1 Peter: Day

Our testimony to persecution

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Today's Text: 1 Peter 3:8-12, James 3:9, John 16:33

Text: 1 Peter 3:8-12, James 3:9, John 16:33

As you read this, you’re on some sort of device connecting you to thousands of other people. iPad, phone, computer; whatever it is, you’ve likely used it for more than simply reading. Millions of us talk, to share, and to pour out our feelings online.

Some use this to hurt.

Often referred to online as “trolls”, these are people who leave vicious, brutal comments on other’s writings and postings. Sometimes we have no idea who they are. Sometimes we do. In either case, it causes most of us to immediately put up our defenses. We don’t like to be accused, maligned, or misunderstood. We want it corrected – NOW.

It’s the next step though, that shows us and others watching how mature we are in Christ. On a scale of 1-10 in Christian maturity (Jesus being an 11) I’m probably a 1.5. I have a very, very hard time keeping my fingers from typing every angry, sarcastic, vengeful thought that crosses my mind as I read words directed at me.

“With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness.” (James 3:9, NIV)

Peter writes, “Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing.”

This theme of grace is repeated in the Bible in so many ways. Turning the other cheek. Love your neighbor. Yet, it’s so hard to obey, because it brings up quick emotion and reaction.

Instead of instant rage – we should turn to instant prayer. Who better understands betrayal, hurt, angry words, and vile acts upon Him that did no wrong – ever – than Jesus? He has been there.

Sisters, as we interact with each other online and in person, remember we represent Christianity not only in lovely writing and words, but in our reactions to how others respond. Christ never promised that you wouldn’t receive backlash from others. He commands us to do the opposite.

Stop.
Breathe.
Pray.
Pour it out to the Lord.
Tell Him how much it hurts.

Then wait for a response.

Above all, remember; if Christ Himself couldn’t escape persecution on earth, who are we to think we should?

“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33, ESV) 

  • T Thomas

    I would get cut out with the but
    Then wait for a response
    Heard you loud and clear Lord
    Don’t just stop at the pouring out
    But you can’t skip the waiting
    Pay them back with a blessing

  • T Thomas

    Stop, Breathe, Pray
    Pour it out to the Lord
    Tell Him how much it HURTS

    Trials and tribulations I’m going to be obedient and do just what it says above for after reading this I am hurting and so close to Father’s Day when I should be focused on positive things I amin a major battle in my flesh and spirit over a family matter and instead of paying it back with a blessing I have been silent to them stopped communication but I have been pouring into my husband and my mother which through this trial I have poured my hurt into them Like Tami mentioned I called my mom this week bawling over the matter I didn’t return any wrath or unkind speech because I’m also an introvert and avpid conflicts and confrontations but I

  • This reminds me of a situation I was in a few years ago. I worked with a lady who I had problems with. I would let my anger get to bad, I would just complain to friends and hated going to work. One Sunday, my pastor spoke on this topic and I went home and prayed for her, for the situation and for forgiveness. The next day at work, WOW! It was such a whole new experience. She was kind, I felt so light hearted. Prayer does amazing things. Letting go and giving it to God. He knows how to handle all situations.

  • Thanks to all of you SRT sisters and all the wonderful insights you ALWAYS share. Looking for wisdom on whether or not to respond and if so how to respond when my older children (18 and 20) are disrespectful, and it use that 'tone' in their voice. They are good kids. I have tried to enlist the help of my husband as I feel that if it goes unchecked/challenged by him they just continue. I feel that they need to hear it from dad. I would live to hear your thoughts.

    • Candacejo

      Tammy, just commenting in generalities as I am 1. no expert and 2. I do not know your family situation

      No matter their age your children should never be allowed to disrespect you or your husband. I think you have every right to speak up and and tell them that will not be tolerated. As long as you don't say anything they will continue to do it. Scriptures like "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right." Ephesians 6:1 wouldn't do any harm. Or if you really want to put the fear of God in them you might pull this one out:

      "The eye that mocks a father and scorns to obey a mother will be picked out by the ravens of the valley and eaten by the vultures." Proverbs 30:17!!! LOL!!

      Sorry, I couldn't resist :) But I would definitely talk to your husband and tell him how you feel that you want him to back you up on this. It is important that they know that just because they are "adults" that they can't run over you now and talk down to you.

      I will pray for you sister, I raised three sons who were all taller and bigger than I was but the rule was as long as you lived in my home you abide by my rules…no disrespect allowed ♥ Blessings!

      • Tammy

        I have said as much, and if I dare quote scripture my son says I am being 'holier than thou'. So we all know its wrong, but how do you enforce it at this point? It's not a new behavior and I think my husband tends to not notice it like I do and also has a hard time calling them on it. I daily pray that God would help my husband be the spiritual leader. Neither of us grew up with a father figure in the home, weren't raised as Christians, and so didn't have that example.

  • Elizabeth

    I am late to the comments, but I just wanted to throw in that I love, love, LOVE "take heart, I have overcome the world." There is something about that verse that has always completed rocked me to the core. I love it.

  • Instead of instant rage – we should turn to instant prayer. Who better understands betrayal, hurt, angry words, and vile acts upon Him that did no wrong – ever – than Jesus? He has been there.

    I am having my own personal struggles following an abusive childhood, I had begun therapy a year ago, I am currently unsure as to whether to continue as I feel I am not moving forward rather running in circles and just opening pain every week I attend. I got up this morning and was having my usual chat with my Heavenly Father as I was getting showered, I asked him what was I going to do, how do I move forward, how do I conduct myself in the company of my stepfamily etc….
    I came downstairs, opened today's devotion and I instantly knew God was giving me answers. I then read the bible readings and again knew there was a message for me, I listened to a Nick Vijucic podcast last night and the readings mentioned were James 3:5-6 & John 16:33.
    I am growing in Christ following my confirmation last year and returning to Christ just over a year ago. I feel the more time I spend in scripture and fellowship the more I am hearing.
    Thank you for these SRT devotions x

  • Carolynmimi

    The words formed on the tip of the tongue
    The retort typed with "Send" under my thumb
    No question, your words have hurt me
    No excuse for the words you have said
    No reason on earth I shouldn't press "send"
    But plenty of reasons in heaven.

    And so I stop, breathe, pause for a moment
    Breathe, Pray, Exhale all the torment
    Breathe, Wait, Inhale God's blessing
    The urge to rebuke is now lessening
    As I stop, breathe and choose not to "send."

    For this is the message from heaven
    To use words to bless and not curse
    Even when others don't get the message
    Even, when they choose to curse
    For this brings us closer to heaven
    And brings heaven closer to earth.

    And so I stop, breathe, pause for a moment
    Breathe, Pray, Exhale all the torment
    Breathe, Wait, Inhale God's blessing
    The urge to rebuke is now lessening
    As I stop, breathe and choose not to "send."

  • Jeniffer Smith

    Oh man, I have needed this. The gut reaction is to insult, to pay back what was dished out. But how much better is it when we bless with our words instead of hurt? How much better when we love and give grace? I think these words will be added to our walls soon. They are desperately needed!

  • Admittedly, I have a problem controlling my tongue! Yesterday I was complaining to a colleague about something that I shouldn’t. I often times bless others and cut them down in the same breath! Lord I pray that I continue to submit to your will and that I control my tongue and my speech and use it to bless others, not hurt them.

  • tabithahannasmith

    Today's passage reminded me, once again, that God calls us to a higher standard of love and holiness than we would ever naturally aspire to. Not only are we told not to repay evil with evil, and resist the urge to 'give as good as we get', but he tells us to BLESS those who revile us. Now that's really tough!

    We can't do it in our own strength, just gritting our teeth or trying really hard, or beating ourselves up when we fail again.
    The only way we can show genuine love in the face of distinct un-love is to fix our eyes on Jesus, 'the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.' (Hebrews 12:2).
    We've been called to follow his example and he's not left us alone to try to achieve this. The Holy Spirit dwells with each one of us to help us do what would be impossible to do otherwise.

    When I think about the weight of all my sin, laid on Jesus on the cross, and the extent to which he had to suffer to bring me back to God (whilst I was still his enemy!), how can I possibly claim the right to seek revenge on another human being? We were all utterly lost. And it's only by his grace that I can stand at all.
    Thank you Jesus!

  • ambrosia18

    This is something I am dealing with myself as of late. This time I was able to take time to analyze the situation, breathe, and pray. I spent three days angry because of it and wanted so many times to post a response back but instead I got away from the computer for a while to re-focus and ask God for me to see reasoning in this position. Before I would get heated quickly and response in anger and it can be vicious sometimes because I felt like I was being pushed into a corner by people who wouldn't see my side of things but make assumptions on my actions. It's frustrating at times but lately I am slow to speak. James chapter three is normally the one I flock to when I am going really difficult things in life and need a reminder that many have been through the same before and God is still patient and welling to help. I really enjoyed today's lesson because it's something we all face from day to day and can become difficult to avoid if you are the target. It just reminds me more that God knows us and how we react and therefore we should trust Him in any and all situations because He knows the truth and can calm us. THANK YOU!!!

  • Love this…
    Stop.
    Breathe.
    Pray.
    Pour it out to the Lord.
    Tell Him how much it hurts.

    Then wait for a response.

    Was being a shoulder for my daughter the other day and this was basically all I could say to her as a mother. Couldn't fix what was broken, but know God can. I'll be sharing this with others today. Perfectly said!

  • This one really hits home for me. I dealth with an ugly divorce about 4 years ago. I left because of verbal and emotional abuse. Well, the verbal abuse continued throughout the divorce. He would write me ugly emails and send me ugly texts. I wanted to retaliate, because I did not derserve that. At the time I also became extremely close to God. I leaned on God like never before, trusted God and during that time I had a lot of "Ah-A" moments. Each time I received something ugly from my soon to be ex I would take a couple of hours to collect myself, pray, and just breathe before I responded. I never once responded ugly back to him.
    It was hard to do….VERY HARD, but it paid off. Today we are friends, we respect each other and he has not been ugly to me in a long time. My ex has even told me that he is proud of the woman I have become and believes that my grandmother (she was very religious) would be proud of me. He can see how my love for God has grown and he saw it in my actions!! Needless to say that conversation my ex had with me was one that made me feel good. I believe he saw Christ through me.

  • monique(forgiven)

    Its so easy for us to speak negative about someone or insult them because they have wronged us or have taken advantage of us. But because of Jesus we are able to submit and be humble. Sometimes it hurts so bad when people hurt us with there words. But just when I want to retaliate the lord shows me Himself and what He has done on the cross. I also think of stephen in acts who was stoned to death for preaching the truth, abd he had true forgiveness in heart. Lord help us to decrease and allow your Holy Spirit to increase in us all. Speaking from my own personal experience the harsh words of others had almost broken me and I was gonna leave the Lord. But Jesus pulled me back just in time through the prayers of my SRT sisters. Let’s bless others with our mouths at all times even when we feel they don’t deserve it. Because Jesus has blessed us with a hope of eternal salvation and we don’t deserve it either. God bless you all.

  • jesusgirl71

    Ouch! Man this hit me where I live today, and right after something happened. I felt so justified in just having some fun, but man, god didn't take long to show me it wasn't right. I have a coworker who is blind just like I am (most of us are because the company i work for makes products for people who are blind). He doesn't have the tech skills the rest of us do, but he's here mostly because of family connections. so, he is quick to ask for my help when it comes to customers he has trouble handling problems for, but he is also quick to criticize me because I may not be as independent as he thinks I should be. for example, the other day, knowing that I just don't choose to do a lot of cooking, that my husband loves to do so so I let him, especially since he stays home and I work, he decided to send me a recipe telling me it would be easy if I wanted to try it. I totally resented it. it felt like he was saying I wasn't good enough just because I chose not to cook. today, I had a chance to have some fun at his expense. so I did. thought how cool i was for "getting him back" being sarcastic. Even called my husband up to brag. man did this hit me, sisters!

    • eradical84 (EllenMR)

      But don't be too hard on yourself! We ARE human after all and I'd be willing to bet this isn't your normal behavior Jesusgirl. Ask for forgiveness and stay away from such conflict in the future. And who cares what this coworker thinks about YOUR marriage/situation? It's none of his business! It's between you, your husband, and God.
      Praying for you, Sweet Sister! :)

  • What a tough lesson today!

    I recently had some conflict in my family via email that resulted in me learning this lesson the hard way.While no one was necessarily attacking me because of my testimony, I did feel personally attacked. It was difficult not to retaliate back in a nasty email. Still I didn’t send a nasty reply and I’m glad.

    Today when I read verse 10 in particular this situation came to mind again. I realized that not fighting back is hard but feels doable. Trying to BLESS that person though? I need serious help from God to even WANT to do that. I guess I’d rather just ignore them. I’m praying today for God’s help in this situation.

    • Candacejo

      You DIDN'T send it Erin :) and you ARE praying for God's help…He WILL help you!! Your heart is tender and you are sensitive to the conviction of the Lord and His voice. That is what it is all about in growing closer in your relationship with Him. I loved what you said, "I realized that NOT fighting back is HARD but feels DOABLE." Exactly! Doesn't mean it is easy but with God's help you can do it.

      Press on, sister, press on. :)

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    This mornings devo and comments reminded me of a very humbling day when I walked into my then 15 year old daughter's bathroom to find this written on her mirror…

    Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger. James 1:19

    I have never removed it from her mirror and she is 21 now!

    I should probably write it on my mirror too!

    Much Grace Ladies

  • This is so relevant to this season of my life. I've just broken up with someone I was with for two long years about 4 months ago, and he just started dating someone new. Although I know that he doesn't want to hurt me, him dating someone new has hurt me, and whenever I think about the situation, I'm filled with disdain and anger for him and his new girlfriend. I have to ask the Lord daily to help me to "forgive" him for the hurt (forgiveness in this context is more along the lines of having compassion and letting go) while also helping me to forgive the things that he did in the relationship (which I have, for the most part, let go of). It is hard not to bash his new girlfriend or to belittle who he is, but that is not the way God wants me to live- chained to anger, bitterness, and hurt for whatever happened. I've been stopping, breathing, praying, and being real with God whenever I feel this anger; the pain hasn't gone away, nor has the situation, but in my weakness Christ is made strong, and I am filled with peace.
    I type really long comments, I know, but I'm both really wordy and really open with my life experiences- I love sharing these things, and I love hearing from all of you as well. Thank you for reading these novel-like comments every day!
    Have a blessed day, ladies. :)

  • Madeline C.

    How guilty am I of this! I’m not one for confrontation, but I am one for thinking negatively and coming up with cutting comments in my mind. It’s not worth it! Most of the people who say rude things don’t even realize how much it bothers me. Thank you everyone for sharing all these verses. I am praying that they will stay on my heart so I can practice love more.

    • tanirose

      and then…..i do just like my 4lb attack dog…i bark and bark and bark..in my head… so understand

  • Charmaine

    Good devotion and reminder to me that I don’t always have to say what’s on my mind.

    Well ladies I would like to ask for your prayers as I found out some not so good news yesterday from one of my many doctors. I know that God is in control and that he has this thing. I would just really appreciate some prayers for strength as I go through this process and more testing.

    I will share with you when a final diagnosis has been made but for now I just want to keep it private until I know for sure. So please pray that Gods will be done in my life. Although its not always an easy place to be it sure is the BEST place to be! And that he gives me the strength to go through this thing.

    I give him all the Glory and Honor for finding me worthy to be call His Child.

    Thank you all so much in abvance!!

    • Ibukun

      When I come on here to read comments and sometimes skim through the whole lot, I forget that all these names belong to women that are dealing with REAL LIFE where they are. I just added you to my prayer request list. Praying for strength for you. Take heart, be of good cheer, though you may have many troubles, our King has overcome the world. Love you

    • jesusgirl71

      Praying for you, charmaine

    • Sue:)

      Praying that God's strength will lift you as you navigate this season. May you dwell in the shelter beneath his wings. In Jesus name. Amen

    • Brandi

      Praying an awesome peace for you throughout! God is so good! You are wonderfully and fearfully made!

    • eradical84 (EllenMR)

      Praying His arms are wrapped around you, protecting you and bringing peace during this time Charmaine <3

    • Candacejo

      Haven't forgotten about you Charmaine!! In Jesus' name!

  • Ladies, first thank you for your prayers yesterday, I could feel them working! This study has been absolutely amazing! Every day I feel like there's a glowing light inside me, like excited butterflies. SRT has been such a great community!!

  • Catherine

    Proverbs 18:21 "The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit."
    Psalm 19:14 "May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer."

    These two passages have been good for me to remember. I will now also be adding forbearance to my list to remember. After all, if I am to be Christ-like, I must! God has certainly showed forbearance towards me! This goes hand in hand with forgiveness.

    I have dealt with vicious, hurtful insults from my former husband for many, many years. Even though we have now been apart for 10 years, he still knows how to go for the jugular, swiftly and deeply. I have learned to decide how I will respond (not react) ahead of the incident. Although they happen more infrequently, they still carry the same level of hurt that they did all those years ago. When I don't respond negatively, it diffuses the situation and when I defend myself it is like throwing fuel on the fire. You cannot argue with someone who doesn't argue back. He has been a huge lesson in forgiveness and mercy and praying for my enemy. These insults hurt to my core, I retreat, cry, and lay them at the foot of the cross. I receive God's peace and remember who I am. I am His child. God loves me. He has good plans for me. He wants to pour His blessings out on me. I have to be obedient, "kind, tender hearted and forgiving" (Eph 4:32)

  • I love the practical applications of today's devotional. 1st, "For the Scriptures say, “If you want to enjoy life and see many happy days, keep your tongue from speaking evil and your lips from telling lies. Turn away from evil and do good. Search for peace, and work to maintain it. The eyes of the Lord watch over those who do right, and his ears are open to their prayers. But the Lord turns his face against those who do evil.” (1 Peter 3:10-12 NLT) — 2nd, "Stop. Breathe. Pray. Pour it out to The Lord. Tell Him how much it hurts."

    It's not easy at all, but it is simple (uncomplicated).

    Have a great day!

  • Candacejo

    Wonderful comments this morning! Wonderful lesson! These scriptures that came to my mind:

    "Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer." Psalm 19:14

    Who hasn't prayed THAT when they have wanted to say something they shouldn't?!

    I also pray this one every day (that I remember) "Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips." Psalm 141:3

    I, too, HATE confrontation and avoid it at all cost but boy, oh boy, will I unload on the hubby and make him listen to everything I wanted to tell that other person! Well that's not sinning! LOL! I can get so worked up sometimes he will look at me and say, " Calm down girl, calm down…" And then I realize I have crossed that line and might as well have told them to their face, their ears are probably burning anyway. :(

    Stop. Breathe. Pray. Wait. Yes Lord.

  • Great devotion today…. here is another scripture, which is not easy but believe me it works (of course it works, it's the Word).

    19Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. 20On the contrary:
    “If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
    if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
    In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”
    21Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:19-21 NIV

  • This was so good today, and convicting. It's easy to feel justified in thinking or talking negatively when someone has hurt me or anyone in my family. It's much harder to take every thought and word captive, give up the negativity, and respond with kindness. Bur, oh, it's so much better when we do! I love what Julia said – pause, stop, and pray. Praying for all of you today who are struggling with this at work. I'm at home now in this season of my life, but I've been there and it's challenging – so my prayers are with you.

  • [email protected]+Grace

    I was so convicted by James 3:9, "With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God." How true it is that when we do speak harsh and mean things to other people, we are cursing something that was created in the very image of God Himself. Sobering thought!

    This also makes me think of a verse earlier in James {1:26} that says, "If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person's religion is worthless." Wow! If I think that I'm a "good Christian", yet I don't do my best effort to control the words that come out of my mouth, then I am fooling myself and I'm really not a "good Christian" at all.

    May we all, definitely including myself on this one, strive to use the Holy Spirit as our "filter"; praying about what we say before we say it… or type it.

  • rocknitat55

    What a timely message. I believe that God never leaves us empty, he is constantly filling our cup with what you have need of. I had just had a conversation with my mentor and my former boss who have encouraged me to write, but especially to create a Blog. For the very reasons pointed out in this devotion I have refrained. And although I have a Facebook page I may go there twice a week. I have never been a fan of the internet, it is a necessary evil (lol). The times they have changed. I am always amazed at the mean and ungodly comments that I’ve often read. Wow, the aweful things that people will say when they don’t show there faces, when they don’t have to own it. I call them cowards, glad to know the correct definition; ‘trolls’.

    SRT is really the 1st online community that I actively participate in. I so look forward to it.

    Forbearance, tolorance, grace, peace… these are gifts we can extend to others and they can become a place of refuge for us. God knows we can barely control ourselves let alone control someone else.

    The Bible tells us that a soft word turns away wrath. Jesus wasn’t kidding. You can’t fuss all by yourself. Although I do believe that people who write mean, inflamatory, comments are sometimes guided by a different standard. They too would stop if no one read or responded.

    I was reading another devotion this morning and it was talking about concentrating on a Godly outcome regardless of the circumstances, what’s said or done.

    I was taught that its not what you say but the way its conveyed. Jesus admonishes us to do and say all things in love. Ladies let us respect each other and our Truiths, everyone’s journey is different,levels in Christ are different. But we have a common denominator. The love of Christ.

    I’m not saying that its an easy thing to do… but practice, practice, trial, error, practice makes perfect

    How about a 21 day love challange directed on that situation that has you gasping for air, pulling out your hair, and threathing to leave the human race. I’d love to hear your testimonies. Jesus heals

    all things! Ladies have a wonderful Wednesday!

    • Ibukun

      The 21 day challenge sounds like a wonderful idea. I’m totally considering it at this point. I’m especially glad you’re active on SRT. The insights you share on here are invaluable.

  • Wow, this is so good for the season of life I’m in right now! Lately my job has been really difficult and it is becoming increasingly harder to get along with my boss. I find that on the days when I spend the most time complaining with my coworkers, the rest of my day (and sometimes even my week) is shot! I am already in a bad mood when I come home, I’m not very kind to my husband, and I go to bed in a pouty and defeated mood. Gross! Get all of that outta here!! This passage is clear-don’t use your tongue to sow all these horrible words and expect you won’t reap some negative consequences. It’s only logical, and I’m thankful that The Lord is gracious enough to point it out to me so I can pray for help to change my ways.

    For “Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit; (1 Peter 3:10 ESV)

    Who doesn’t want to love life?? I think the scripture is clear, keep your mouth, mind, heart, etc from speaking things that hurt, and there are blessings in store for you.

    Also, another thing I think we should note here is that it is important not only to speak kindly about others, but ourselves also! Verse 11 says “let him seek peace and pursue it”, seek peace for yourselves! Don’t be too negative about how you look, what your clothes are like, how your hair looks today, etc, as Paul already mentioned these things are not nearly as important as our gentle and quiet spirit!

    Okay sorry I know this post is so long but I’ve got a lot going on in my heart and wanted to share! Sometimes it ministers to me the most just by typing it all up and sending it out into cyber space :) so thankful for SRT!

    • rocknitat55

      Hey kellie
      My posts are long to. Thank u for sharing.
      Thanks for the scripture. I printed it out and put it on my bathroom mirror.
      Practice! Practice! Lol

    • jesusgirl71

      Kelly, yes this is it. With this customer I mentioned in the previous reply, I started complaining to another co-worker about the situation. oh yeah, like that helped, huh? And then I started putting myself down, like why should i ask for god's forgiveness? i screwed up and deserve some defeat and punishment for a while. yet I know that is a lie from the devil, so what you said about thinking well of ourselves, I needed that too.

  • I'm the same as Becks, an introvert, so I don't lash out with my tongue, but with my thoughts. And then, since I keep the thoughts to myself, I rehearse the situation over and over. I realize this is hurting me and not the other person, so I then berate myself for lack of confidence to shake off the comment. What a wonderful reminder, stop being in my mind, but go into prayer and God's word and trust and obey. Hope you all have a quiet peaceful day!

  • I love it "Christ couldn't escape persecution who are we that we are should? What a great reminder. I definitely needed this mornings devo! I'm not sure whats up with me but lately the littlest things set me off. Well not always little things, but I really haven't been one to get angry and frustrated by things and now everything seems to make me mad. I keep thinking another thing that's changing with this age of mine…LOL. Guess I better stop, breath and pray a little more in each circumstance! THANK YOU for this wonderful reminder! Hope all have a WONDERFUL stress free day and if not stress free a peaceful one that the Lord wants for us.

    • jesusgirl71

      Oh Suebee, this is me today. Everything is setting me off. Just had a conflict with a customer who thought our job was something it's not. and I'm having trouble getting over it. praying, praying, praying. know I didn't handle the situation as well as I could have.

  • This has been so hard for me at work lately – with one coworker in particular. Although, while I don't necessarily lash out AT her, the thoughts and retaliations going through my head are something to definitely be ashamed of. I think it's important to not only try to curb our tongues, but our internal voice as well. I'm an introvert, and I don't like conflict or confrontation, but the thoughts inside my head are sharper than any double edged sword. I definitely need to turn to prayer instead of rage…thanks Diana for this great message this morning, and to all my Sisters – have a blessed day!

    • AnnaLee

      I am completely the same way! A week or so ago, I was reminded while driving of a wrong done by an old friend of mine, as well as one done by my ex. I started thinking about all the ways I could retaliate if the situation ever came up, and I started practicing whatever hurtful words I could spew out for a time when "I may need to" if they decided to hurt me again.
      This only made me realize how truly broken I was, and of how much I was in need of the capability to forgive them with compassion. Forgiving even the worst of hurts may feel unfair, but it frees you of the anger that causes hurtful thoughts and actions towards those people.

    • Pam

      VERY true!!!! I am not confrontational either so although it is still hard sometimes not to say anything back I seem to be able to handle it ok. It is my inner thoughts that I need to work on as well.

  • "Instead of instant rage -we should turn to instant prayer." It can be so difficult to deal with "quick emotion + reaction", as Diana mentioned. A great reminder to pause, breathe, and pray. I'm praying for all of us girls, that we may have the strength and wisdom to do just that, PRAY for those who lash out at us.

  • amykelly213

    What a timely message for me! And God has also been sharing these truths with me in my study of Proverbs!! My hubby and I are facing these "trolls" (hahaha) within our own family. Our (especially Hubby's) initial reaction has been to give it right back… But God has been showing us His way. This devotion today just solidifies it!! And, Ibukun, your comments on forbearance have been especially helpful! Thank you!
    God bless you all, sisters!! Have a great day!!

  • Stephanie

    This is so very true. Our mouths run wild once someone gets us going. What will it take to remind ourselves that Christ was insulted (far beyond we could ever handle) and not once retaliated. He humbly submitted to the will of God and remained meek and submissive.

    Father God, these walls that we've built up Lord, of pride, of arrogance, of retaliation… Lord, Break them. All. Let us take note of the words that we speak, let us remember that we are after You, not after this world. What others say to us may hurt us, but Lord, You are greater than those words, You are more powerful. God, we need You… so bad. As I read through this study I am more hurt by my heart condition seeing how it's so far from You. Bring me back God, I need You.
    In Jesus Name,
    Amen.

  • This whole thing about how i use my tongue is a tough one for me. I so relate to James 3:8 that says no one can tame the tongue, it is restless and full o evil. That would be mine.

    I felt once again convicted about how i react to my colleagues at work. Just yesterday i responded negatively to insult. I did not speak blessing. That is so hard! I really feel that i am in a season of deep heart cleaning right now. I keep asking God to show me the roots inmy heart where the evil thoughts and words are coming from. He is faithful and is helping me uproot them and clean them out. There is still more work to do.

    This sunday at church part of the sermon was about whether we use our tongue to speak death or life to others. I pray for strength each day through the Holy Spirit to speak life. Right now I am failing at this each day. I just am so thankful for a loving, gracious and tenacious God!

  • The amazing thing is I was writing about this same thing yesterday! Forbearance is what we are talking about here. And forbearance means tolerance and self restraint in the face of (obvious) provocation. Forbearance means that we choose to let it go when someone says something hurtful to us. Forbearance, in legal terms, means writing off a debt/letting your debtor go off the hook! Now when someone says something or does something hurtful to us, our natural instinct is to want to get our own pound of flesh right back. But the God that we belong to invites us to forbear. I love what Jamieson, Fausset and Brown’s Bible commentary had to say about Matthew 5:39 where Jesus taught about vengeance and turning the other cheek. It says “But I say unto you, that ye resist not evil; but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also — Our Lord’s own meek yet dignified bearing when smitten rudely on the cheek (John 18:22) and not literally presenting the other, is the preparedness after one indignity not to invite, but submit meekly to another, without retaliation, which this strong language is meant to convey”

    Which for me means that I don’t call down VENGEANCE from heaven in God’s name against the person that hurt me when I pray. It means that I choose to take that insult, that indignity meekly without any form of retaliation.

    I’ve gone off an written a chapter here already (lol)

    I hope this blesses someone.

    • Melinda

      Forbearnce is a great word. Thanks or this further study and insight Ibukun

    • rocknitat55

      Thank u for this teaching. Blessings!

    • Lisa

      excellent wording "do not pray vengance" really highlights the point of the message Peter is writing! Thank you!

    • tanirose

      what a great word!!! so, forbearance is kinda the worlds 'legal' term for forgivenss. no matter what you call it..IT IS TOUGH!!!
      God is so 'funny' sometimes…it seems like when HE decide sit is time for me to work on something..He gives me LOTS of opportunity to work on 'it'. i think that 2013 is my year to work on forbearance. I say year because honestly it took 5 out of the current 6 months to figure out what His goal was with the trials and tribulations (that He PROMISED would come) of this current year. prayers for all my sistas in the same lesson plan i am in!!

    • anngoerz

      It did bless me, thank you!!!!:)

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