Soul Detox 2013: Day

Day 8


Today's Text: Proverbs 12:11-23; Proverbs 18:21

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  • krystina_lolli

    Toxic words in my life are lies that I believe. I must reprogram and believe the truth.

  • Ladies… today's devotional hits home on some many mili-levels of my life as we speak! Your words, your struggles, your thoughts, your love for Christ and for the sisters around you here is abundant! I am so thankful to be able to come here, to see these thoughts of yours, these praises of yours, these struggles of yours and completely fall into the grace of God with you during this time! God is moving among us and this is truly a time for us to throw on the Armour of Christ and face this spiritual battle head on, day in and day out. So thankful for this today…

  • This by far has spoken to me the most from the past week of devotionals. I am very guilty of often speaking without thinking. I have hurt many do to this, and my prayer is that I become quick to listen and slow to speak so I am not the cause of toxic thoughts to others.

  • Proverbs 18:21 "words kill, words give life; they're either poison or fruit — you choose". As someone who has struggled with perfectionism, food issues, body issues, dieting…this hits home. As a woman navigating a relationship, it was a VERY good reminder of the words I use towards those I love. I love this, because it's so to.the.point…but so true. We have to listen to our relationship with God, the words we use to encourage ourselves and those around us. If we aren't so positive with those..why is that? I love this verse, it will be with me forever and it's such a perspective cleanser.

  • So…how does someone who has been hurt by toxic words keep from hurting others? It is said that “hurt people hurt people”.

    I just completed a ministry training where the phrase “honor the individual” was used. Treating others the way you desire to be treated is always the way to go. This coupled with allowing God’s Word to renew our mind is a good place to start.

  • Ellen MR

    Jesusgirl71, I LOVE how you keep it so real in your posts! We all have things to work on, and you are always a bright light for me, being truthful and putting it out there! Not everyone has the courage to be so forthright. And I’m so glad you have what seems to be a fulfilled life- work, husband, a child (I think) and continue to be a work in progress- as we all are!! I’m just sorry your father was so unkind. I’m proud to call you sister and I’d be proud to call you daughter!
    Praying for you,
    Ellen MR

    • jesusgirl71

      thank you so much! I appreciate your words. they really mean a lot. no i do not have a child, because I cannot, part of what caused my blindness, but I have my husband and my job and music ministry at church.

  • jesusgirl71

    the verse that really spoke to me is this: 12:16: Fools show their annoyance at once, but the prudent overlook an insult. (NIV)

    How often I do this! I have spoken toxic words more than I'd like to admit. trying to get better at this.

  • Oh boy, did I need this scripture today. Why is it that I still haven’t learned to guard my tongue? Yesturday I was in a situation where I knew I could reflect God’s love or complain…and what did I do? Complain…I am such a work in progress!
    Lord, forgive me that I did not stop to think and use your wisdom before letting my toxic words flow. Forgive me for not letting your beautiful light be the beacon for my family, who I so greatly want to follow you. Amen

  • Toxic thoughts, words, actions.. I'm guilty of all of these.. I'm still guilty! I can recall last week speaking about someone I don't like, using words that cut her down, but WOW what an eye opener. Though she's been negative to me, I shouldn't be to her, I should pray and love on her and make sure she knows that despite it all she is LOVED! But I keep thinking to be kind to those who prosecute, be kind to myself, look at the Word for the absolute truth and rejoice in all of this. God knew I needed this proverb, He knows I'm still bringing death with my tongue and I need to stop.. Thank you for doing this study!!!

  • Ellen MR

    I just commented yesterday about “little white lies” and here it is today, v.22!! Not wanting to disappoint, or offend I’m a total people pleaser! Do I think the sky will fall if I just say No?? Whether to my kids or others? Something needs to change…
    I really like your post today, EMILY C! You are so right, and I like your prayer. I think I should put it to good use! :)
    MrsMess thank you for your encouragement!! We all need as much as we can get in a toxic world!
    Praying for all of the SRT Ladies, for strength and believing you are worthy! After all, HE chose you, didn’t HE??
    Have a blessed day! :)

  • Christie

    I too relate to some of the posts here about having toxic thoughts about myself and my insecurities. I find myself speaking these words over my life a lot! Some days it feels like it takes so much effort to stand up against these thoughts because there are so many and they come so fast! Since doing this study I have tried to be more alert about my thoughts and, man, do I need help! I have been encouraged by you guys to recall scripture when I am faced with these struggles. It helps! Trying to stop those old "tapes".

    I was thinking this morning about the words that make me feel happy and joyful – the feeling that my whole body seems to have – life! In contrast, the toxic words are like boulders weighing down my spirit.

  • Prov 18:21 in conjunction with a message from church this Sunday told me without doubt what God has been laying on my heart and where I need to work hardest. Being raised by a mom who was rather critical and that being my norm in life, I often find that way creep into my own life although I ‘cast’ it out long ago. I must work on staying focused on uplifting words saying good things even maybe when I don’t believe them fully so that I may grow to believe them and change the ways of my thoughts. I struggle in this area with my husband, he is my ‘pin cushion’ and I know that it has affected him over the years.

    • jesusgirl71

      I do the same thing with my husband. He'll say something negative about someone and I'll get into lecture mode, or like today, he was worried about something and I'm like let's not go there. sometimes, i am just not as understanding as I should be.

  • Carley @OptimisticHealth

    For the past year I've been married God has taught me a lot in this area. He's been teaching me to be quiet instead of always having a solution or reaponse. It's always the comments I did say that end up getting me in trouble or how I said them instead of those I've thought through and prayed about. It's a constant work in progress but God is faithful in when we pray to Him he helps.

  • Ladies, I just want to encourage you! Having thoughts about being "less than" is straight up spiritual warfare from the enemy. God says in the Word that we are HIS! In Christ we are CHOSEN, we are LOVED, we are WANTED, we are PLANNED, we are NEEDED, and we are VICTORIOUS!! God loved us and wanted us so much that He bought and paid for us with the blood of His son. we are HIS, and we are SPECIAL. Ladies, don't let others words or what they may think of you determine how you think of yourself!

    1 Peter 2:9
    But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His wonderful light.

    • Christie

      Thank you for the encouragement! I love the verse you included – especially the part about being called out of darkness. It's interesting how God's words really do just that!

  • Autumn Dawn Leader

    This is an area I constantly struggle in, but which I am determined, with God’s help, to get victory in. It’s the lies I speak to myself over my life – a lot of hopelessness and despair. Toxic thoughts and words rob me of my joy and ability to enjoy life, and I want to enjoy – not just endure – life.

    • Karina

      Thank you for sharing. I find the same outcomes. It is actually physically exhausting to listen to hopeless and despairing thoughts.

  • lisabethjean

    ♪♫ "Oh be careful little mouth what you say…" ♫♪

    I've noticed that the more time my sons play video games, the more they converse like the characters they play — rude, immature, sometimes a little naughty… The more time you spend with somebody, the more you act & speak like that person (or group).

    Ahhhhhhh, I should spend more time immersed in the Love Letter from the One who loves & saved my soul. I should pass more hours on my knees conversing with Him — then, I would speak like He does to a hurting world.

    • Crystal

      That is very true, lisabethjean, you do tend to take on the traits of people you are around the most. Even when they are not always good. I've learned this over the past few years. Something to be conscience of and always try to do better, to be His light and not harmful or hurtful.

  • How are toxic words infecting your life right now? Toxic thoughts are robbing me of time. My life is but a breath and I'm choosing to spend it mulling over things I would say if given the chance, or things that I wish would happen to others, etc. instead of thinking about God and how I can be a better reflection of Him. I'm not thinking of how I can speak truth and words of love and life-giving. I rob myself of time, I rob others of love, and I prevent myself from being open to the Lord's commands.

    What really stood out to me in the reading was verse 16. If I'm wronged, I'm unhappy and I want people to know it right away. I want that instant "look at what they did to me, and how it is affecting me" feeling. It's almost like a drug- that attention. But, there's something to be admired for those who are wronged and go about their lives, forgiving, loving and speaking life into others instead.

    I've struggled with bitterness since grade school. Please pray for me that I would have the courage to let go, because God is the just and righteous judge- not me. I can leave that to Him. In a sense, I'm saying God isn't big enough to handle my hurts in His own way and time. I'm not letting God's love fill the holes in my life where bitterness is festering. I want to be known as a woman who speaks life to people, not a woman who remembers her hurts.

    Praying for you all that you would begin to learn to speak truth and life to others when you feel the disease of toxicity beginning to take hold! God has given us freedom and power. Be a delight, be righteous! I encourage you as you're each learning about your own toxic ways and learning to overcome them! You are not alone, and God is our strong fortress of help! :)

  • I have a gift with words. I write well, have a very good vocabulary, enjoy word play, etc. however, by nature, I’m a judger. And while I can go on and on about the toxic words that have hurt me, I don’t often ponder how my words can harm others. I recently started a new job and have a direct report again. We are faced with a lot of challenges. I need to be prudent with my words not flip. The power if life and death is in the tongue. Amen. Please pray for me that The Lord would be Lord of my tongue and my judgmental thoughts as well.

  • The toxic words infecting my life right now…had to think on that one a bit. What came to mind was the atmosphere at my office. I’m relatively new there (7 months) and I genuinely like pretty much all of my co-workers but, boy, do they COMPLAIN a lot and make quite the judgmental comments. I’ve felt a call to be a positive example…not easy when the odds are stacked against me. But I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me and I need to be diligent about guarding my heart against the toxicity. And I need to start speaking words of life to counter the negativity. Good Word this morning! Blessings & prayers to you all today!

    • Christie

      I have been in an office like that! My heart goes out to you. Praying you'll be able rise above the complaining and drama and still keep your sense of humor :)

  • Love this morning's focus on the power of life-giving words. SO GOOD. What words are you believing and holding in your heart? Are they His truth? The Words of grace + love that He speaks over you each and every day? And what words are you speaking to others? Are your words life-giving? These are questions I'm asking myself this morning.

  • Today reminds me "the lord is my shepard I shall not want"…not sure why, but maybe I need to remember I don't need others approval because I am the lords! :) What a wonderful thought! I pray that my thoughts and words will be encouraging today to those around me.

    • Katie

      Amen! :) While I was reading in Proverbs this morning, another verse caught my eye, too: "The name of the LORD is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe." We can run to Him for freedom from all toxic thoughts. That reassures me like nothing else can.

  • As a teacher I often think of how my words affect my students. My prayer is that as I teach, redirect, model, and sometimes discipline these precious beings in my care, that I would choose my words wisely in a way that would build them up and not be toxic to them. Equally as important, that when I am mothering my own children, that I would continue to speak with kindness and not a harshness that is so easy to posses after a long day at work. Thank you God that your blessings are new every morning! Praying for a blessed week at school an home where I can be a light and not toxic!

    • Carrie

      I am a teacher too and I thought the same thing in today's reading! Words are so powerful and I try hard to guard what I say to my students! I hope they find me affirming and hope giving and that I do not crush them!

  • rocknitat55

    How fitting our devotion is today. Words! Words! Yesterday one of or ministers gave a short lesson on words. How powerful they are. What a lasting effect they can have in one’s life. He explored the old saying “stick n stones may break your bones but words can never hurt you.” This is a lie from the pit *#*. Sorry but let’s call it what its. The word of God tells us the power of life and death is held in the tongue.

    I must admit that most of the toxic thoughts I get are from things I heard as a kid/teenager.

    Never amounting to anything, what man would want you? You’re too fat, you’re not cool enough.

    The list could go on. Like Amykell213 as a result I became a people pleaser. I wanted you to like

    me. When I was n the world and when I became a Christian.

    I said became, not am. For I am changing. I am a work n progress. After awhile you become tired.

    People pleasers soon get tired. It becomes a never ending battle for you can’t please all of the

    people all of the time. Somebody is gonna be unhappy. It means you never really stand for anyone

    thing. It reminds me of the scripture about being double minded.

    I realize that I can’t do it in my own strength. But when I bombard my head and heart with the word of God who tells me who I am, and reminds me to whom I belong. Those words and voices of long ago are muffled.

    Lord, today and everyday I am who you say I am! I am wonderfully made. I am the head and not the tail. I am blessed to bless others. I will speak words of life into the lives of others. My words will speak life and not death. I will remember not the former things for God is doing a new thing in me. Amen

    Ladies stay encouraged,God bless u all.

    • jesusgirl71

      rockinet55, being blind, my father used to tell me growing up when I would spill food on my shirt that no man would want to take me to a restaurant and that one day, I would come to him and wonder why I couldn't find a man and he'd know the answer. never happened. my husband doesn't have full sight, but he has some and has never been embarrassed to take me to a restaurant. that has stuck with me though and it hurt.

  • I loved the reminder that our tongue can bring life or death. Words have power! Praying for all you ladies!

  • AmyKelly213

    How are toxic words infecting your life right now?
    I have to admit, I care what other people think about me way too much. I am a pleaser. If I think someone is mad at me or I think someone is talking about me, it tears me out of frame. Notice the key word here… If I THINK. Usually, the toxic thoughts are my own and they are directed at myself.
    As long as I am admitting, I don't have much of a sense of humor about myself. I mean, I can joke and laugh to lighten a mood… And I can even joke about myself. But when someone else jokes with me, even if I know they are playing around, I take it way too personally and begin to wonder way too much. Why did they say that? I know they're joking, but it had to come from somewhere! Thoughts like these are toxic, too.
    Lord, be with me and my sisters today. Help us stay clear of toxic thoughts and toxic words… Especially when they are coming from our mouths or minds. We are our own worse enemies and we need Your strength to pull us through the mire.
    Have a blessed day, my sisters!

    • Amie

      I think that’s so true of so many people – including ‘fools’ like me. I think its key when the proverb speaks of the ‘fruit’ of the wise. As I can see from your note – the fruit of the jokes is often worry, distress, insecurity. Not peace, love, joy, kindness, etc. I pray that these toxic thoughts depart from your mind this day!

    • Candacejo

      AmyKelly you said it all! Toxic words INFECT our lives! And like an IINFECTION, if we don't get treated with the Word we will only grow worse. We need to "think on these things – whatsoever things are true, honest, just, pure, lovely, of good report" instead of the toxic things that so easily invade our thought patterns.

      Thank you for the good thought!

    • jesusgirl71

      AmyKelly213, I am the same way. Definite people-pleaser here!

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