In Everything Give Thanks: Day 8

Give Thanks In Sorrow


Today's Text: Psalm 31:1-24, Psalm 34:18, Psalm 56:8

Text: Psalm 31:1-24, Psalm 34:18, Psalm 56:8

If your heart is broken, you’ll find God right there; if you’re kicked in the gut, he’ll help you catch your breath.”
- Psalm 34:18, The Message

I don’t know if you’ve ever lived with someone who was learning to play a musical instrument, but if you have, I bet you know about a glorious little piece of metal called a mute.

Growing up, my younger brother played every instrument he could get his hands on—the trumpet, guitar, piano, ukulele and, unfortunately, the bagpipes. I loved being part of a musical family. I didn’t love being part of a we’re-learning-to-be-musical family.

“Can’t you find a mute for that thing?” was my most frequented phrase, hoping for a silenced version of “Hot Cross Buns.”

One day, my brother came home with a new piece of music in hand. The composer’s note at the top read, “Play muted, with sorrow.”

He began playing the song on his trumpet, and I braced myself for sweet relief as he transitioned into the “sorrow” section. Much to my dismay and delight, I learned that the mute did not silence the sound, it just changed it. The piercing, shrill signature of the instrument was replaced by a deliciously pleasing sound. The sound emerging from the horn was unlike anything that could be produced by the trumpet alone.

Sometimes, I feel like God is asking me to put a mute on my feelings. When His Word says to be thankful in every situation, I find myself thinking, Even in this? In grief, in fear, in sorrow? You can’t possibly mean in this.

It’s easy to forget that all songs of thanksgiving don’t have the same sound. I don’t know exactly what musical directions were given when the Psalms were played as songs, but I can guess that many of them were instructed to be played “with sorrow.”

God doesn’t ask us to silence our sorrow in favor of thanksgiving. Rather, He uses our sorrow to proclaim a type of thanksgiving we wouldn’t be able to express otherwise.

Just like the trumpet’s song wasn’t any less a melody because of its change in pitch, your sorrow isn’t any less a sound of thanksgiving than your highest shouts of joy.

Extracted from all earthly attachments, void of trimmings and trumpets sounding, sorrow is a connection to Christ and our need for Him in its purest form. And, Sister, the world needs to hear that.

You’ve sized up your grief of what was lost, what should be, or what will never be, and felt the sharp pangs of this fallen world. You’ve avoided playing a thanksgiving song because it won’t sound the same as before. But by doing so, you’re withholding one of the most precious tunes the world has ever heard—the tune of Glory.

Thanksgiving doesn’t devour your sorrow, but it acknowledges the Glory that will.
The thanks be to Him who says our sorrows will be worth it.
The giving of our souls to say that, even if our earthly hopes have been deferred, our eternal hope will never be lost.

When you think you’ll never again be able to sing a song of thanksgiving, try it anyway. Our hearts may not be comfortable praising tragedy, loss, or bad days, but our hearts were created to praise the Hope of Glory.

Allow Him to work in your sorrow, friends. Even—and especially—if it’s muted.



Kaitlin Wernet is a Carolina girl who now plants her feet in Tennessee as the Community Coordinator for She Reads Truth. Each day, she excitedly celebrates grace with her SRT sisters while attempting to tame her curly hair and avoid parallel parking.

  • Keela Bunger

    What a beautiful reminder

  • My best friend lost her 2 year old son to cancer this past July. It’s the most excruciating pain she has ever experienced. I hope and pray she feels God close to her broken heart.
    How does a mother ever recover from such a loss? How will she ever be joyful again? I want so badly for her to trust God again.

  • Exactly what I needed today. I was recently reconnected with my love who I lost touch with a couple years ago only to find he is a severe alcoholic in denial and closed off to help. My heart aches for his pain and has such deep sorrow because I know I cannot love him anymore even though I do still. I spend my days and nights weeping. I can’t sleep. I grieve for my friend and pray on his behalf. I want him to know peace, but I don’t know if that day will ever come.

  • Siobhan Milburn

    Thank you- I praise God for using you…. After recently losing my sister I needed this

  • My husband and I have been grieving the loss of our child we never got to meet. This study plan is one of my favorite and I’m so glad it came to mind as I was seeking what to do next. Being thankful… Praising God takes my eyes off me and puts them on HIM who heals and restores… And gives HOPE. :) thank you SRT!

    • SheReadsTruth

      Beth, know that I am praying for you and your husband now, asking God to meet you today with His peace. Grieving and trusting and hoping with you. Love to you, sweet friend!


  • BlessedandFavored

    I’m just so thankful I can praise him in the good times as well as the bad

  • Sarah Hinckle

    “Sorrow is a connection to Christ and our need for Him in its purest form.”

    Letting this sink in today. It’s so true that when I feel the worst… The Lord draws me near. I’m so thankful for Our God and the Fathers heart toward his children. “He is near to the brokenhearted.”

  • This was so beautiful! I love this whole devotional series so far. It’s one I know ill retread many times. It has helped me get through some tough times by reminding me to constantly be thankful and seek and trust God!

  • This was one of the most beautiful things I’ve read in a long time. Psalm 31:19&24 especially. Wow. In the midst of longing for a second child and being broken-hearted month after month that it just isn’t happening I so needed to read this today. He has good and abundant things stored up for those who fear Him and whatever that means or whatever that looks like, I can take heart and hope in Him. So timely and so powerful. What a blessing today. As a daughter of a musician I related to the devotion part as well and loved it. Thank you so much.

    • SheReadsTruth

      Rachel, I am so grateful The Lord used these words to encourage you! Praying His peace over you today.


  • RaylynnA

    I really needed this tonight. I just ended my relationship with my boy friend after 4 years of being together. Although I am discouraged and distraught, I have to remember to praise Him for allowing me to grow through this time.

  • Ryleigh Puckett

    This devotional is just amazing… It’s going perfectly with my reading of the book “one thousand gifts”

  • Michelle Bowen

    By far one of the best reads! so thankful for every thing.

  • Courtney Thompson

    This was profound, thank you so much.

  • I get it.

  • Wow this was a really powerful message and perspective. Thank you srt!

  • I love reading about this. I feel like so many times we get told that we are too emotional or that we are to simply dismiss our feelings and praise the lord. But he does indeed hear us and hurt with us. He just asks us to rejoice in him and place our trust in him, which results in thankfulness in a special way.

  • Such a powerful article… All my power to get through the day is drawn from the lord Jesus. He is the glue that keeps me together.

    • SheReadsTruth

      Amen!! Thanks for joining us, Theresa! Love to you!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • I remember reading in the bible ( I cant remember which part sorry) that said "self pity is a deep hole – and the edges crumble easily" I found that really powerful…. It helps me focus on the gift of faith. Its this faith in Jesus that helps me feel better. – Great article

  • Meganrose

    Thank you! I look forward everyday for a chance to read these Devotionals!!! It has immensely helped me discover Gods radiant peace that covers all anxiety!!

  • Pesticide

    This was beautiful! So full of God's comforting grace and love

  • Insect control

    this is one of those pieces of writing that is filled with so much goodness that I need to re read it daily. my heart is broken and I wake up unexpectedly every night at 2 am and grab my phone to find comfort in SRT. thank you for being a counselor/friend/therapist when the rest of the world is silent

    • SheReadsTruth

      Sweet friend, know that you are being prayed for. Asking God to cleanse your anxiety with His peace and give you rest. So glad you joined us at 2 am! We love you!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • مكافحة الحشرات

    this is one of those pieces of writing that is filled with so much goodness that I need to re read it daily. my heart is broken and I wake up unexpectedly every night at 2 am and grab my phone to find comfort in SRT. thank you for being a counselor/friend/therapist when the rest of the world is silent.

  • This is my favorite by far. I have never thought of how my pleas for less pain are a true connection to God.

  • My absolute favorite one so far. Oh Lord how I needed this reminder. I’m going through a difficult season and I have had the wrong attitude pretty much this whole time. “The giving of our souls to say that, even if our earthly hopes have been deferred our eternal hope will never be lost.” I need to memorize that and remind myself of that constantly. It’s something I knew, but it never quite clicked.

  • Tracey Long

    Read this as I just heard the news that a sweet sister in Christ has now seen JESUS face to face. Praying for her devoted husband and the rest of their family.

    Praising Jesus for His redemption and salvation! Praising Jesus that he can use even death for His glory!

  • Praying for a dear sister in Christ as she fights for her life today in the icu on life support. May her family give thanks even in this as they trust Him. Amen

  • This is genius! Straight from the Lord and "His higher than our ways of thinking." I so needed this. :)

  • I cried all the way through this. It was sooo good.

    And if you ever figure out how to tame your curly hair, do share your secret with us! I avoid parallel parking like the plague. Hehe!

  • “When you think you’ll never again be able to sing a song of thanksgiving, try it anyway.” Yes and amen.

  • Emily Thibodeaux

    “It’s easy to forget that all songs of thanksgiving don’t have the same sound.” Beautifully put.

  • What a beautiful and honest post about sorrow. “God doesn’t ask us to silence our sorrow in favor of thanksgiving. Rather, He uses our sorrow to proclaim a type of thanksgiving we wouldn’t be able to express otherwise.” – I LOVE that. Too many do ask others to silence sorrow and that does so much damage – as if us feeling sorrow reflects badly on God. Thanks for this!!!

  • Kaitlin, thank you so very much for this beautiful devotion, so 'God inspired-ly written..a great message…I totally love….
    Thanksgiving doesn’t devour your sorrow, but it acknowledges the Glory that will.
    The thanks be to Him who says our sorrows will be worth it.
    The giving of our souls to say that, even if our earthly hopes have been deferred, our eternal hope will never be lost.
    Thank you for this again, Kaitlin…xxx

  • I lost my baby to miscarriage yesterday when you posted this and a friend sent this devotional to me. Thank you for the reminder. So thankful for the comfort that only our Father in heaven can provide.

    • Laila

      I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My heart goes out to you. I pray you lean on God during this time of grief and mourning.

  • So grateful for this post: for the succinctly beautiful expression of a truth that so easily evades us. It is a gift, I think, from our Heavenly Father to sing a song of thanks in each situation and with our heart (though affected by the situation, yes) singing out to The One who is our all in them.
    I am saving this and know it will be shared with those attempting to sing a beautiful song in sorrow.

  • Clarivel Ann

    These Psalms plus the promise of Romans 8 that He makes all things work together for good cause me do consider how our sorrow is not just a by-product of the trials that strengthen and refine product. Sorrow was intentionally allowed by our God who loves us so much and knows just what we’re capable of when letting Him take the lead. This is amazing truth! Thank you!

  • So thankful for this post and community! Thankful for a God who is there in all our emotions, but most especially in our sorrow.

  • Melissa Peach

    My dad is in second stage Alzheimers at the young age of 66 and last night he was very confused wanting to go home even though he was already home. I have been grieving all day for him and my mom and for all of us really. This devotional came at the perfect time. I love this especially “… sorrow is a connection to Christ and our need for him in its purest form.” Thank you balm for my sorrowful heart.

  • I normally read the SRT devotion first thing in the morning before anything else is done. This morning I just didn't want to, I wrestled with it, because it's my time with God, starting my day, but I just didn't want to read. So I didn't. Late this afternoon was the funeral for my brother in laws mother and early this evening I learned my best friend's father lost his battle with cancer. Seeking words of comfort I turned to my SRT devotion….give thanks in times of sorrow,,,,God's timing is perfect. He knew I would need this more tonight than I did this morning. Thank you Lord for constantly giving your best to me, I pray that I would always remember this and strive to give my best to you.

    • Kaitlin Wernet

      Tammy, I’m so thankful that He brought you here! Praying for you and your family and trusting that our sorrows have purpose! Love to you! Xo-Kaitlin

  • “You’ve avoided playing a thanksgiving song because it won’t sound the same as before.” As others have already commented, this is such beautiful writing, thank you for sharing with us and giving us all permission to acknowledge the things that change our thanksgiving tune. There are so many people facing tough situations within this community.

    Thank you for reminding us that it’s still just as important and valuable to give thanks in those times, even if we’re “muted, and with sorrow.” It’s scary, but thanks.

    • SheReadsTruth

      Becca, it's absolutely scary. So proud of your bravery already to acknowledge your change in tune. Beyond grateful that we are in this together to stand each other up on His promises! We love having you in our community!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • Our family is going through many challenges as I face depression head on. I’ve been living silently and have carried so much anger at my not being able to “just get better.” It’s been so hard to rejoice in moments. Being around family has been something I dread as I just want to isolate myself. Closing in on all the holidays leaves me excited to see family but also anxious for if I have a moment that triggers a depressive or anxiety filled moment. However, as shameful as I felt about calling it by name, I am grateful to have found the strength to finally talk about and fight through this. I couldn’t do it without my husband, and God speaking through him to me.

    • SheReadsTruth

      Nicole, what bravery! It takes a lot to be vulnerable, but there is NO shame! You are seen, known and loved. Trusting that your sorrow has so much purpose, and praying for you during the holidays! Love to you!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

    • Candace

      My heart breaks for you, sister, because I was healed from a major bout of depression a few months ago. I know the pain and agony of just wanting to feel "normal" again, and trying to figure out how to function in a life where you feel like a completely different person. I wanted to share with you a couple of things that people told me during the darkest days that now looking back on the situation, carried me through:
      1. Give yourself grace- depression is not just something you can "get over." Try to pray and read Scripture daily, but if you can't, don't beat yourself up over it. I couldn't pay attention long enough to pray. And it was ok. The Lord knew my thoughts.
      2. Read Psalm 139:11-12. These verses sustained me. And know that your darkness is not dark to your God!
      3. The Lord is holding you, even when you don't have the strength to hold onto him.
      Praying for you sister.

      • Nicole

        Thank you so much Candace. Knowing other women, such as yourself, have gone through and are coming out the other side gives me so much hope. Thank you :)

        • Faith

          I also recommend reading My Name is Hope, by a pastor who suffers from anxiety and depression.

  • bringbackhisgirls

    I love how at the beginning of Psalm 31, David is pouring His heart out in sorrow, asking and pleading for the Lord to be His refuge, His stronghold: "Turn your ear to listen to me; rescue me quickly. Be my rock of protection, a fortress where I will be safe" (Psalm 31:2, NLT). I got teary-eyed as I read just how honest and forthcoming David was about his hopeless, panicked situation. Yet, his tone changes in the psalm, and by the end of the psalm he's praising the Lord for being His stronghold and rock: "Praise the Lord,
    for he has shown me the wonders of his unfailing love. He kept me safe when my city was under attack. In panic I cried out, 'I am cut off from the Lord!' But you heard my cry for mercy and answered my call for help" (Psalm 31:21-22).

    I love this. The honesty, being able to see how the Lord has changed and encouraged David's heart as David pours it out to Him. It seems that I haven't let the Lord be my rock, my refuge, my safe place for awhile. Lord, forgive me for trying to rely upon my own strength and understanding instead of just being honest with you.

    In the midst of great sorrow– much fear, much anxiety, many chaotic things that needed to be straightened out in my life– the Lord answered my prayers for salvation from a mental issue I've been having for awhile. It didn't happen in the way I was thinking, but oh, how it was exactly what I needed. Verses 7-8 of this psalm were exactly my praises to Him: "I will be glad and rejoice in your love, for you saw my affliction and knew the anguish of my soul. You have not given me into the hands of the enemy but have set my feet in a spacious place."

    Amen. Thank you, Lord Jesus, for the praises we cry in the midst of the pain. You are worthy of that praise, and are faithful to lead us through and up out of every valley in Your timing alone.

    It all reminds me of a song: Valley Song by Jars of Clay. It's so beautiful. Praying that it encourages it's listeners, today.

    Be blessed, sisters. All of you are in my prayers. I love you all.

  • In July, my 4 month old son passed away. This year I have been dreading the holidays. I feel like some days are good, and a lot are not so good. It’s still hard for me to sing songs of thanksgiving but I try. Even in the sorrow I still find things to be thankful for and in it all, life is still good. Thank you for this reminder.

    • SheReadsTruth

      Jamie, I'm so heartbroken with you and sorry for your loss. Asking that God would send incomprehensible comfort and peace to you during the holidays, like we know only He can do! Trusting that your sorrow not only has purpose, but is bringing Hope Of Glory beyond understanding to this world! Love to you!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • Thank you so very much for your message today. I have been going through my own trials and have been stuck in a tunnel of self pity. I have been focused on everything that I do not have and the haves of others around me… Even to the point of judging whether or not I felt that they deserved their blessings ( its petty… i know ). It has been horrible. I have not been able to find my joy. So what you wrote today couldn't have come at a more perfect time. As of today I will choose to be thankful and make sure to give all glory to God. I am a blessed and I have the love and support of my family during this difficult period of my life. In reality I am truly blessed. Thank you for helping me to soften my heart and remember what is really important.

  • "Our sorrows will be worth it" and "our eternal hope will never be lost." Praise God for that. God never promised us a life absent of pain while we walk in this fallen world. When God can work glory without pain, He does. But sometimes He can't. And sometimes it's going to hurt. But someday it will be worth it. That is so hard for me to acknowledge in the moments of pain. But I've seen Him do it. I have seen Him use tragedies and losses and hurt in my life and the lives of those around me for His glory…even if in some cases it has taken YEARS for the pain to be redeemed and to bring glory. It's worth the wait, but it's hard to do. Maywe allI be stong and have courage in our hurts, may we all give thanks in our pain.

  • I’m finding that the older I get, the harder I have to fight for joy and to see the good. It is interesting that as I look at my life and see that I am not where I want to be – I am filled with disappointment, then sorrow, then anger. And knowing this tainted perspective, viewing it with some realism I know that I am the only one who can choose to change my attitude in response to my feelings.
    But sometimes, it doesn’t seem worth it. After two big moves in two years, I’m lonely and exhausted from uprooting twice. The thought of doing that transitional hard work for a second time sends me in a panic.
    But God … is showing me my brokenness all over again. Oh, life. Praying for perspective, honest introspection, and a heart ready to surrender it all.
    Because I realize (yet again) that I can not fix this alone. Only He can set my feet on solid ground, on a clearer path. Only He can wipe away my disappointments, sorrows, and angers. Only He can change my heart to sing a new song. Grateful that I am not alone. Full of thanks that He will shape me and change my praise in and through my struggles. Because He has it all – and always has. Thank you, Lord.

  • Thank You for the hope that is still alive even in our sorrow! I will praise Him all of my days. The holidays are going to be hard for my children and I since the passing of my husband 5 1/2 months ago but we rejoice in knowing “in a little while” we will see him again because of the promise Jesus gives us. We don’t grieve as the world grieves, we have Hope!!

    • SheReadsTruth

      Heartbroken with you, Stacy. Trusting that He will use our sorrow mightily, and asking that He will show you glimpses of glory in the midst of pain! Love to you!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • "God doesn’t ask us to silence our sorrow in favor of thanksgiving. Rather, He uses our sorrow to proclaim a type of thanksgiving we wouldn’t be able to express otherwise." I love that. My heart knows all He has done for me in my brokenness and I can praise Him with a fervor that wouldn't be there otherwise. It's sometimes easier for me to stuff those feelings and memories of heartbreak deep down, trying not to remember them because they hurt so much. But God gently reminds me, when those memories creep up, that He rescues those whose spirits are crushed (ps. 34:18) and sets them in a safe place! I can't deny the goodness that he LAVISHES on me when I see how far he has brought me.

    What an awesome way to celebrate this thanksgiving week! :)

  • Kaitlin, this post is amazing. Thank you for sharing with us and opening my eyes to new truths. Bless you!

    • SheReadsTruth

      Heather, thank you so much for joining us! Praying for you this week!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • I never comment, even though I an in love with this app and use it every day…but this may be the best post I have read at she reads truth. Thank you for speaking to our griefs today, as we enter into this holiday week. I needed this. Here’s to the hope of glory.

    • SheReadsTruth

      Sarah, I am so glad you decided to comment today! We love having you in our community and I'm so thankful to hear that God is using these words to encourage you. Praying for you during the holidays, trusting that your sorrow is acknowledging great glory!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • Melanie Makovsky

    I don’t usually comment, but today I just want to say how thankful I am for this message. Tomorrow I leave to visit my mother for the holiday, and this thanksgiving day will be one year since my father’s funeral. I am realizing this week that the holiday will now always be a hard one for me. My father was my hero. But my thanksgiving will always be the joy of my salvation and his. Praise be to God, who loves us with reckless abandon, even at our weakest. Especially at our weakest.

    • SheReadsTruth

      Hi, sweet Melanie. My heart is just breaking with you, friend! Trusting that your sorrow will acknowledge a greater glory and that this year, it would bring you closer to Our Father. Who loves us with reckless abandon-love that! Love you!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • This was what I needed to hear today too. I lost my 4 day old baby girl a year and a half ago, and it is hard to know how to be thankful in the depths of grief. I have a healthy baby boy now, but it is still a struggle each day to be thankful without my girl! I love how you said you change your tune of thanksgiving! God is still good through it all!

    • Jenny Raymond

      I have no words for this, but want you to know that my heart hurts for you and that your post was seen. Prayers and hugs, Jesus loves you.

    • SheReadsTruth

      Aching with you, friend. Trusting in His promises and leaning on His love with you! He IS good through it all! I know that your sorrowful thanksgiving will bring Him great glory!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • I was really, really encouraged by this reading today! Thank you for sharing this. My 19 year old brother was tragically killed in April this year and this will be our family's first Thanksgiving without him and it is very painful for me! We were a family of nine children (all from the same mother and father) and are very close to each other. Our circle has been broken and the tear is almost unbearable sometimes. I wonder to myself sometimes," How can God use this, did he really have to take my brother ?" But then I read these verses and realize I may never find the answers to these questions, but I desperately cling to a God who sees everything , knew what was coming, knows my struggles, feels every bit of my brokenness, and He PROMISES to reward me if only I trust in Him…. I needed the reminder to keep my eyes on Christ and not on the questions or the feelings. I look forward now to the Holidays knowing that if I keep my eyes on Him, He will do all things well.

    • Kaitlin Wernet

      Oh, Diane. Your comment stood out to me today for sure! I actually wrote this post in response to the recent loss of my 20 year old brother. I’m so familiar with the questioning and the unbearableness of it all. I’m grateful that He continues to show purpose and glimpses of glory along the way. Joining you in leaning on His love today and especially this week. Praying for you and your family, sweet one! Xoxo, Kaitlin

  • This is such a powerful post. Through this series, I've tried to give thanks "in spite" of whatever I'm going through. Sorrow, uncertainty, stress. Reminding myself to be ever thankful for the blessings I have, and the way in which God has provided for me and my family. This is a different perspective, and I love the message. It's through our sorrow that we become closer to Christ. Not "in spite" of it.

    • SheReadsTruth

      Love that so much, Kelly! I love how you said that through our sorrow we become closer to Christ, not in spite of it! What truth! Thanks for sharing, friend!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • I like the reminder that “our sorrows will be worth it.”

  • Laura Jernigan

    Side note for Kaitlin – Find a Ouidad certified salon, get the Ouidad cut and use Ouidad products. Your hair will never look better! You can look me up on Insta, I just got mine cut Fri!

  • I have really enjoyed this study. I bought the journal and love it so much.
    holding on to the hope that our times of sorrow will truly be worth it if we continue to be thankful, give thanks, rejoice and praise Him through it ALL

  • This was just very fitting for the morning….im thankful my mom asked me to read it because I have going through some sorrow and needed the reminder to stay positive.

    • Brandi

      It is amazing to me how God works! I got your txt, opened up the devotional, read the scripture and prayed it for you. I opened up this portion and the verse at the top mentioned getting "kicked in the gut" which reminded me of what you said in your txt! God knows our every thought and fear and concern! He's faithful and will never leave us or forsake us! And He's always speaking! I pray He draws you close to Himself today with a loving kindness! I love you so!
      p.s. Thanks for minding me. Lol!

      • Jenny Raymond

        What a joy to me see you both here together! Praying for you both.

    • SheReadsTruth

      So thankful you joined us, Zoe! Praying for you in your sorrow, friend! Trusting that He will use it mightily!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • Yesterday, a close friend awakened with the information of her dear sister -in -law to be had taken her own life on Saturday night. This reading is perfect for her today! Thank you so much for your words. Thank you Lord Jesus for being her source of comfort and refuge!

    • Onfaith

      Prayerful over your friend and her family. We lost a friend to suicide in August. It leaves a heart wrenching space for those left behind. Praying for peace and comfort in this season and a feeling that God is with them. That the answers they seek are found in Him. ~ B

  • stinav96

    Good morning! And thank you so much, Kaitlin, for this beautiful post!

    "Extracted from all earthly attachments, void of trimmings and trumpets sounding, sorrow is a connection to Christ and our need for Him in its purest form." This line reminded me of the fact that Jesus was "a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief" (Isaiah 53:3). What an amazing (and painful) way to connect with Christ…. in much the same way He lived on this earth. Humbling, indeed. Hold us fast in your righteous right hand, Lord, that we remain faithful to praise you in the sorrow and grief. In Jesus' Name.

  • Love this. Thank you!

  • These words … "Thanksgiving doesn’t devour your sorrow, but it acknowledges the Glory that will." The troubles in this world are so mounting, the pressures, paralyzing and the disappointment, catastrophic. It's hard to reason with the physical, to find peace in this world, to find relief from pain, which is why the only true relief & peace come from outside this world, they are truly heaven sent. I thought about this last night. Yesterday it was 15 years I lost my sweet Dad and two days prior what would've been my Mom's 74th birthday and the anniversary of my beloved grandmother's death, all in one weekend. I'm an easygoing person, it takes much to upset me and I know that my parents are home with their parents, but there are those moments. One being when I have to comfort my daughter over grandparents day in school. I was happy she'd not endure that now in a new homeschool program, but, of course, that is not so. She is surrounded by kids with their Papas and Mimas, while she sits and watches. She will never recall life with a grandparent, nor will my youngest, and my eldest's memories are bittersweet. THIS surpasses all I've endured in life, too many to recount. I sat last night, finally letting the tears drip, and allowing myself to be sad that I'm without my parents. I'm so thankful that Glory devours my sorrow and ensures my peace and joy. That I can endure in this world, a variety of hurts and excruciating pains, but that Glory protects my home in heaven. It covers me in a saturated comfort and binds my heart to Christ! Time lessens the pains and losses of this world, but it can not erase the greatness of God's promises …. They endure in our joys and our perils! ~ B

  • This was beautiful! So full of God’s comforting grace and love!

    This… just So. Much. THIS: “Thanksgiving doesn’t devour your sorrow, but it acknowledges the Glory that will.”

    Praising in the sorrow – in the trouble, the difficulty, the hard times – doesn’t mean rejoicing our pain, the trial, or sadness – it is praising the One we know can, and will, carry us through to the other side! AMEN!


  • Kendall_S

    musings on Psalm 31:

    David seeks refuge in the Lord
    He names God as his Rock and Fortress
    He reminds himself to trust in the Lord
    He asks for grace in his distress
    He feels like he's a reproach to all others
    Again he reminds himself to trust in the Lord
    He names God's goodness as abundant
    He cries "Blessed be the Lord"
    And "Love the Lord!'

    I love the pattern of how David lays out his heart and hurts to God but always circles back to who God is above what he is going through. David has a right perspective on who God is – trustworthy, good, abundant, loving, a Rock, a Fortress, full of grace…….

    This psalm truly shows us what Kaitlin reminded us this morning: our sorrow is a connection to Christ and our need for Him in purest form.

    Thank you Father that You know. You relate. You comfort. You understand. All praise and thanksgiving be to You alone. Amen.

  • Sarah @ RunSingTeach

    Yes! Thank you Kaitlin. It has been month since my beloved went home to Jesus. In that time my sorrow and grief has interrupted every thought. I seek for ways to offer my thanks to God amid the suffering and I’m grateful to have been pointed to the psalms.

    • Sarah , your comment is short so others may not have seen it but I did and lift you up. Your beloved. Your husband? One month. I cannot imagine. What sorrow. Or what song your heart could be open to sing these days. Praying for the lord to be close to your broken heart dear sister.

    • Jenny Raymond

      Praying for you. Praying that He brings you breakthrough rays of His love in the storm that give you moments of joy as you walk through this time with Him. I’m so sorry.

    • SheReadsTruth

      Sarah, lifting you up right now. You are seen and loved, dear friend! The Psalms are my go-to refuge passages in The Bible, and I'm praying they would provide comfort to you today!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • Whether circumstances were bitter or bright, all my life, by God’s saving grace, I’ve always been someone who could easily find gratitude, be positive, stay hopeful. In the midst, though, of two miscarriages this year, job loss, and being hurt by a beloved church, I have struggled to find hope, be joyful, stay connected to gratitude. This version of me, with hormones amok, crying at the drop of a hat, and desperately longing for the easy joy that has always come so naturally to me… it’s so foreign. I don’t feel like myself, and honestly… I’m tired of this version of me. So exhausted by striving for joy and thanksgiving, when they have always come so naturally.

    In the midst of all this, in the times when I can seemingly claw my way to a place of gratitude for a few moments, when the Christian knowledge in my head overcomes the pain in my heart, and when I manage to artistically scrawl out some positive truth on an Instagram photo… it feels so fleeting and so false. It feels forced. Even though I know the Truth, and the praise is real, the thanksgiving is somehow different. It’s hard fought. It’s mournful in such a painful way. It’s muted and full of sorrow.

    I’ve sized up my grief of what was lost, what should be, or what will never be, and felt the sharp pangs of this fallen world. My thanksgiving song does not sound the same. Am I playing a tune of Glory? In the fleeting moments of gratitude and positivity and Truth… I don’t feel glorious. Oh, how I want to sing a song of Glory!

    I’m grateful for the Truth today, as always, but… it’s a hard one today. Muted. Full of sorrow.

    • Candacejo

      Bless your heart today EZ….I know so many can relate to your pain and suffering…wanting to find joy in the sorrow. That is the comforting hope I think, that joy and happiness are not the same. Happiness depends on our feelings but JOY is in Jesus, constant, eternal, always our refuge even when things don't go as we had planned. Even when we don't understand. He is there.

      Paul said that whatever state he found himself in he was content. Sounds easy to say but oh, so hard to do! Maybe finding one thing to be grateful for every day and actually thanking God for it several times, would help our focus on the gratitude part of our lives. To thank Him in all things, regardless of our circumstances and know that there are better days coming. Our gratitude is a testimony to others, especially when we are going through adversity.

      Jesus, help EZ, (and me!) to find gratitude in the little everyday things so that we may also praise you in the BIG and important ones. Give her comfort in her loss and hope for her circumstances to turn around. Help her to find reason to be grateful and thankful in all things. You are that reason. In Jesus name. ♥

    • sweetdes2014

      Your thanksgiving may not sound the same as in the past, but I praise God that you are still pressing forward. That press puts you closer to His presence. In His presence you will find all that you need. Praying for you!

    • stinav96

      Prayers for you this morning, EZ! I, too, have been through seasons where it feels like what once was natural has been robbed from me, and it is a fight to live out the Truth I believe. I have miscarried. I am closely familiar with church hurts and job loss. But I have never experienced these things all together and multiple times over. What I did find after my greatest season of sorrow, hurt, and seeming defeat was that the gratitude, praise, and thanksgiving that blossomed from the soil of spiritual and relational death (and eventual renewal), the gratitude, praise and thanksgiving that was so hard fought for, has been the most humbling, heart-felt, soul-touching, true gratitude, praise and thanksgiving of my life. It didn't come all at once. It took time. But just like there is beauty in the Fall of the year, where leaves are dying in preparation for the trees hibernation until the spring of new life, there is beauty in these intense times of hurt and pain that seemingly kill who we once were. Father, help EZ to navigate and endure this pain. Comfort her right here and now. May you receive all the praise when the new life you have in store for her is revealed as the pain subsides. In Jesus' Name.

    • leia

      Praying for you sister!

      • EZ

        Thank you, sweet sisters. Although muted and full of sorrow, there is gratitude for you, nonetheless.

  • Candacejo

    When my heart is overwhelmed, lead me to that Rock that is higher than I. Thou hast been a shelter for me!

    This was such a blessing. Beautifully written and close to home for so many. He never promised we wouldn't go through trials, tests or adversity. He never promised we wouldn't suffer loss or pain, be sick or lonely or even depressed. Yes, depressed.

    What did He promise? That He would be WITH us, IN us and even CARRY us if necessary.

    I cling to those promises today. He is our constant HOPE! Here is my song of the day :) from All Sons & Daughters again, it goes so well with today's lesson. God With Us. So good!

    Be blessed on this Monday sisters. ♥

  • WatsonWillow

    this is one of those pieces of writing that is filled with so much goodness that I need to re read it daily. my heart is broken and I wake up unexpectedly every night at 2 am and grab my phone to find comfort in SRT. thank you for being a counselor/friend/therapist when the rest of the world is silent.

    • SheReadsTruth

      Hi sweet friend!
      I'm so glad you joined us today, and I'm thankful to hear that God is using these words to encourage you! Prayers for peace and rest coming your way!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • Margriet

    as I have battled a severe anxiety disorder for three years now and can’t seem to move forward, sometimes my praises hit a dry spell. But the Hillsong song ‘desert song’ reminds me that God is worthy of praise in every circumstance, even when you spend your days sitting on the couch and watch life pass you by. It sings: All of my life, in every season, You are still God- I have a reason to sing- I have a reason to worship!’ This piece reminded me of the same thing and comforts me. Thank you so much! If you want to follow along with my ‘praise in the desert’, I have a blog called Thanks again for this!

    • Tiffany

      Amen! That song is such a good reminder to sing in the desert. Thank you for sharing!

    • Stephanie

      That song has been one I've stood on for several years. In every season He is still God! Amen!

  • Kaitlin, thank you SO much for this. It came at the perfect time, and I'm so glad I stayed up to read it tonight.

    "Sorrow is a connection to Christ and our need for Him in its purest form. Thanksgiving doesn’t devour your sorrow, but it acknowledges the Glory that will. The THANKS be to Him who says our sorrows will be worth it."
    This. This got me in the gut, my friends.
    I'm gonna be honest for a second: I'm not feeling too thankful this week. Wednesday marks 1 year since Sebastian, our family's beloved pug died; while he was a dog, he was a huge part of my life from middle school til college, and I miss him terribly. He died suddenly and unexpectedly in my mom's arms 2 days before Thanksgiving last year. On top of this, the added stress of scary health issues (both physical and mental) and me being in the midst of the college semester from heck, I'm not the most grateful person on the planet right now.
    I'm working on it, and am so thankful for a God that meets me where I am and can handle my anger and sadness. My thankful tune is so vastly different than what it once was, but it's still worth singing. I hope I can start singing it again soon.

    Again, Kaitlin, thank you for your words. They haven't fallen on deaf ears today. xoxo

    • Chris

      Bless you Jordan, may our Lord lead you to those still waters and green pastures today.

    • Karen Sue

      Sometimes when I can’t “sing” in the midst of sorrow and trials I at least try to “hum”.

    • Mimi

      I understand how you are feeling as you remember what happened a year ago. 2013 brought three great losses to my family, starting with our first dog in April, my mother(so very very difficult!) in June, and then Thanksgiving our 2nd dog, but looking back I see how God was present,
      How He held me and how He has gotten me through this year. I hold on to all of that when I praise/glorify Him and thank Him for His comfort and love! He will get you through this!

    • SheReadsTruth

      Jordan-I love the truth that it is still WORTH SINGING! What joy! Love to you, friend!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

    • bringbackhisgirls

      Jordan, I will be praying for you this week as you experience this sad one year anniversary. I, too, am having some mental problems that can be scary, and I completely understand how all of this creates a perfect reason for us to not be thankful. Praying that you'd see Christ's faithfulness in this time of loss and fear, knowing just how near He is to you.

      Jesus, hold my sister Jordan in your arms today. Let her know that You are God, and that because of this she can rest easy in Your presence and Your peace. Hold her breaking heart and strengthen her weary, limply-hanging hands with Your bold love, strength, and encouragement. Show her Your face, and let her rejoice in Your nearness, no matter the present suffering. Let her know just how loved she is, on here, in real life, and by You. You have a reason for these trials, dear Lord, and I pray that You'd give her wisdom and understanding to understand, if even a little bit better, why these things are happening. Ultimately though, Father, I pray she'd have the faith in You to cling to Your promises and Your truth, no matter if she understands these things or not. May your hand be on her, to guide and uphold her. We praise you for this, Lord Jesus. Amen.

      You are so very, very loved Jordan. Don't forget that. Love is stronger than death; let the Lord strengthen you with His love. I hope and pray that the Lord blesses you abundantly this week. <3
      Your sister,

  • Thank you so much for delivering this truth today. 15 minutes before reading this I was hurt by a very close friend and I was feeling broken. I have felt sorrow many times before but this was like no other. As I'm scrolling through twitter I see you have posted this and I immediately know it was written for me. I have decided not to let this sorrow keep me from thanking God for what He has done, and continues to do in my life. Bless you and thank you again for this wonderful reminder.

    • SheReadsTruth

      Betsy, praying for you right now in your hurt. Asking that He would meet you in your sorrow and trusting that your sorrow is acknowledging immeasurable glory! Love to you!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • “You’ve sized up your grief of what was lost, what should be, or what will never be, and felt the sharp pangs of this fallen world. You’ve avoided playing a thanksgiving song because it won’t sound the same as before. But by doing so, you’re withholding one of the most precious tunes the world has ever heard—the tune of Glory.” this really spoke to my heart. I really needed this word today. Thank you for this truth.

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