Titus: Day 11

#SheSharesTruth | Titus 2:1-5


Today's Text: Titus 2:1-5

Welcome to #SheSharesTruth, Titus edition!

We have LOVED reading through this book with you and learning more about what it looks like to receive and apply the Gospel of Jesus to our lives and relationships and within the Church itself. We’ve especially been blessed by digging into the concept of the common bond and “common reality” (see Day 2) that is ours in Christ.

In Day 4, we discussed what this unity looks like in our relationships with other women in the body of believers—our spiritual mothers, sisters and daughters.

Today’s #SheSharesTruth assignment is this:

How is spiritual mothering already taking place in your community? Has a godly woman influenced you in your growth in the Gospel, or has mentoring a young believer impacted your life? How would you like to see Titus 2 shape your relationships moving forward?

We want to hear your story!

She Shares Truth

Here’s the scoop on how to participate:

  • Write your devotional/reflections/response to the above questions on your personal blog, OR on Instagram or Facebook with the hashtags #SheSharesTruth and #SheReadsTruth. (Feel free to use the image below!) You can even write your response in the comments section below!
  • Link to this page in your post so your readers can read and participate in #SheSharesTruth, too.
  • Share the link to your post (or Facebook post, Instagram, etc) in the LinkyTool below—just click it and follow the instructions!
  • Visit each other’s links, starting with the person or two who linked up before you. Leave a comment there—tell them you see and hear them!

**Please share our heart, Sisters. Our desire is not for this to be a time of comparison or sizing up writing abilities or spiritual maturity. Eloquence and insight are lovely, but we know that is not the thing our God calls us to. So, let’s not call each other to that either! If you feel ill-equipped—GOOD! If you feel like you have so much to learn—GREAT. SO DO WE! Every single time we sit down to write. And if we don’t, are hearts are not in the right place. Let this be a safe place to learn and share and love each other WELL.

  • Rachel Petty

    Me and my good friend Andrea did this study together & it has been so eye opening and good for me. I just recently got out of a 3 1/2 year long relationship. He left me and it was really hard. God used this study to teach me alot of things about myself, steps moving forward and just about being at peace and turning to Him for everything. One of my favorite notes that I wrote down was that “A true love for the Gospel should be the driving force behind every single thing that I do.” I love you ladies so much. ❤ love that we can have community through social media!

  • Stephanie

    My mentor’s name is Judy. She is seriously a God send! I was almost two years into leading a lifegroup with my church and feeling like I was drained and not equipped or filled. I was going to church regularly and studying regularly but didn’t have anyone pouring into me. After meeting with my friend, she forced me to find a way to fill myself so I could continue to pour into these girls in my group. I didn’t want to admit that I needed help or that I was feeling exhausted but it turned out to be that moment of vulnerability which brought Judy into my life. She offered to meet with me over Taco Bell, and I knew it was going to be a good thing (ha!). More than her just sitting through listening to my problems, she has been gracious, telling me stories about herself and how she grew closer to Christ through them. The lunches have become a favorite part of my schedule the last couple of months.

    If I can share anything from this experience, it is this. Please don’t feel like you have to be a certain level of our together to be in the church. It breaks my heart to hear people say that, and I tell others that often but never bothered to listen to my own advice. Seek Christ- through scripture, prayer and wise council! He will provide for us and equip us to do good works for his kingdom, and it is no longer something I “have to” do but something I am excited and privileged to do!

  • A mom of 6 from Texas (Lisa) is the cofounder of this
    Amazing ministry called Crazy8. She was discipled by
    This lady named Kate for over 20yrs. Lisa came all the way to Cincinnati to minister to tons of people here in my home town and through getting to know her she sent me to Kate who lives all the way in Chicago! She sent me to Kate because we have very similar personalities. So it’s just a crazy story that God totally orchestrated Himself- and now every week I get the chance to be mentored by Kate. It’s only on the phone, so we don’t get to be in each other’s homes and me doing what she’s doing, but on our calls she listens to the Holy Spirit and helps bring my relationship with Jesus to much deeper levels than before and for that I’m forever grateful. I was so excited to read Titus since learning more about how discipleship works. It’s so biblical yet I don’t have a church that speaks on it and our community doesn’t have a lot or any Kate’s running around passionately wanting to disciple us young moms. Praying for this older generation of moms to step up and help be more of the spiritual backbone in our community that God called them to be. Kate also wrote a book on this called Silver Threads that I just started and it’s so good. She has a blog called Teaching What Is Good- all from Titus 2!!!! I highly recommend it!

  • My mentor’s name is Sharon. She’s been a friend of my family’s for a long time, since before I was born! We bonded over our shared love of theatre and acting, and since high school, she has shown me what a Godly woman looks and behaves like. She’s given me sound, biblical advice, even when I didn’t really want to hear it. She’s faithful to God and His Word, and I trust her completely. Over the years, she’s been a family friend, a drama director, and a mentor to me, and now that I’m out of college and becoming an adult, I consider her my friend. :) I’m so thankful for her and her guidance!

  • Nannette

    being through titus , mentoring kids at church has helped me even one of the past last year devotion has influenced me others are now seeing christ in me through Christian humility I’ve shown it and that devotion actually convicted as i haven’t had Christian humility but thats all changed and others are realizing that its shaped my actions

  • Mom. Grandma Barb, aunt Beth, Sue, Rosie, Kathlyn, Becky, Annie, Kim, Betsy. Through these ladies, God has shown his abundant care for me all over the world and through different seasons in life. Thank you Father for nurturing me and many others with care from these women. They have shown me what it is to love and take care in every detail of life. These women pray and laugh and cry and talk to him in fits of laughter and tears too, and take every opportunity to live well and have taught me to never give up, and always know the selfless love God has given us, so that in joy we may delight together in the abundant life He has given and call others to this same delight aswell.

  • I have a spiritual mother who has shown me what to do by her example of living in obedience to God. I also learnt from her mistakes because she was never afraid to expose herself to me. I try to be there for her, emotionally, financially, spiritually. I love to just sit and chat with her about life and God, always leaving more encouraged than when I arrived. I have been a mentor to younger girls in spurts. I think the verses in Titus have just been encouraging me to be consistent and deliberate in encouraging these younger women sharing from my trials as well as victories. Much on the same way I have received should I give.

  • I felt the need about a year ago or more to start a girls bible study for the teen girls and younger college-age ladies at my church. Since I was already working in the youth ministry as one of the youth leaders I had grown close to the girls and really had begun to share their burdens and really start to hurt for them and they just really started having a special place in my heart. Some of these were girls who came from broken, rough homes, others were faithful, godly young ladies, but I truly felt like God was calling me to start a Bible study with them. I decided to start it and we named it GALS- growing and loving servants- and we met once a week. Every few months we would go out for ice cream or we would have a movie night. Around Christmas time we baked and decorated cookies. It was a lot of fun and I had several girls coming faithfully. Here lately, I can’t get anyone to come. I prayed about it and cried about it and since I’m so burdened I’m just so upset that they aren’t coming. I decided to change it to where we only meet once a month. I thought everyone could clear their schedules for this one night and we could come together and share and learn. My first monthly meeting comes around and I’m inviting and reminding and no one comes! I am feeling very discouraged. I want to help these girls and honestly having the Bible study helped me! Any ideas how I can build interest? Any advice how to fight the discouragement and hurt feelings? Thank you in advance!

  • At my congregation, there’s a program that allows older women to teach younger girls how to prepare a meal, sew, set a table, and do other household chores. I know that this is a beautiful place for these women to share their wisdom and teach so much more than cooking and sewing (even though those are so valuable). I’ve been praying that the girls will have open hearts and be willing to hear what they have to say. Also, I’ve been praying that I’ll see the spiritual mothers God has provided in my life, and my eyes have been more open to the nurturers around me lately. That idea is so wonderful to me, that someone has done all of this before me. The unity and cooperation of the Church is such a great thing. Glory to God who made all of it possible!

    • SheReadsTruth

      Hi Rachel! I went through a similar program in college and am forever thankful to the wise women who taught me so much about doing and loving. I know that the girls in your congregation will be eternally impacted by those lessons! Praying for them. Thanks for joining us!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • Montana Moxie

    Thanks for a great study on Titus! It was my first one with SRT. I’ve already purchased 123 John to start tomorrow! :)

    • SheReadsTruth

      So happy to hear that, Montana! We love having you with us!

      xoxo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

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  • Spiritual mothering has been a big part of my story this year. While I’ve had mentor who I could go to in past few years, I now have a mentor who pursues me and encourages me so well. I am so thankful that Patti listened to whatever call the Lord place on her heart to pursue me further outside of our Thursday night women’s Bible study at church.

    It all began when she asked me out to coffee after a rough few weeks at work. I am a middle school teacher and I also lead Young Life at the school where I teach, some concerns came up surrounding these two roles I fill. After sharing more about the trials I had been experiencing, she offered to walk through Cynthia Heald’s study “Becoming a Women of Strength.” The time spent in this study and meeting with Patti to discuss what we’d learned really grounded me throughout this year.

    Additionally, Patti invited me into her life and wanted to step into my life in ways outside of our study together. She invited me to attend a cooking class with her, she spent some time helping me in my classroom, and has shared meals with me. These little things made all the difference. I feel loved, supported and, most of all, encouraged.

    As I look back, I realize that I never really set expectations for this relationship, mainly because it bloomed expectantly in a wonderful way. This makes it all the better because there’s no room for let downs, only joyful surprises.

    The flip side of this spiritual mothering is my role as a Wyldlife leader. I am teaching and encouraging younger girls. But this can be difficult and frustrating at times. First, middle schoolers can only go so deep, particularly in a group setting. Secondly, the limitations placed on me because I am a teacher makes connecting with them individually and personally so much more difficult. Right now I am trying to figure out how to best move forward and commit myself more fully to these young girls who desperately need Christ’s unconditional and unending love.

    Lord- I pray that you open doors for me, that I can have more freedom in my ministry and relationships with these 7th grade girls. I also ask that you help me to respect the boundaries that I have to keep and the authority that has placed them on me. Amen.

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  • Jennifer

    I just love getting to know older ladies and am so thankful for the few that have been in my life. My husband and I have moved from the northwest to Michigan two times in the last 11 years. I mention that because the mentor's my life, have come and gone at different times throughout our moves across the country. Out of these few older women, one was an " official" spiritual mentor as we studied the bible, but the others are just great, kind, caring, christian women wome we enjoy each others company. I feel we can learn from all the older women in our lives and welcome and I value those friendships. I think it's neat that these older women, while they may have daughters of their own, have time for other daughter's in Christ. Now as for having younger people in my life to come along side, I do not. I do have my own daughter though and she is one of my biggest responsibilities. I also have a god son that I'm trying and praying to know how to show gods love to. I pray the God will continue to bring Women, younger and older into my life that I can mentor as well as be mentored. #shesharestruth #shereadstruth

  • T Thomas

    Thank you ladies for sharing your blogs and community responses. It has been great to read over the weekend during the grace days before we start Ruth. A great ending to read about the impact of spiritual mothers.

    My great grandmother passed away at age 96 this past week. There are so many women I can highlight who have impacted my life and my spiritual walk, but my prayer is that I can learn from her, a true Titus 2 woman, and what she leaves behind to a host of children, grand children, great grand children, great great grand children, and so on. I’m a great grand child and my daughter is a great great grand child. She has touched so many lives in her 96 years of life. I can wait to hear so many stories as we celebrate her life this coming up week so fitting as we will be starting the book of Ruth.

    I always wanted women in my life who could mentor me in becoming a Proverbs 31 woman as I am a new wife and mom. After this study, I will also pray for some Titus 2 woman to mentor me and as I continue to grow that I can be a spiritual influence not just on my daughter, but any woman he places in my path. I’m so humbled at the thought that I can be encouraged and in turn encourage someone else, knowingly or unknowingly.

  • This morning, I want to say a tribute to a wonderful woman whom I would consider my spiritual mother. Yesterday, we celebrated her life, and laid her body to rest in a small country cemetery. A life lived out beautifully and humbly, with very real hardships, and with astounding miracles. Olga was 85 years old, and has been blind since her 30's. I only met her in the later years, and am so glad that I made the time to hang out with her on a regular basis! She showed me great courage, determinaion, reverence and a simple life and deep love for God and for people. Her legacy will continue to accompany me and teach me. I loved her…I miss her keenly this morning.

  • adailydoseofhisgrace

    I didn't post or write an entry on my blog because I don't have a spiritual mom or am I mentoring anyone at this time or ever for that matter. But this study has Really challenged me to seek out a spiritual mom but more importantly to remember I don't have to do this life alone. Thanks shereadstruth for an awesome study!!!

  • Tara Condon

    Accidental Spiritual Mothering

    This idea of spiritual mothering intrigues me; it sounds so homey and personal and nurturing—like the way Jesus would love me if He were living in my neighborhood. I love that He planned it for us, to learn about Him from watching and doing life with women we respect and strive to emulate.

    “Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands so that no one will malign the word of God.” –Titus 2:4-5

    I hadn’t thought much about this concept before reading about spiritual mothers in She Reads Truth. And when I did, I jumped on it and ordered the book, Spiritual Mothers, and started to think about whose mentor I could be. And of course, it felt pretentious to approach someone and suggest that I have anything to offer her. But I know that I have lived more life than younger women and I DO have things to offer…about loving my husband and children and being a woman who is mostly comfortable in her own skin and about not taking life too seriously and about parenting little kids and teenagers at the same time and about my most recent lesson from God about loving with a loose grip. And I’m sure the list goes on.

    So I mentioned this whole idea to my husband, who is often The Voice of God to me. I was sort of wallowing in the I Know I Have Junk to Offer, But Where Do I Find People to Give it To? And here’s what he said, “You mean someone like Danielle? Or Katy? Or Lida Marie? Or Annie? Or that new girl…Reb…I don’t know her real name? You were created to do this and you’ve already been doing it for years!”

    Wow. He was right. Sometimes living into your spiritual gifts is just that. Living. That’s all you gotta do. When you’re working in your God-given gifts, it doesn’t feel like working. It feels like breathing. In and out. And the next thing you know, you’ve impacted people without even thinking about it. Surprise! God worked through me when I wasn’t looking. Just living.

    I love that God of mine. He is my Easy Button. When I stay focused on Him (and even when I don’t), He is behind the scenes, working His plan. That makes me so happy; it brings tears to my eyes and makes my heart want to leap out of my chest! That God would use me to be even a teeny tiny part of His giant eternal glorious plan is overwhelming and humbling. I love Him. I love Him. I love Him.

    And P.S. As God is wont to do, He works it so that I am blessed beyond any blessing I’ve given. I am filled. I am awakened to His love in a new way. I find parts of myself I never knew were there. Essentially, the people I appear to be mentoring are really my mentors. Thanks, God!

    • stinav96

      Thank you for sharing this, Tara! I had to smile when you said your husband is often the Voice of God to you, as mine is to me, too. :)

      Also, when you said that God is your Easy Button, it brought to mind Matthew 11:28-30, "Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."

      Have a blessed weekend, Tara!

      • Tara Condon

        Thank you! I just finished writing that verse in my journal. I love the way God works!

  • sarafalcoeiras

    as i was thinking about a person God has used as a spiritual mother, i remembered an irish friend. i met her many years ago, in my country – portugal. she came as a missionary with her family whom i learned to love very quickly. Ruth taught me how to serve with the heart. she is humble and gentle, kind and generous. i had the privilege of working with her and her family in camps and vacation bible clubs. every time we were together i felt this peace, like being at home. we've had some of the same struggles, we laughed together and cried together and prayed together and it was all so natural. i remember her as the one who was always on the 'backstage', working away happilly, laying the lives of the children or youth she served at the feet of the Lord. she is brave and fun and resilient in a very gentle way. she shared what she was learning in her walk with God so effortlessly and that always made me feel so small, but yet so privelleged. Ruth and her beautiful family have been back in ireland for quite some years now. i miss her (them) dearly and it's hard to think about it. it was her birthday recently and i'm so thankful for her life.

  • Freshman year, the Lord blessed me ABUNDANTLY with a group of women in college who mentored us girls and helped lead high school youth. Countless hours of lunch, coffee, phone conversations and summer hang outs at different parks…
    There is one woman who, for the first time, sticks out to me in my mind a midst all of it. Her name is Claire. I remember now.

    In the destructive, disgusting, dark season that was my freshman year, a friend named Abby texted me one day, telling me that one of my best friends who lived many states away, Margo, had tried to kill herself and had left me a note. I remember how dark my room was, how I had forgotten to turn on any lights, how reading the message seemed to intensify the darkness and make it come up to my neck. I looked at the message, and felt my soul plunge to those depths of sorrow I had become so used to that year (and in hindsight, had become so comfortable with). I texted every person I had, every friend, anyone who would care, desperate for somebody to talk to, but the pain was inescapable– no amount of texts or phone calls could save me from those murky depths. I hid my phone in my blankets as I wrapped them around myself and sobbed, screaming into my pillow at the Lord, asking Him, "Why does everybody I love– who loves me– need to leave?! Her too?!! WHY?! I'm sick!!! I'm sick of this!!!"
    Claire promptly texted me back. She offered to pick me up after her class, which was getting out in a few minutes. The words on the screen felt like the gospel to me. It lit up that little light in me that I'd been snuffing out for so long. They gave me hope, made me get up out of my covers, and take a shower to get ready. In that one text– in her loving, Christ-filled words relaying the simple message of "I love you. I will be there."– I had something to hold on to. Something to make me get up and get out of that dark, musty, grief filled room I had for so long sat in night after night, stewing in despair and believing the schemes of the enemy.
    She spoke to me soberly, quietly, as we drove in her car. I'm pretty sure I cried. She took me out for coffee at our church's cafe– the Lord's presence within that cafe (at that time, so subtle, but here, so unmistakable) reassured me that I was loved, that I was safe, made me breathe easier, rid me of that darkness entirely, at least for awhile. The warm, soft window light coming in through the ceiling's windows shown down and filled the space with quiet, gentle, intimate glory. She sat there in her thermal, a big cup of something warm in her hands, curling up and speaking to me quietly as she shared her experiences with relational abuse, self abuse, and depression. Her insight, her comforting words, and her sweet spirit brought me home with new found hope. The Lord was faithful, every time, to bring such a person like her into my life when things got so heart breaking.

    As I sat here and typed this, I started to cry. Because you know what? I've been asking the Lord let me know the Truth as of recently. I need His truth, His words for me, no matter how rebuking, encouraging or sorrowful. "Lord, tell me the truth. I just need to hear you say it. Please tell me the truth about all of this. I need You. I need to know the Truth."

    And I sit here crying, because I realize that He always has.
    In every dimly lit kitchen full of difficult words, every room full of flawed, broken people sharing their testimonies of Christ's salvation and redemption, every car ride with an older woman listening silently to my (usually foolish) perspectives on life, every brother and sister who offered me a ride home on a late night or a comforting word of scripture to read in the dark.
    He's always told me the truth. Always. And no matter what the truth is of that moment, in that situation, it always boils down to this: "I love you. I will be there."
    For that, I praise you, O Lord. I will praise You forever. You've never left the works of your hands, and you've given us each other to remind us of the truth. You never let us go. Never let us let You go, either. Blessings, sisters. I love you all very, very much. I pray that we'd always tell each other of the Truth that is Christ Jesus, our Lord. That we'd never let Him go, and that we'd hold onto each other to remind us of that fact. Have a good evening.

    • Benay

      Thank you so much for sharing, Anna. Isn't God amazing! He is so many things to us — and sometimes He is like the perfect friend. He will sit with us silently holding us until we are ready (no matter how many years it might be until we are ready) to move along the path He has created for us. Then He we will walk with us.

    • stinav96

      I am so thankful you shared this, AnnaLee! I remember some dark, dark days in my younger years… Days that left me thinking, "What's the point?" and thinking that if it was not for devastating my family (and fearing self-inflicted pain), I might consider just going on out of this world. I'm so thankful that all those dark days had their purpose, that because of those dark days, I came to such an intimately deeper relationship with the God of this universe. I'm so thankful for your testimony. That same all-knowing, all-powerful, ever-present God is speaking to you even now in His Word. Be still and know that He is God! You have nothing to do but be still, to paraphrase one of our Weekly Truths from Exodus. Thank you for your sweet and encouraging spirit, AnnaLee! God bless you, sweet sister!

    • AnnaLee

      Thank you, sisters. Whenever I look back at what the Lord did there, I get a complete perspective change on my life now. He was so fatithful, so kind, so sweet, so patient, so forgiving… everything done out of love… over the past year or so, after leaving behind the sin I had once again stooped myself in, I got into this scared-self-righteous defense thing. I forgot He was this way. I'm now more and more coming back to this truth, being rooted in it. Praise Him for that, that He is still all of those things and so much more than I know. I'm so excited to see Him reveal Himself to us more and more as we seek and pursue Him here. Love you girls, so much. Praying that you'd all be blessed abundantly in this next study, remembering His faithfulness and trusting Him wholeheartedly for His future faithfulness! Bless you guys.

  • mazmagi54 (Peggy)

    {I lost this comment already once today … and when that happens it makes me wonder if God allowed it to not let me make my comment but it happened when I was at the part to ask y'all to PRAY about it … so that's what I did and although I lost the original comment, I'll try it again and save as I go}

    Might I be so bold (and go out on a limb) to make a BOLD SUGGESTION at this point to SRT leaders and sisters/mentors in waiting. :0)

    I sensed God urging me to share this that we as a community online might begin a MENTOR ship program with one another right here at SRT for each study. Where SRT would join two of us as a MENTOR and a "MENTEE"(one craving a mentor) … together for each study (kinda like pen pals).

    And I could not think of a better study to do this than the upcoming one on RUTH (and NAOMI)! How appropriate!

    It would be a volunteer relationship established through SRT between two sisters in Christ (matched up for each study). Where one list would be those desiring a MENTOR and the other list those MENTORS (of course, each of us, no matter what age, right Nannette? desire a mentor). Some of us, even though we are "older" or longer in our walk, still desire a mentor.

    Anyways, how ever SRT would like to match us up for each study (rather than a long term commitment-one study at a time would be best)! We
    (mentor and mentee) would communicate not just here in the comments, encouraging one another, but also through other social media like FB, Twitter, Instagram, blogs … but most importantly through emails between us during the study (kinda like accountability partners)! It may help us continue or press on and I know that it would be God honoring and beneficial to build relationships that after the 1st study together may go on as we branch out to another mentor relationship and on and on…

    It might have not been God that stopped my initial comment but the enemy trying to prevent something good from happening here. However, I strongly ask SRT leadership (who in a way are our mentors here) to pray strongly and consider adding this option to the commUNITY here!

    Take my bold suggestion SRT team and pray and go with it as you like! I see great possibilities and blessings from at least giving it a go for the RUTH study … as I read and will continue reading the SheSharesTruth links… God was seeding this in my mind and then my heart got hold of it as I read someone's … and I trust SRT to develop this MENTOR relationship system to further SRT reading God's Word together.

    Blessings and love in Christ,
    Peggy {whew, made it} Love this Spiritual Mothering ,.. and so blessed by each of you!

  • After being saved, all of my relationships had a new meaning & importance. My mom was still my mother, but also my spiritual sister. We were/are able to discuss things and care for one another in an all new way. I was even prouder to know that I HAD a Godly mother, something I suppose I was proud of to start with (she'd been saved several years ago), but I never understood the profound importance it would have in my life until after I was saved myself.

    When I was in nursing school several years ago, my current boss actually worked in the hospital with me and was my preceptor when I first got out of school. She helped show me how things worked and helped me ease into my new role in being a nurse in an ICU, a very difficult job both emotionally and physically. She was amazing. She always knew kind words to say to our patients and their families in their times of need. I remembered thinking, "I wish I could be as good as she is. She's just.. good." It was the truth, she exuded goodness in all that she did. She was Godly. She was fun! 4 years later, when I became a nurse practitioner, she became my boss at the clinic I got a job at. She filled the role wonderfully, always knew how to handle every situation, was always strong and caring. After I got saved, Valerie became my "spiritual preceptor." Whether she knows this or not, she is my go-to gal for questions, concerns and those "ah-ha" moments that I have as I study the Word. She's been instrumental in my faith. What makes our relationship even more cool is that we are from different denominations of our faith, she's Pentecostal, I'm a Freewill Baptist. But, we GET each other. We are all part of the same church! She now makes me hope that I one day will be someone's spiritual preceptor. Helping them out along the way!

    • AnnaLee

      Ah, this is beautiful! To hear of such an amazing, Godly woman in such an intense career as being a nurse in an ICU inspires me, as well. Praise God for you, Lona! The Lord will (and is) using you as you press into Him– have faith, the things He does are beyond our fathoming!! Lord… help me to exude your sweet aroma as well as these women do. As I press into You, make me more and more of the woman and the witness that You've called me to be. Blessings, sister! Praying that Christ would show you who to love and minister to as you walk with Him. Praise Him :)

  • Diane Stesrud

    part 3

    For a time, I know that I am to remain at home, busy with the things God has prepared in advance for me to do. I am forging new connections and developing new relationships in a new community. I expect that Titus 2: 3-5 will look a bit different because I am in a different time of life. I hope that I will be able to substitute teach in the local school. I hope that my husband and I will connect in a local church and find a ministry we can share in our community. Where I have “jumped in” with both feet in the past, I am now considering the cost and asking the Lord where He wants me to go. He clearly moved us to this place for such a time as this. Everything is different, but God remains the same. “I am still confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord” (Psalm 27:13-14). I can wait in confidence because I know by experience gained through relationship that GOD IS FAITHFUL, and HIS LOVE NEVER FAILS. 

    I can wait patiently… My, how one's perspective changes with a change of circumstances. Thank You, Lord, for moving me out of a life that ran at fever pitch, and planting me in a place where life is quiet and solitary. Homes are going up all around us, and eventually I know we will have neighbors on all sides, and busier lives. This simple change has given me understanding for my daughter-in-law. Last summer when I helped them move, I found it strange to think she felt her day was busy when she had just a few errands to run with two little boys. Now I find myself feeling stressed because my dog was upset and I was in town longer than I expected – change of perspective.
    Truthfully, I don't see myself as a mentor to anyone, or as being mentored by anyone. I learn from every individual God brings to me – older or younger – and I hope they learn from me as well.
    It's so quiet and remote here that I could hardly get to sleep last night because of my excitement over a possible visit from Christina and David and their two girls. They spent the week vacationing in Pismo and are heading home today. I'm so thankful that Christina thought to ask me if I was busy. She and I have worked together in the toddler room for years, and Peyton has known me as a teacher for nearly two years. They are precious to me!
    Thank You, Lord, for changing my circumstances and perspective. I wait for You, and learn with everyone You bring into my life. :)

  • Diane Stesrud

    part 2

    Teachers, pastor’s wives, youth ministers, small group leaders, and friends have all influenced me and helped me to grow and live in the gospel. As a long time Sunday School teacher, Children’s Minister, and school teacher, I can attest to the importance of “passing the torch” of faith. I think we never fully understand something until we share it with, or try to teach it to, someone else. The process of teaching what we’ve learned helps us to connect the lesson to the bigger life picture. It makes the lesson more personal to us, and isolates the core truth at the same time. I seem to learn the most from the people I am called to “teach”. From my daughter and daughter-in-law, for example, I have learned to speak up – to be more emotionally honest. My habit has been to wait to say how I feel or what I think until I believe the “receiver” will be “receptive”. It turns out I am not responsible for how my words are received. When the Spirit says, “Speak,” I simply need to say what’s on my heart and trust that God’s in charge of the result. I thank God for younger women with fresh perspective. 
    My most recent mentor relationships have been more give and take – at least, I hope we have learned from each other and grown as a result. I met my prayer partner, Angie, at a women’s retreat. I had attended the church for a while without getting connected when I decided to take a leap of faith and go to the women’s retreat. I really knew no one, and the retreat leader kindly allowed me to share her room. Angie and I connected at the fireside after a particularly emotional chapel session. We shared our stories and our hearts. Our paths crossed frequently through church functions and school functions. Angie’s older daughters are the same age as my daughter. They participated in a high school girls small group I conducted. Her youngest daughter just completed the series of writing and speaking classes I taught in Solano County. Through our many and varied activities, Angie and I discovered that we are both passionate about sharing our faith, training new believers, and praying! We have been prayer partners for years, and have seen tremendous answers to our prayers. It is a privilege to participate in God’s work together, and we rejoice weekly over God’s faithfulness. This relationship extends from friendship between our households as couples, to our children, and even to our grandchildren.
    I met my dearest friend first through a homeschool cooperative, but our friendship was forged in the crucible of a life crisis for our mutual friend. About seven years ago, five women joined together to study God’s word as we encouraged this friend through a horrendous loss. When our study of Nehemiah concluded, three of the women left the group to pursue jobs and/or education. That left Mary Jayne and me. I thank the Lord for developing a deep and lasting heart connection with a woman who has become my dearest friend and sister in the Lord. Mary Jayne and I continued meeting, through good times and bad, sharing our hearts, our faith, and our love. Mary Jayne threw bridal showers and baby showers for my children; she even made my son’s wedding cake, and orchestrated and served at his reception. I’ve learned so much from her! Together we have prayed through some challenging life circumstances, and rejoiced together over God’s amazing answers to our prayers. Together we have experienced God’s faithfulness, despite our own foolishness. Together we study, and pray, and live the gospel.
    The week the Nehemiah study began at SHEREADSTRUTH, my husband and I moved 250 miles away from all the friends and family we have shared life with over the past 14 years. Mary Jayne shared the Nehemiah study guide with me; it seemed divinely appointed that our meeting together started and finished with the same study. We are so excited to have a means to continue to study, pray, and do life together, even though we are hundreds of miles apart.

  • Diane Stesrud

    I’ve been a believer for about 50 years now, and have been mentored by many godly women over the years. I would say my grandmother was my first model and mentor. I remember sitting at her feet in the nursery of the First Baptist Church of White Bear Lake (MN). The nursery was in a balcony overlooking the Sanctuary, and the sermon came to us through a speaker. When the choir or congregation sang, we sang with them. Fussy babies could see their parents through the window, and then Grandma would bounce them on her knee or rock them, humming gently. She taught even babies to listen quietly as the pastor spoke. I learned about Jesus sitting quietly at her feet, and learned to love babies and children in the same way. Decades later, my daughter and I carried on a similar ministry, setting up and tending the nursery at The Warehouse, an extension of New Life Church in Fairfield CA.
    My mother, of course, played an important role in training me to love my husband and my children. Although my parents’ marriage ended in divorce, I learned at an early age to run to God with all my needs, cares, joys, and sorrows. My mother modeled perseverance and all the characteristics listed in Titus 2: 4-5. She is a prayer warrior, and a leader of women, and has handed those traits down to me, to my daughter, and to my granddaughter.

  • Ladies I am humbled and challenged and excited and brought to my knees by your thoughts ! I so appreciate your honesty and hearts! You have made my day!! I am grateful for the people that have spoken into my life, mother, sisters, dayghters! God has an amazing way of using whomever he can get you to listen to! I also have some fresh ideas to share with some young ladies I mentor, praise The Lord

  • I have really enjoyed reading through Titus 2. I have never had a mentor in my life as described by the book. I have seen women in our old church in another city who acted upon this perspective for my oldest daughter and it was truly a beautiful thing to see. I mentor other women in their troubled marriages and have really enjoyed this role, but do long for someone in my life who does the same. Thank you for inspiring me to pray that God providesrelationships to fill this role for me. We've moved so much over the years, it has been hard to maintain relationships in a way that made them profoundly and spiritually impactful, and to that my parents and grandparents have all passed. I do find now, that I am really craving these types of relationships. Praying that God provides here and that I am wise enough to see the connections. ~ B

  • Good morning! What a great way to start the day, reflecting on those in my life whose light of God showed through to me. I've thought about this before. Who are those people who've lead me to the path I'm on now. I've been fortunate enough to have both men and women in my life.

    First, I want to mention my mom. Although she never talked much about the bible itself, she was a great role model, taking us to mass every Saturday evening and then making sure we made it to Catechists classes. She never spoke ill of anyone and we shared in some great discussion. Her life wasn't perfect. She has had many struggles, and she has worked on overcoming them. I'm not sure I have ever let her know how much she taught me. (It is on my "to do" list for today."

    The next women who comes to mind would be my girlfriend's mom. She was so full of love and acceptance. A second mom to me. She was not only spiritual,l but she knew the word of God and how to explain its meaning. Her love and relationship with her family and friends softly comes through. It's not forced or flaunted, it's just there visible.

    Finally I want to mention how blessed I am to be working with a group of young women who have mentored and guided me in my journey with the Lord. I have always been a believer, prayed regularly, made sure my sons went to mass and I taught religious ed. for many, many years, yet I thought, "Oh, I wish I knew more about Christ and the word of God." The women I work with now are helping me achieve that dream. Last summer we met at a park (they are young women with young children), one day a week, for just a short time to visit and pray. We called it "Prayer in the Park." We continued with this once school started only instead of meeting in the park we met in the counselor's office. We'd gather one day a week, for 10-15 mins and pray. It is through one of these young ladies I was lead to the SRT website. How blessed I am to work with these Godly women.

    It's been comforting to think about the people in my life who walk God's path quietly and confidently. Thank you ladies for the opportunity to recognize them.

  • My Titus 2 is my mother. Forever will I be impacted by her teachings, care for me, and genuine love I feel in her presence. I hope to be a Titus 2 woman and I pray that has already began.

  • Courtney Hudson

    Thank you so much for helping me see the importance of fellowship in the Gospel. I tend to want to do things by myself and shy away from intimacy with other women, but your words from Titus 2 have inspired me to reach out to a mentor and also to be a mentor. I feel so much better when I am around other women who are devoted to Christ, but I have a problem with taking the first step to actually getting together with them. I am praying that God will open my heart and heal the anxieties so that I may enjoy the relationships that God meant for me to enjoy!

  • kcchambers95

    Although I am very new to SRT, I felt like today would be a great day for me to jump in head first, beginning by sharing about my Titus 2 woman. While my mother has been a constant spiritual mentor and helper to me throughout my life so far, the woman I would really like to highlight is a woman named Kim, who attends my home church with her family. Kim lead my senior high girls small group sessions when I was in high school, and I can honestly say that her influence changed the way I did alot of things. I had a deep desire to be more connected with God because of her influence. This does not mean that I never messed up, but when I did, I felt the loving forgiveness of God, and was always challenged to overcome the current struggle that I was experiencing. And when I did overcome(or even when I didn't), Kim was always there to receive the news with gladness. I learned alot about what not to do and who not to trust with my friendship and love through her. She was the first to admit that she was an atheist as a teenager, even getting her college degree in atheism. It wasn't until she started dating her now husband that she committed herself to Christ, and I truly believe that Christ had me and the other girls that she influenced in mind when He was creating Kim. I cannot think of a stronger Christian that I have ever encountered in my entire life, and her story is inspiring.
    Ladies, I would ask that you join me in prayer for Kim Andrew, her husband Eric, and two babies, Brittney and Evan, as Kim is currently losing the battle with stage four Melanoma. The heart of my entire church is crushed by this tragedy, and I believe alot of us are asking God for answers. "Why take away this strong woman who has only been married for less than 8 years? Why take her from her precious children?" We still hold out hope for her healing, but it is true that we desperately need more prayer. I believe without doubt that God has the power to immediately remove the cancer from her brain, blood, and skin. He is great, and I am really trying to trust Him more and more through this tough experience. Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful day!

  • I once read somewhere that a mentor doesn't even have to know that they are your mentor. It can be one you observe from afar (respectfully of course, not in some creepy type of way) and learn from in that way. With that being said, I have adopted such a mentor, an IG friend who is both older and more experienced than I am. Her posts are real and honest. She has shared about her dark times and her trials. She shares about the joys of motherhood and the aches and pains along the way. She does it all to the glory of God sharing about God's faithfulness and seeking Him despite our faults because of His grace. I can honestly say that God has used her in my life in incredible ways. I have told her that, but I don't want to sound creepy so I haven't told her that I consider her a mentor, at least not yet, if God opens the door for more conversation about it, then I will. I have found it difficult to find my footing as a new mom in a new town. I am trusting and working through developing face to face community, but in the meantime God has provided through her.

  • JessicaLoves___

    I have already read some great posts this morning and ultimately fought my urge to not share. If you read my blog, it makes my words real, which means I have someone out there holding me accountable. So, here's a link to "Spiritual Mothering … What is that?": http://alabamaheartindianasoul.blogspot.com/2014/….

  • I enjoyed reading all the comments above. Like many of you, God has blessed me with spiritual mentors in my own family. But reading and studying Titus gave me a wake-up call. When my mother-in-law was helping me sew new cushions for the dining room chairs, and my sister-in-law had me over to babysit my niece and nephew (while also cooking and sewing w/her), I didn't see it as mentoring. I can same the same about my own mother. I just took it as a natural way of life. But the love, patience, and time they gave me were all gifts. The same can be said for many others in my family. Now it's my turn. I have children I can teach, grandchildren I can teach, and a few ideas outside of the family. I'm praying God will bring these opportunities to me if it's His Will.

  • My mom has always been spiritual mentor to me, but that got a little harder when I moved far, far away to go to college. Fortunately God blessed me with a Sunday school class full of Godly women who have all taught me so much and helped me through tough times. They are all images of what Titus describes in 2:1-5, especially the teacher. As I've learned from them I've hoped to become like them to some of my friends. It is so important to have someone to look up to who will be there no matter what you're going through.

  • katietthomas

    This was not an easy one, but it was my first #shesharestruth and I gave it my best! I'm looking forward to reading what others' walks of life look like later this evening. Blessed Thursday!

    • Kaitlin

      Congratulations, Katie! I love it!! Thankful for you and your heart. Blessings to you.

      xo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • First off, I have loved reading through Titus with you all!
    Yesterday I met with a woman from my church for the first time, I had been praying that God would show me the woman meant mentor me and he faithfully answered that prayer last night. We walked and talked, and I found that she struggled with many of the things that I am. It was so comforting to know that I'm not alone in that.
    My hope and prayer is that Titus 2:1-5, will shape the way that our relationship continues. And that hopefully one day I can mentor a younger woman in the very same way, but most importantly that it shape every encounter I have with others.

  • katsmith1026

    Morning ladies! I posted at #9 above (Titus She Shares Truth). You can also find me on Instagram @katsmith1026. I'm so looking forward to spending time later today to read what's on your hearts! Blessings over your Thursday, sisters – it's almost the weekend!

    • Kaitlin

      Thanks for your post, Kat! Love your words and heart. Blessings to you and Happy Thursday!

      XO-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

  • Being fairly new to my community, spiritual mothering has not taken effect just yet. I however admire women who hold such title and have the desire become one myself. The women of the SheReadsTruth community does mother me indirectly. There different outlooks and shared experience has influenced me positively for which im very grateful.
    I was fortunate enough to pass through the hands of four Godly women. Yes four. Women with so much heart and passion after God, whom I admire so much. The first being my youth pastor, a young, vibrant and down to earth woman who councelled me during a very difficult time when I just came to know Christ. She was so real and relatable. She was of great influence to me that I aspire to be somewhat like her.
    Second, my grandaunt, an evangelist. I love that woman so much, she was a mother to everyone, we called her "Mother Norms". She would always encourage us with the word, and never hesitated to rebuke us. She taught us that, agreement with the Word of God is very important. It doesn't happen overnight, but the minute you do, it becomes very easy to live by. She has such a big heart. All the young people enjoyed being around her.
    Pastor Grace, was my third, a doctor. She is adorable and warm. A strong and solid woman of God. She enjoyed encouraging me and always delighted in how well im doing.
    Finally there was Aunty Regna, BOSS youth trainer. I was at a training session where she spoke a word over my life and im witnessing it, coming to pass.
    Since that day we connected. She would call to check up on me and we enjoyed talking about the Word.
    God blessed me with wonderful Godly women and I am absolutely grateful for them all, as they influenced me in different ways hence I am who and where I am today. Glory to God.
    I have little sisters in the faith to whom I give a word of encouragement when necessary. Telling them the importance of getting and keeping it right with God. This impacts me positively because I am an example, I was once in their shoe and overcomed so its great to be able to show them that they too can pull through. Its a blessing when you see young people making the right step and you assist them. I enjoy encouraging and motivating others.I have a passion for youth development in all areas.

    I'd love to see Titus chapter 2 shape all my relationships and encounters. I want to be a pattern of good works to all men, thus beautifying the Gospel of God in an effort to attract souls of all age. Showing them the grace of God that brought me salvation/deliverance. Be an example of one living the world and not apart of it, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, walking in integrity before God. Speaking and acting right so that all will see and emulate such actions becoming a peculiar people, zealous of good works.

  • God has added so many Titus two (older) woman to my life with each grieve or loss period or even a lesson and a trial and so so value them, with each miscarraige even the loss of a tubalant pregnancy God just kept on adding and still is , now being a very young Pastors wife God allowed and blessed me with so many young ladies whom I can be a mentor to. I have again learned so much from this study , ( even though I have studied it before with my own personal mentor (my pastor's wife) even memorised the book of Titus but yet God revealed daily to me through this study new things I have not seen in this book before which I can now even use currently in my life and for His ministry and am so exited to share with our monthly ladies meeting nextweek.

    thank you so much and may God take this ministry from strength to strength

  • stinav96

    Good morning, ladies! I am really looking forward to reading everyone's offerings throughout today! I really hadn't planned to participate today, but as I re-read Titus 2:1-5, I wanted to at least share a few thoughts. My mom is a wonderful spiritual mentor. She and I discuss Scripture and its application fairly regularly. Unfortunately, I live 12 hours away, so I don't get to have regular one-on-one time with her, and I'm just stubborn enough that I often listen to what she says and either tweak it to fit where I differ with her in opinion or decide what she stands for on a particular issue is not in line with what I believe Scripture is saying. Yep. I've always been a difficult mentee. I'm learning not to discount so much, though, by God's grace. And even though I'm all the way over here, and she's all the way over there geographically, she doesn't let that stop her role as a mentor. She has taken many ladies from her church under her wing and also leads a post-abortion ministry there. Yes, she is my prime example of spiritual mentorship.

    I've had others closer to my age who have impacted my life, as well. I truly believe that my own pride and stubbornness has hindered me in seeking mentorship. Just as I have to recognize my sin to be saved, I need to recognize my need for guidance to be guided. I tend to have the attitude that I can figure it out on my own, I can do it myself. And while that is a cute and admirable trait for a two year old learning to brush her hair, it's not so much for a grown woman who has not allowed herself to be taught basic skills. I'm thankful to have godly examples all around me of women who actively live out God's Word to the people around them. Now I need to put feet to my faith.

    Last thought for this post is from Titus 2:1-5. Anything we expect to be as older women must be cultivated in our younger years. The self-control, purity, hard work, kindness, and submission I learn from those older than me will relate to reverent behavior, not slandering (or gossiping), not becoming a slave to wine (or prescription medication, anything, really), and teaching what is good as I get older. As I'm learning in the younger woman's role, I can relate to a woman younger than me in the older woman's role. I have worked with teenage girls. I try to speak into the lives of other women in what I post (or do not post) on social media. But right now, my main source of being a mentor is with my own daughter (who is five), and even her friends to an extent. But my daughter is a lot like me. I pray she will be humbled regarding her need of Christ, first, and then according to her need of mentorship at a much earlier age than I have been.

    Thank you, SRT, for yet another beautiful study!

  • I was not going to comment or join in today's #she shares truth …..1)I don't have anyone whom I would call 'my spiritual mother'…..or that I am a mentor to……. or that I am computer literate….wouldn't know how to post a blog on here….anyway….
    ….But God, had other plans……yesterday I met an old, younger friend, (in fact I probably was her mentor, sadly not spiritual, back in the days) through our conversation, I happen to mention I had been at a women's conference on Saturday….and that it had been a great day of worship, talks chatter, catching up etc, …until the last speaker…a guy, by the name of Ben Cooley, who heads up Hope for Justice, an organization that works against human trafficking……, He spoke well…and yes all He was saying could have been taken on board…..but then came the horrific video….of a young happy girl on her way to meet her so called friends she had met on the internet…..I'll say no more, I was traumatised, ….my friend, whom in her younger days used to be a wild one, out most nights drinking…..having 'fun'….said… where can I get hold of this DVD, as it might help me at this moment in time as I have been assigned to three young girls, friends, who are off the rails at the moment…..they need a wake up call…..

    My point….is back in the day, this friend WAS these girls…..she walks a different walk now, and is able to see where these girls are heading if they don't stop what they are doing now, things are far worse now than they were fifteen years ago….the voice of experience, (sometimes, I believe, it's important to have had the experiences, because they shape us,) and her beliefs, now guide her to help these girls before it is too late…'.Guide older women into lives of reverence so they end up as neither gossips nor drunks….but models of goodness…' Titus 2:…. We learn from the paths and the roads we have taken….. my friend has learnt through her experiences of being loved, even when she looked awful after a ' good' night, not judged as to where she had been…etc…and is now passing on her knowledge, ….for the better of these girls… I pray Lord this wisdom is taken on board by these young ladies…by your Grace Amen….

    I have watched this young friend over the years….changing….growing…..and beautifully too…I was guest of honour at her wedding….I was with her when her second child came into the world….I was not a spiritual mother then….but you know what…..God has a plan……

    Happy Thursday, sister's….I shall return later to read your lovely comments and blogs….
    Big hug and love to ALL….xxx

    • Janee White

      I love this Tina. I don't know your friend, but she sounds a lot like me. The life I lived before Christ was pretty much an X-rated life. The live I live now is so much different. Its hard to believe that only 6 years ago I was living a life that I wish on no one. I was living a life that needs to be edited when i share stories from my past. I am blessed to have had a few spiritual mothers in my life who held my hand as I journeyed closer to Christ. And now I am blessed by women like you who have such a beautiful heart for the Lord that you pour out here on the screens of She Reads Truth.

      God bless you and the hearts you affect my friend. You keep sharing what God places on your heart and we will keep receiving the message He's writing to us through you. You are a spiritual mother here my friend – and I am grateful to have been ministered to by you.

    • Leslie

      Thank You For sharing! God Bless You! And your friend and the girls she is trying to help! You are right, first…things these days are much worse….but those of us who have walked through the fire are better equipped to help those going through it!
      But by the grace of God.

  • For the first time I didn’t feel able to join in with #shessharestruth today as I couldn’t think of anyone to write about- so thankful for those who have already shared but are in the same situation! Your words are very encouraging!

  • jordynbrazil

    Journeying through Titus with you all has been both rewarding and convicting. I am oh so excited to start Ruth soon!
    In the mean time, praying that God would soften our hearts and prepare them to receive His Truth!

    Thank you all for this amazing community!

    • Kaitlin

      Hi Jordyn,
      We've loved having you in this study and can't wait for you to join us for Ruth! Praying alongside you, sister!

      xo-Kaitlin for She Reads Truth

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