I just love that…Everything…Seeing things in a new light today…I believe in God our Father…. I Believe in the name of Jesus…Amen…

    Good and Beautiful ones, Good Morning…the sun is out, the sky is blue here…praying the sun is shining where you are tooooo…Happy Monday..xxx

    • Candacejo

      The sun IS finally shining where I am!! ♥

    • missmadison

      Thank you so much for sharing that song! It has made my morning. I just listened to it once but I could feel my faith being reaffirmed. Not to mention I was already singing along :) I hope you have a wonderful day.

    • ~ B ~

      LOVE that song! ~ B

    • Katie_K

      That song is great, thank you :)

    • Kimi

      thank you for sharing this song. listened to it and love it. it will be in my head for days and it's going on my play list.

  • kubrenna

    Remind one another, including ourselves, of the truth is solo important. This line jumped out at me: "it is crucial to understand the reason behind what we do and who we live for if we are going to stand strong in our faith." It made me immediate think back to 1 Timothy 6:12. If we are going to fight the good fight, we have to know why.

    • LeAnn

      This stood out to me so much too! I totally needed this lesson and especially on this day, today!

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